together, kids but not married??

I do love him very much, and i know he loves me also! We had an awsome connection from the first time we met. He says he doesnt wan tot get married becasue his parents got divoriced and most people end up getting divoriced,a nd that marriage means nothing, and that we are pretty much married we just havent done the whole ceremony thing. We got pregnant with my daughter just a few mths after being together, and then with our son a year later. I want to get marreid becasue it means soemthign to me, to be married to the person you truley love. I brought the discussion up about marriage to him agian, and he asked if i was trying to pressure him into marrying him. I was shocked and horrified at his response, I have been nothing but faithful to this man, I have given him my whole heart.

umm , its not the commitment part its the marriage and the meaning it means nothing to him, he snot religious and doenst beleive in any of that crap, to him marriage means nothing, he considers me his wife, you rright 3 years in nothing but living together for 3 years and having 2 kids thats something, it may not be anything too you but its soemthing too me, and him, we have both never been with anyone else since we met, he calls me his wife, tells everyone im his wife i just have to correct him becasue Im not his wife, Its not jus thim that doenst want to get marreid if half of this worl, noone wants to get married anymore cuz there si pretty much no good results out of it anymore. Its nto getting him to comitt that is the problem he is fully committed to me, its that he doesnt want to get married, We are married common law, we file out taxes together every year, there just hasnt been a wedding!

thats not nessassarily true about the kid being made fun of because the parents aren't married. I grew up in a family of 6 kids...my parents didn't get married until all of us were born.....I don't feel as if it were something that serious...the only thing that really mattered was that my parents were and still are together after so long. Getting married seems like it means so much to you...and reading what you last wrote it seems like he may not know how you really feel about getting married. You should let him know if he doesn't already and tell him that you feel like it's a waste of time....And if he considers you his wife why not really get married!

living with someone whom u consider u love.. u might say u understand each other but not confident to commit.. fine.. but think about it.. wen the baby grows up.. n finds out if the parents r not married.. the frens around makes fun? can the baby take the pressure? arent u ppl making the baby life miserable?

But it means something to you or you wouldnt of posted this right? If its no big deal to him and means nothing then he should do it because it means something to you. That whole I dont want to cuz my parents....yada yada is crap. He is NOT his parents and doesnt have to make the same choices. Its an easy out for him. If it truly means that much to you, then tell him we either get married or part ways and tell him why you feel that way. I highly doubt hes willing to give you up, over this, especially if marriage doesnt mean that much to him, and hes already commited to you thru common law ect. When my hubby and I first met we were both newly divorced and honestly I never wanted to get married again. We eventually got pregnant and I decided I wanted to get married, he still wasnt sure ect. I told him that is fine, but I want to have our family and raise it as man and wife ect. He suprised me and proposed on xmas eve a few years ago ect. We got married in vegas at the top of the stratosphere (as you can see in the pic we are pretty high up LOL). Best day of my life and neither of us regret it. As someone else said why should he change anything if he has everything he wants. If it works for him why would he change it? If you are truly unhappy and want the situation changed then your going to have to change it yourself. Good lucks sweety! (and great seeing you here I see we are both sick of nbc LOL)

I asked him and he said he wants to spend his life with me but he doesnt want to get married, cuz he thinks that it doesnt prove anything, and that it wont change3 anything, I have the same rights as a married women does, we both signed papers confirming our commonlaw status. Whoever said he is not committed well you dont know him like i do, and everyone else we know, knows we are both very committed to each other, commitment is not the problem its the marriage thing thats the problem., He doesnt want to get married cuz he thinks it doesnt mean anything different then we already are.