Online Gaming is Ruining
@WomanWarrior1969 (231)
October 13, 2021 2:05pm CST
Every day my bf gets home from work and goes to his office gets online and games every night until he goes to bed. He even eats dinner while playing. It's gotten so bad we don't speak for days .Then every weekend he goes to peoples houses to play Dungeons and Dragons from the time he gets he leaves and plays and doesn't get home until like 11p.m
I told him how lonely I am and hurts to know a game is more important than our relationship. But like always he doesn't stop and keeps playing. And it's get to be so bad I end up spending lots of nights crying myself to sleep. I'm thinking about leaving him. He tells me he loves me but how can someone who loves you treat me like that ? I'm so confused and hurt and scared and having a hard time dealing with this situation. I just is hurting me a lot and it scares me too. Thanks for listening everyone. It's made me feel better to get that off my chest
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
14 Oct 21
@Melanie_Marie aye lol.jojo is right
Cant beat them, join them
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@WomanWarrior1969 (231)
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22 Oct 21
I know I told you I tried that before and it didn't work so I was really surprised with the chess set he bought. Hopefully that will give us something to build on.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
15 Oct 21
@WomanWarrior1969
Leave him.
Seriously, for your own sanity.
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@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
14 Oct 21
I`m sorry but he will not change anymore. It is up to you now if you want to stay and love him the way he is or leave and find a much better one but I`m telling you, it will not be easy anymore to look for the right one. You will always find something wrong because nobody`s perfect 
@WomanWarrior1969 (231)
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15 Oct 21
I know nobody's perfect trust me mean I I'm far from perfect. I don't expect him to stop playing all together. It would just be nice to eat dinner together or go out with friends once in a while on a weekend night.
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@m_audrey6788 (58485)
• Germany
21 Oct 21
@WomanWarrior1969 Oh ok. I understand. I hope that you can find a person who will give time for you 
@WomanWarrior1969 (231)
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20 Oct 21
He actually did come out and eat with me last night. I think he did that because he's staying in Lynchburg tonight and won't be home until tomorrow. night beccause he has training to run for the officers in his department. He's Chief of Police at Central Virginia Community college. I've seen some changes in him though. Last weekend he bought me a chess set and we've payed a few games last night. He like chess too. We actually had fun so that was nice
@paigea (35685)
• Canada
14 Oct 21
If you are that unhappy, something has to change.
Hubby and I have activities we do separately and we enjoy time together. If he is doing what he enjoys without me, I don't mind as I have my own stuff.
But, I never feel he is neglecting me as we also spent time together.
I hope you can find the right balance for your happiness.
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@WomanWarrior1969 (231)
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15 Oct 21
i have my own things to do and my own friends too but I believe he thinks because I have these other things in my life he doesn't need to do things with me. He looks at it like "Great she's busy now she won't ask me to do something" which means more time for gaming for him
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@MidnightMunchies (280)
• United States
21 Oct 21
You sure he's just playing video games? Not to worry you more, but as a guy in my 40's I can tell you Dungeons n Dragons is not a game we're really into (anymore, at least) - that's a kiddy game! I don't buy the whole going over to friend's house for that. Watch for him doing the switch-a-roo with the screen when you walk in room, just saying.
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@WomanWarrior1969 (231)
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22 Oct 21
I thought about that too, but that's not the case. He's really gaming. And after I read all the responses I tried talking to him again. It must have got through a little bit when I talked to him. Since I broke my ankle he's been a huge help and he bought me a really cool Sherlock Holmes chess set. He's not gaming at all this weekend. Well actually he's doing 1 game this Sun. Tonight we have a date to break in the new chess set. So I'm gonna watch and see if he really takes to heart what I've said to him recently. We're both big chess fans and I give him some credit because he remembered that and went and got the chess set all on his own.
I don't want him to stop playing completely but I just want him to cut back. He's even been out at dinner time and he's started talking during dinner. So it's kinda like baby steps but at least they're in the right direction. But when I saw your response I totally understood what you mean. I watched for funny business right away but he's always been really honest with me and he doesn't hide passwords or anything. Actually right now I'm on his computer cuz he had to take mine in to have work done.
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@MidnightMunchies (280)
• United States
23 Oct 21
@WomanWarrior1969 Okay, then, good luck and I hope he keeps stepping up his game. Not the other game. You know what I mean! ;-D
