Words and Sayings that Hurt
By 41Combedale
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
Greece
November 17, 2021 9:47am CST
When I was a teenager one of the girls in my class called me 'Spotty Face'. It was probably true that I had a few teenage spots at that time because I flinched and she noticed this and said 'The truth hurts'.
Since then I have never used those words and the phrase 'the truth hurts' has become one I hate. It is not true that 'sticks and stones may hurt my bones but words can never hurt me. Because they have.
Can you identify with this and share any similar haunting remark?
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@BarBaraPrz (45487)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
17 Nov 21
When I was in grade 7 my family moved to a different town where I was enrolled into a small Catholic school. How small was it? It had only 3 classrooms, so grades were doubled up, and the room I was in was 6,7 and 8. Unfortunately, I corrected one of the grade 8s (there were only 4 of them so the teacher had the grade 7s learn the grade 8 history and geography and then learn the grade 7 stuff the next year) who thought he was something special because his father was the local bank manager. He started calling me scrag, and all the other boys who wanted to feel "big" jumped on it and did so too. It wasn't nice, to say the least.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
They formed a gang against you. I suspect they realised that you were cleverer than they were. Jealousy is at the root of a lot of bullying.
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@LeaPea2417 (36438)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 Nov 21
I was bullied in seventh grade and it still hurts to remember.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
The trouble is that it is hard to forget being bullied or the nasty people who bullied you. On the good side however I am sure that you have never bullied anyone or put pressure on them, because you know how it makes them feel.
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@Nawsheen (28644)
• Mauritius
29 Nov 21
@41CombedaleRoad I am still a bit chubby but I like myself how I am. That's more important I guess
@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
How horrible a thing to be called a deformed potato. Definitely forget that one. I hope that your chubbiness turned into wonderful curves later on!!
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@Tampa_girl7 (48937)
• United States
17 Nov 21
People can be so cruel and the saddest part is that many are intentionally trying to hurt with their words. I’m sorry that someone’s words haunt you.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
It makes me careful not to say anything that can be a cause of hurt to others.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
17 Nov 21
Some people can be so cruel with their words. I have been hurt many times by things people said. I would never speak those hurtful things to anybody and it seems others just don't care who they hurt.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
It is the gentle people who tend to get picked on. The bullies know they won't fight back. Sadly the gentle people are often the sensitive ones. Thankfully you have stayed gentle in spite of past hurts.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
27 Nov 21
@41CombedaleRoad yes I have. I could never intentionally hurt anyone.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
And worse Carol. It is impossible to listen to the news and not grieve over the dreadful things that we human beings do to one another.
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@popciclecold (35093)
• United States
17 Nov 21
It may not be the same, but I constantly heard the word stupid. I can't bear to hear someone called that now.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
It is a cruel thing to call someone stupid. This is especially true when it happens to us as children. We have no defences prepared for such unkingness.
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@popciclecold (35093)
• United States
2 Dec 21
@41CombedaleRoad So very true, my Mom used to call us DORA, as in dumb Dora. I hate to hear anyone being called out of their name.
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
4 Dec 21
Words, once spoken, you can never take it back. and it's not true that words don't hurt, especially for kids. I remember a story where a parent constantly told her kid that he was special and smart despite her kid being mentally deficient.
And the kid grew normally and indeed performed better than his 'normal ' classmates.
So, this goes true too with negative words. If you keep saying them, you will come to be bitter with the world and those around you.
I've not been called any negative words tmy face. But I've been gossiped about sometimes,. This is the time that I applied the saying: "words can't hurt you." Because I knew the rumors are not trrue, so why should I allow myself to be hurt.
For as long as my loved ones and friends know the truth, then all's fine with me.
Words can only hurt you to the extent that you allow yourself to, can apply in this particular situation.
@marguicha (215408)
• Chile
17 Nov 21
I hated and still hate some remarks. Some years ago I was knitting a white sweater with great care. I went to my mother for instructions on how to knit the neck and she remarked that I was too dark for that color. I never finished.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
Mothers' remarks can last with us for years. It's a pity you didn't finish the sweater. I wonder if you found out that white was a good colour for you eventually.? My mother told me I sang out of tune. That lasted for years so that if anyone at school was heard to sing out of tune I thought it must be me!! I was 38 before someone told me I had a nice voice and said I did not sing out of tune....
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
19 Nov 21
definitely can identify, but choose not to share.
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@41CombedaleRoad (5952)
• Greece
27 Nov 21
That is enough of a share Crazy GL for me to know the harm that other people can do to us. In your case it is still hurting. Perhaps the up side for you is that you love animals and horses in particular?
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