Average isn't a bad thing

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I got my son's test results from a test he took last year to determine if he qualified for the gifted class which no shocker to me he does not. It's not that I don't believe my son is intelligent I do think he's smart but for one he doesn't test well and never has and for two the things he is great at aren't things you can really test. He is smart in his own unique way all children are. My son isn't great at math he actually tested low average for that. He was super close to testing in the above-average range for vocabulary. He was four points from it. He usually tests higher than state average for most subjects but he's still average. He's a lot like me I think in that he is probably high average but still average in a lot of subjects but low average in math. I think people need to learn it's ok to be average. We don't all need to be geniuses. Just because you have average intelligence doesn't mean you are less than anyone else. It doesn't mean you can't be good at things or that you are somehow inferior to those that actually are geniuses. People who have average intelligence are still so capable of so many great things. It just means sometimes we have to work harder at some things not that we aren't capable. It means that in order to get an A you have to put in more effort but you can still get an A. I tell my son all the time that anything worth having is worth working for. If everything were handed to us we wouldn't learn as much along the way. Just because someone has a high IQ doesn't mean they know everything. It just means that some things are going to come easier for them. My son isn't athletic nor is he a genius but he is probably the kindest person I know. Every time he sees litter he wants to pick it up. Every time he sees someone hurt he wants to help. He is so compassionate. He doesn't hate anyone. When he is hurt by someone he instantly forgives them. The kind of caring and compassion he has isn't something everyone has. He loves simply because he can. He has no agenda with anyone. If he can help he just does it. He is the kind of person who just wants everyone to feel loved. Whenever anyone asks him what he would do if he won the lottery he says he'd help people and keep enough to live off of. He doesn't want to be a billionaire he just wants to help people and have enough money to get by. I love that about him. He could have all the money in the world and he'd still help others. My son is still figuring everything out. He has had so many challenges along the way but he keeps moving forward. He feels so deeply and he cares so deeply and I always tell him that that's what makes him special. He is smart but he's not a genius. Kids are all good at different things. Some intelligence can be measured by a test. My son's emotional IQ would be off the charts. There's nothing wrong with being average. We can't all be miniature Einsteins and that's ok. It's ok if you are and it's ok if you aren't. Just love yourself for who you are and love others for who they are. Average isn't anything to be ashamed of. My son can acutally memorize picture books after being read them once. He has been able to do that since he was about two which is probably part of why his vocabulary is so high but it doesn't really translate onto a standardized test. Different skills don't always factor into an IQ test which is just one example of what I mentioned of different kids being good at different things. He is smart just in his own unique way. My son is also pretty good at science. He is sort of absent-minded a lot like his dad. You just can't test every kind of intelligence properly. Never believe your child isn't smart because every kid is smart in their own way. My son has talents that aren't tested and so do many other kids. My son as a whole has never tested well. Average doesn't mean dumb. It doesn't mean there aren't things they aren't good at. It doesn't mean anything really just that when they're tested with their own peers that they fall in a normal range and there is nothing wrong with that. It means they are where they are supposed to be and what is so wrong with that?