My son gets into another scrape but it ends well
Shingle Springs, California
June 17, 2023 11:58am CST
First week in May, and my son almost gives me a heart attack. Apparently he had a new girlfriend, and guess what, she says she's pregnant. OMG. Well, they went out end of March, had sex twice mid and late April, and first Sunday in May she is sure she's PG. She notices changes in her body and she took tests that came up positive. Son says she told him she had implants put in in February. So I google the likelihood of implants failing. Pretty low but not impossible. How likely that you'd know you're PG after two weeks? Pretty unlikely but not impossible. Talk to my "false accusations" friend, and he says document everything just in case. If the girl turns out to be lying, what else could she lie about. So I get name, dates, everything I can, just in case. We meet the girl for dinner, and she seems nice. She's Filipino, but a citizen. Her parents are strict. At first she was considering an abortion, but her best friend talked her out of it. I tell her that this is her decision and nobody else's. She says, it doesn't work that way with my culture. A week later, we meet her family. They seem nice. And then, a week and a half after that, there is an ultrasound. I tell my son he needs to go along. And I tell him he needs to find out how far along she is. Why would they do an ultrasound at 4 1/2 weeks anyway? All you can see is that there's a pregnancy, nothing else. I tell him, if there's a heartbeat, chances are it's not his. Trust but verify. So they go, and there is not only a heartbeat, but there is a fully formed fetus in there. Clearly it cannot be his. Doctor says 16 weeks, and they have only known each other 6 weeks at this point. Son gets pic of ultrasound with name, date, pic of baby with arms and legs, etc. So the girl tells him she had sex once with a guy back in February who forced himself on her and that she took a PG test right after which was negative, so she had the implants put in. She didn't realize she was PG until after she was with Cary, and she convinced herself it was his. She doesn't want the other guy in her life, and now she wants an abortion. She comes over to apologize to me. That night she tells him she doesn't want to tell her family the whole story, but would rather tell them that she and Cary decided on an abortion. Cary is not OK with her lying to her family, and he breaks up with her. She tells them the truth. It's pretty far along for an abortion, but she schedules an appointment. Her family does not support her and says they will kick her out if she has one. Her best friend will not help her. Her sister will not help her. So my daughter reaches out to her and offers to support her. By this time, she has cancelled the appointment, but they talk, and she and my daughter agree to meet at the doctor's, and after a doctor appointment she will decide yes or no. The day before the appointment, she tells my daughter she cancelled the appointment. I guess she couldn't fight her whole family, her best friend, etc. So she's having the baby. The family will support her if she keeps it or gives it up for adoption. And I'm not going to be a grandma, but it's OK. My son wasn't ready for this.
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