My 20 year old siste is pregnant

Surrey, British Columbia
November 28, 2021 11:22pm CST
I’m very disappointed that all of a sudden I found out she is 4 months pregnant and I’ve been told that she doesn’t have any boyfriend yet . We are not in the same country so these things Doesn’t surprise me at all . However , My trust to her has been broken since she lied to me . Anyways, I didn’t want to keep overthinking perhaps it’s already done . I just feel like being fooled and the last word that I got from my pregnant sister is that she didn’t have a nerve to tell me and too Embarrassed to let me know her situation . Oh well , I hope the young father of her child is not going to run away coz he said he’s going to face my parents at the end of this month and take the responsibility as a father of the child . We’ll see I just don’t know how to react anymore since my advice to my sister doesn’t matter anymore and i was never been heard . It’s just sad because she never get to start her college times and aside from That she never had any stable job ugh .
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
29 Nov 21
ahhh not the right time ..she is so young .
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@Babino (5761)
• Morocco
29 Nov 21
I think what she needs the most is support, not blame or shame or anything.. what's done is done. And usually, when we're pregnant, we get to see who really cares and who doesn't.. be there for her. The blame can come later.
• Surrey, British Columbia
2 Dec 21
I’m not shaming or blaming anyone . I’m 31 Years old never been pregnant with stable job and married with a stable household income . And I finished college when I was 19 years old and got a stable job since then . I got married at the age of 26 , Me and my husband has been saving for our future hence the reason I’m not pregnant yet and helping my siblings putting so school financially at the same time . Disappointment of all that we did for them should’ve been matter but now it feels Like it doesn’t matter these days . There’s just long story behind my disappointments and I never been a selfish sister or a daughter. I am always supportive and considerate . I even advise my others sisters to look after our pregnant sister because they’re the one that’s nearby .
@Babino (5761)
• Morocco
2 Dec 21
@sarameastrong oh you did a lot for your family. I understand how you feel. It's so sweet of you to advise your other siblings to be helpful with the situation as well. I wish I had a sister like you.
• Philippines
29 Nov 21
Did she stop schooling because of the pandemic? Were you supporting her studies before?
• Surrey, British Columbia
2 Dec 21
Me and my husband has been supporting my 5 siblings education financially . I have so much stories to tell that I wish they are not taking it for granted because that’s how I feel . Anyway , I always find a silver lining in every failures and wrong decisions . To be practically honest I felt unappreciated and tired but they are always my family no matter what , the kindness of me and my husband is always there for them without expecting anything in return . It is what it is right
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• Philippines
4 Dec 21
@sarameastrong You have a very supportive husband, but I hope you're also setting aside money for your own family, emergencies, retirement, etc.