Love regrets
By Hilda
@Hildasalom (937)
Nairobi, Kenya
April 21, 2022 2:34pm CST
So I was single for a while and there was this cute boy in our neighborhood and we were friends on Instagram. So was kind of attracted to him but I didn't tell him, we used to talk alot via the phone.
He then asked me out but I refused saying it wasn't the right time because I was going through some tough times. He kept on talking to me and he even asked if we could hang out.
Then suddenly he stopped talking to me and I later on realized I had feelings for him.
But know he is dating like he has dated 3 girls since them but am still single.
I just keep refusing the guys who ask me out because am just scared of commitments.
Please give me some advice
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6 responses
@adnileb (5256)
• Philippines
13 Jun 22
just be whatever you want. as long as you are happy.
there is no wrong on being single. find yourself first. let yourself love you, enjoy being with you, and only you.
start with yourself and soon things will go the way you will want it to be. you will learn to love more and no fear anymore. time heals all wounds. don't stress yourself. it's okay not to be okay. and soon, hope you will find your prince.
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@adnileb (5256)
• Philippines
14 Jun 22
@Hildasalom aw 
Just remember not to rush things about love. Your wait will be worth it, just trust the process. Stay happy..
Just remember not to rush things about love. Your wait will be worth it, just trust the process. Stay happy..1 person likes this
thank youuu........ You just touched my heart
@Shawchert (1094)
• United States
22 Apr 22
Love isn't something you rush. It's not like you're actually commiting to something if you hang out with someone you are interested in. Perhaps you are more scared of the chance of rejection? which can also coinside with commitment issues, unless you're telling yourself "wow i can't see myself settling at all."
well the best advice I can give you is don't settle. If you don't want to you shouldn't feel you are forced into it. Not everyone needs to be in a relationship. Love yourself. I certainly started doing that for a few years before I found my boyfriend, or really he found me, but thats a whole tangle of a story you dont want to hear. So, be free as a bird, have fun, enjoy your life!
If you do want a relationship, well there's several ways to go about it.DELETED, I just noticed you are a teenager! there is only one thing I have to say now then: take things slow, when you feel yourself start to panic, Stop and talk to yourself, make sure you are aware of your feelings and what they might mean to you.
Not sure if I helped out, but best of luck.
@Hildasalom (937)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Apr 22
@shawchert it did and talking your time to write all that means alot. I am also curious to know how he found you, if I may ask
@Shawchert (1094)
• United States
22 Apr 22
@Hildasalom we actually went to school together and dated, but he still had a lot of growing up to do, so we stayed friends forever. he was always there for me, unfortunately he found a woman who really didn't treat him well at all, and abused in in terrible ways, one of which was that she was so super jealous of me and our friendship (because that's all we were, and I would never date him with another person, and at the time wouldn't date him at all) so she made him not talk to me for quite a few years. like 6 or so, though he on the sly was a facebook friends and liked some of my stuff lol. but in 2020 things got to the point where they were so very bad that he left her. We rekindled our friendship and he was still hurting, but in the time we were not able to talk, he really grew up and we started dating after several months of being friends and getting to know one another again. He'd been with her 10 years and in no way had I had any intentions of taking him away from her. but he was free, though super hurt. We've had a few bumps, but now we are together, living together and taking things one step at a time. We've been dating for a little over a year now and so far so good! Things happen in odd ways.
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@Hildasalom (937)
• Nairobi, Kenya
23 Apr 22
@Shawchert Wow, maybe he was just meant to be with you, I think the soulmate thing is true. You are so lucky to have your friend as your partner, I like those type of bonds. I would also like my future husband to also be my best friend whom we can share things that bond looks stronger and long lasting. You are lucky to have him
@Hildasalom (937)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Apr 22
@popciclecold I guess it is too late for me and him now.
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@popciclecold (35416)
• United States
22 Apr 22
@Hildasalom If you don't try and find out you will always wonder.
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@mildredtabitha (16077)
• Nairobi, Kenya
9 May 22
If he has dated three girls before, it can be a red flag because maybe he is just dating for fun and then he leaves them and goes to the next girl. It is good to know the person well and ask them about their past relationships so that you do not get your heart broken. I am sure you will get the best man who will be cute and handsome, he will be your best friend and he will not lie to you or play with your feelings and he will be serious and Marry you too and will not get your heart broken.
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@Hildasalom (937)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Apr 22
@sinari I will try for sure, I promise not to be afraid anymore.
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@58lordstreet (1669)
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21 Apr 22
I didnt intend to have a second date with my partner but we seem to have been together for 32 years lol
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