No courage to ask / myLot

Philippines

January 27, 2022 9:38pm CST

I don't know if it is just me or if this is normal. I am always afraid, or shy when I am going to ask something or a small favor from someone. This is always the case when it involves myself, if I am the recipient of that small favor. But if it is something for others, I will always be on top asking others for help for that someone. I find it agonizing, that I don't have the courage to ask or talk out that I need help. The past days, during my current COVID Isolation, I have been thinking of the reason for this... I end up realizing that I am really afraid of rejection or that maybe, just maybe that someday it'll be payback time that I won't be able to return the favor. I hope I'll get over this. I hope I will get to balance things up.

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Simone

@Janet357 (75638)

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28 Jan 22

i was like that before but what changed me was this statement: try, you won't lose anything after all.

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kixsh101

@kixsh101 (2123)

• Philippines

28 Jan 22

Thanks, I am still gathering the courage though. The feeling of rejection is over powering me.

kixsh101

@kixsh101 (2123)

• Philippines

28 Jan 22

@kixsh101 And oh, I think (which is kind of bad) I think it could be ego sometimes, but its only out of a million times.

George B Vieto

@Deepizzaguy (122070)

• Lake Charles, Louisiana

28 Jan 22

I also have the same feeling of fear asking strangers for assistance.

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kixsh101

@kixsh101 (2123)

• Philippines

28 Jan 22

Strangers or even those who are closest to me, it all feels the same.

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Kayla Tsukino

@kaylachan (84703)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

28 Jan 22

I was just like you. I used to be afraid of the word 'no' so bad, that I couldn't even order my own meals when I'd go out. However, I found a way to outgrow it. Because, while asking for help is hard, I've come to realize that we all need help sometimes. And, while I might hear 'no' sometimes, it's not the end of the world. Rejection can hurt, but if you truely need help, someone will be there to help you. Just wait until you really need it. It gets better.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

28 Jan 22

Rejection is hard. I feel the same way about asking for help. You're not alone.