It's okay not to be okay
By Eve Adams
@rudepotato (19)
August 3, 2021 10:49pm CST
So I have been trying to find a new job as my current workplace is operating in some grey area that I am not comfortable with. I have failed in so many interviews due to the lack of confidence and I think the interviewers can smell the desperation of my want to leave. The failed interviews have led me into a downward spiral of lack of confidence and I'm trying so hard to keep positive! (also, i cant leave without a job due to financial commitments)
Advice/experience please?
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9 responses
@asianlady (2697)
• Ireland
4 Aug 21
I've failed a hundred times, hurt and embarrassed but doesn't define us, what matter is how we deal with it and see the bright side. Failure is the first step to success. They are complimentary to each other, for you to see that success is waiting for you and you are capable of doing it. So, cheer up.
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@asianlady (2697)
• Ireland
5 Aug 21
@rudepotato I'm glad about your post because you are brave enough to express how you feel about your experiences and that's a good thing. I have some struggle from time to time, but I know it's just a process that I need to go through so that I will experience what I envision to achieve.
@rudepotato (19)
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5 Aug 21
Thanks Soireemar! I am so heartened to know that it is part and parcel of our lives and that things will get better. Trying to keep a positive outlook on everything and I hope everything is good with you too!
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@aninditasen (15749)
• Raurkela, India
4 Aug 21
Everyone passed through this phase but wait for the opportunity and don't loose heart. If your desperation is reflected on your face people start exploiting you.
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@rudepotato (19)
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5 Aug 21
Hi Anindita, you are absolutely right, and I definitely wouldnt want them to sense my desperation. Thank you for your encouragement.
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@aninditasen (15749)
• Raurkela, India
5 Aug 21
@rudepotato This is the way of life for life has to go on.
@rudepotato (19)
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5 Aug 21
Hey Susan, thank you for the encouragement. I'm trying to keep my head up and be grateful for the things I already have in my life.
I already love the positivity in here!
@aureategloom (8344)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
4 Aug 21
don't let the bad experience make you feel bad about yourself. i'm pretty sure you got skills for the jobs you're applying to, so be confident! and good luck!
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@rudepotato (19)
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5 Aug 21
Thank you Yumeko, for believing in me. I will try to keep positive. Please keep well :)
@zabikhan09 (141)
• Bangalore, India
4 Aug 21
I can clearly understand the way your facing, i have also lost my job almost 8 month trying to survive. Commitments will be their always but never give up. Its the time were you can test your strengths. Spend more time with your family and loved ones, it will relieve your stress. Rest assured you need to wait for your right time.
@rudepotato (19)
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5 Aug 21
Thank you Zabi for your encourgement. It is definitely heartening to know that I am not alone in this and that people are coping with similar challenges as well, regardless of where we are. I will look to spend more time with my loved ones and be grateful for what I have, rather than what I don't. Please keep well too. :)
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@MariaIsHere (286)
• Philippines
4 Aug 21
I can't say were in a similar situation, but I failed my board exam months ago, I feel so upset and I lost so much confidence to myself, I also studied for 7 years in college for a 4 year course! since I'm not a great academic student I was stuck, that's why I was hoping to pass my board exam for only 1 take. And as you can see now, I'm also struggling to find a job. My only advice is that we should not give up and continue to persevere. Challenges in life is always there. Look up to the best solution we can and strive for what you think will give you the best of the best.
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@rudepotato (19)
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5 Aug 21
Thank you Maria! I'm so glad to know that we are not alone in this. Whatever happens, let's embrace it and persevere. I'm rooting for you! :)
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@simplfred (20628)
• Philippines
4 Aug 21
I have no advice, my friend but I can say I can relate because in a way I am in that situation too...
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
Even I have experienced it ....don't worry.....the more interviews you attend, the more confidence you keep getting....I was scared like a chicken when it came to interviews, but I started building up confidence.. I was and am still an introvert...so before going for an interview, I used to make up my mind that am not going to get this job, so let me answer whatever I want to say. So that's how I slowly started building up my confidence....
Don't worry and don't bring in any negative thoughts....nobody in this world is professional right from the birth. Everyone has learnt through their experiences.
Just discard the fear....
