The Confrontation

@Ding05 (116)
July 28, 2021 1:15pm CST
The confrontation, but before that I should provide you a summary of what happen. So I caught my father hugging a girl in the grocery and I do not know what to do. Scared to ask because it might hurt my feelings so much if it true. Today, I gathered enough courage to confront him about it. And what I see is all true. he was saying sorry for what he does but I feel so numb to listen to what he says. He was crying asking for forgiveness but I still do not know what to do. So I decided to run into my room and cry. What should I do? or What is the right thing to do? If you were in my position what would you do?
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@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
29 Jul 21
Your father is in hot water. It's up to you.
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
i do not know what to do
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@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
29 Jul 21
@Ding05 keep it for yourself and talk to him personally.
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
@Nakitakona okay, I would do that thank you
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@florelway (23159)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Jul 21
He waa crying? Will he leave the girl? Or what does his crying mean. At least you had the courage to confront him. Now your father's next move is.beyond your control, you cannot force him to do things not to his liking. But for sure situation at home will be tensed. How about your mother?
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@florelway (23159)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
29 Jul 21
@Ding05 so he was enamored by the other woman. That's sad.
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
@florelway yes i guess
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
yes he was crying. Based on how he reacted I could see that he is not willing to change. He just wanted me to forgive him and should know that he is like that. I didn't told my mother about it, she might feel worst.
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• United States
28 Jul 21
I'm proud of your courage. I'm sure you are hurt and disappointed. You were very brave to confront your father. I would wait until you were calm before continuing a discussion with him. You are angry and hurt right now. Wait a short time to allow yourself to talk not out of anger, but out of love.
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• United States
29 Jul 21
@Ding05 Then it's best to do nothing right now. Wait until you DO know what to do. Think it out.
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
@Vikingswest1 Thank you so much! I would do it.
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
Thank you so much for understanding. I do not know what to do
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@Shiva49 (26245)
• Singapore
29 Jul 21
Forgive but ask him not to repeat the act.
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@Ding05 (116)
31 Jul 21
Yes, I am trying to forgive him . And give him another chance if he will prove that he would not do it again
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• Bosnia And Herzegovina
31 Jul 21
umm why is that a problem? is he married or?
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• Bosnia And Herzegovina
31 Jul 21
@Ding05 oh, i'm sorry to hear that. you should tell him to talk to your mom and see what to do next.
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@Ding05 (116)
31 Jul 21
He is married with my mom
@Ding05 (116)
31 Jul 21
@aureategloom I can't. I am afraid that she might get hurt
@FaruMesh (3508)
• India
28 Jul 21
It's a really hard situation.. If you think those tears are true you should give him a chance
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
There were true tears but I do not know if those tears can make him a better person
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@FaruMesh (3508)
• India
29 Jul 21
@Ding05 I think you should give him one more chance.. After all we are all humans, mistakes can happen.
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
@FaruMesh I will just calm my mind first then I would probably do that
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@kaylachan (58906)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Jul 21
I don't know what to tell you. A hug should not be a big deal. People should be able to freely have relationships of friendship with other people without being judged. It shouldn't mean they are cheeters, or anything you might be thinking.
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
It is not a big deal but he lied to me. I called him when he was there, I asked him if where is he and then he told me that he is in his friends house. telling lies is already cheating.
@prashu228 (37525)
• India
29 Jul 21
But why he crying ..I did not understand...it may be just a causal hug...is he guilty of hugging her...
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@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
Yes he is. And it hurt so bad
@just4him (308536)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Jul 21
Nothing. It isn't your responsibility to be your father's conscience. He knows you saw what happened. The only thing you can do now is put it in God's hands and let Him take care of it.
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@just4him (308536)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Jul 21
@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
Thank you. I will do that
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@paigea (35824)
• Canada
31 Jul 21
I don't know what I would do. Heartbreaking.
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@Ding05 (116)
31 Jul 21
Super. It really do hurts especially when my mother do not know about it.
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@Anqaya (3033)
• United States
29 Jul 21
Tackle him with questions. Spy on him if it gets worse. But I think maybe it's nothing. Anyway my mother is divorced. My father was very very bad. I know the feeling. Do anything you need but don't tell your mother first before getting everything crystal clear.
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@Anqaya (3033)
• United States
30 Jul 21
@Ding05 Oh ok.
@Ding05 (116)
29 Jul 21
I already know the truth and he told me
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