Divorce and how it has affected your children

United States
November 30, 2006 8:54pm CST
I have been divorced from my childrens father for 16 years now, and I still see problems with my children and how it has affected their lives. Can someone tell me what your experience has been and do the kids really every get over this? It has been very difficult.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Remember that divorce is confusing for children. Many children believe that the divorce is a result of something that they did. Most of them need more support and security feeling after divorce.
• United States
1 Dec 06
I've tried to be supportive to my kids; however, I think it has been hard because their father doesn't stay in touch with them much. I did remarry and then divorced again because the kids did not like my new husband and we ended up arguing all the time. I thought after so many years the hurt would go away, but it is still there, and I can't change what has happened, I tell them the divorce was not their fault, we were young. I can only apologize to them and reassure them they are my world and I love them.
• United States
27 Jan 07
I personally think that no matter how hard you work on making life "normal" again for them, there is a lack of something as a family unit. I've seen adult children have issues with their parents divorce, I don't see how we can expect actual children to handle it better than an adult. It's tough for sure. I guess the best thing is to keep an open line of communication. But that's never going to fix things. There is always an emptiness.