Platonic Relationship

By Neil
@Neil43 (3109)
May 1, 2023 6:40am CST
A platonic relationship is a relationship that has no romantic or sexual characteristics, but is meant to be more than just friends. The ancient philosopher Plato, who gave the concept its name says this bond is the kind of love we experience when we perceive the positive qualities of another with whom we feel complete. But can this actually lead to a lifetime partnership? This guy actually used to be my subject of endearment. I courted him and something happened to us for a couple of times. We sort of started as lovers but he did not want a label. I sort of felt like I was rejected and felt like I was not enough and that he was still looking for someone. So, it was like a limbo and I did not feel secure. Hence, I did not stop searching until I found my boyfriend now. When I finally have a boyfriend to call my own, I told him I found someone already. I think he was hurt. I just suspected. Or was I just assuming? But I felt like after all he actually was in love with me? I am not sure though. Despite the odds, we did not stop meeting each other and in fact we continued being gym buddies. My feelings toward him just faded as my relationship with my boyfriend became stronger and stronger. So, we ended up having this platonic relationship. We care for each other like real brothers. I know I hurt him but I can't stop myself from falling into another person and that is my boyfriend now. I love my boyfriend so much now and I see all positive about him. Have you ever had a platonic relationship? I tell you want when I came across this word I did not understand exactly. I remember I had this topic in one of the ESL textbooks back in the academy where I was working as an English teacher in the Philippines. My learners asked about the word and I could not really explicate clearly. I really did not understand the word until I had my own now.
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@LindaOHio (132001)
• United States
2 May
Yes, although I think we were headed toward a relationship. He was a very good friend.
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@Neil43 (3109)
2 May
Well, are you still very close friends up to this date?
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@LindaOHio (132001)
• United States
3 May
@Neil43 No. I made the mistake of letting him slip out of my life. He passed away at the age of 47. I was so sad.
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@Neil43 (3109)
7 May
@LindaOHio Oh I am very sorry.
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1 May
I guess having a platonic relationship is possible as long as both mutually agree to it, so as to avoid complications or misunderstandings in the future.
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@Neil43 (3109)
1 May
Sometimes, it is not really mutually agreed upon in words. I guess it is mutually agreed in actions rather than verbatim, just like what we have.
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3 May
@Neil43 That could work too.
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@Neil43 (3109)
7 May
@ihasaquestion Yup. For sure.
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@RebeccasFarm (110377)
• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
1 May
Relationships for me were all rubbish totally ..that is my story.
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@Neil43 (3109)
2 May
I am sorry to hear that. But not all in general though.
@Tracey98 (187)
1 May
I have never have ,the fact that it is said to be meant to be more than friends in the future. I think those relationship exist but they are rare
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@Neil43 (3109)
1 May
Indeed, it is rare. For others, it is hard to believe that it exists. Before, I never believed and I didn't even understand what it is exactly.