Your not allows to flirt if your married
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
July 31, 2022 2:35pm CST
I know a few of you will feel indifference and that’s okay but you can’t say you can’t flirt it’s that you won’t flirt.
Me as a married person I honestly don’t care what your relationship statues is if you flirt with me I might flirt back. Why because one I’m very secure about my relationship with my husband been married 12 years have 3 kids with him. Yes we live a poly life styles meaning we might take other relationships with other people that can be a friendship or something more sexual if all parties are okay. I say all because yeah my husband has a day in this matter.
I will flirt with guys I will flirt with ladies because hey hyping each other up feels nice. It can be as simple as I like your shirt the same toward a guy.
So when you tell someone you can’t flirt it’s not that you can’t it’s because you don’t want it either because you don’t want to tell the person your with they you thought someone that else other then them was cute or hot or good looking, or heh they had a nice butt. Thinking itwill hurt there feeling or if they say so to you. You’ll be jealous or they will be jealous. So what people have eyes they work your allowed to look at other people your allows to find someone else attractive it’s when you decide to go behind that person back to start a relationship that is wrong. It’s okay to want one relationship and it’s also okay to have many of that is what makes you happy. You just find someone that you can be open with what you are or are not okay with.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Aug 22
Flirt way it hurts nobody. My husband would ask me who you flirting with. Oh some cute girl, then he’ll ask to me to show him or the other way around.
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@kaylachan (77500)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
31 Jul 22
If you're comfortable in your skin, then you can do as you want. It's good that you are.
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@kaylachan (77500)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
1 Aug 22
@ShyBear88 That's very true. I can't really see that well, but I still feel attractin just like any other human being.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Aug 22
@kaylachan yep, it happens it’s just part of life.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Aug 22
It took many years to get to this point. You can’t help what you like seeing or not seeing at times.
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@sissy15 (12354)
• United States
11 Aug 22
I say to each their own and have no problem with people living whatever life they choose but can say that's definitely not for me. I don't expect my husband to not find other people attractive. That's just not realistic. Flirting really depends on the intent to me. Just being nice and paying a compliment is one thing it's a matter of where they expect the flirting to lead. I find other guys attractive and my husband knows it but I'm definitely not sneaky and I could never in a million years cheat on him. It's just not in me to do so. I feel like feelings involved has a lot to do with cheating too. Even if you aren't sleeping with them if you are going behind someone's back to talk to someone and allowing yourself to feel things for that person that would normally be reserved for your spouse that's also cheating. If you're open about it and both adults are ok with whatever it is you allow in your relationship then that's up to you. I don't care if my husband talks to women as long as they're just friends but I'd be livid if I found out he was talking to them in a way that was reserved for me. I have male friends but that's all they are and my husband has female friends and once again that's all they are there are no romantic feelings involved in those friendships. Cheating is a very grey area for a lot of people and doesn't mean the same thing to everyone but to me if you feel guilty talking to someone a certain way then that says to me you probably shouldn't be doing it.
@sissy15 (12354)
• United States
12 Aug 22
@ShyBear88 Stuff like that doesn't bother me for me I think it's more when the flirting is more serious and you can tell they're trying to get somewhere with it. I don't care when someone finds my husband attractive it's just when they act on it. I don't care if my husband looks at other women either because you don't stop finding people attractive just because you're married but for me, it's a matter of looking vs. acting on it. To say "Oh they're nice looking" isn't an issue to me it's trying to pursue something with them. I feel like some people find jealousy exciting or some form of love but I think I'd rather have my husband trust me and he does. He knows I have celebrity crushes and it doesn't bother him and I know he has some too and that doesn't bother me. Like I said it just depends on the type of flirting. You can usually tell if it's innocent or if there is intent behind it.
@sissy15 (12354)
• United States
12 Aug 22
@ShyBear88 My husband and I are both pretty much just into each other. I can't imagine it any other way I always say to each their own and leave it at that. I might find other guys attractive but wouldn't ever act on it. My husband and I are super close and really don't like the idea of being with anyone else. That's just how we are. I honestly would feel sick if I tried to be with someone else. I couldn't do it but I realize different strokes for different folks. My husband is more emotional about attraction too and I can be. I find different guys physically attractive but that's not everything and I couldn't be with someone who was just physically attractive that I didn't have an emotional connection with.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
12 Aug 22
Oh yes there is many different ways to flirt most is harmless just making the other person in general feel good for a few minutes. Like I tell my husband it’s always flattering when someone else finds me attracted or if they just like a color on me or what thing I’m wearing like oh that’s a cute shirt I like that band or show too.
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@LeaPea2417 (37810)
• Toccoa, Georgia
31 Jul 22
What about a marriage partner that is always telling the other about how hot that particular movie star is or news reporter?
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Aug 22
Totally fine, even movies stars can be hot or not depending on what they like.
My husband any time he see Emma Watson he is like “I would do her in a heart beat.” Me next to him, “she is alright, I wouldn’t say no to a threesome or one on one play.” He would be dying next to me before spitting out “can I watch!” Lol “if she says yes.”
He just has a thing for redheads.
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@RasmaSandra (84684)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
1 Aug 22
Personally I am glad all that is behind me and I can just go on with life and have my memories,
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Aug 22
Haha you get to old and life is just whatever
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@moffittjc (124150)
• Gainesville, Florida
1 Aug 22
I flirt all the time, and I am in a very loving and secure relationship. I would never cheat on my girlfriend or stray. Part is f my flirting is because of my personality, and part of it is to make other people feel good about themselves.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Aug 22
Nothing wrong with making people feel good about themselves. It might what they need that day for someone to say something nice. I always take it as a compliment when someone else finds me attractive other then my own house.
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@moffittjc (124150)
• Gainesville, Florida
2 Aug 22
@ShyBear88 I agree. It may be the only positive comment, bright smile, or admiring look a person gets all day. If I can help someone else feel good about themselves with very little effort on my part, then to me it’s a no-brainer, I’m gonna do it.
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