People Who Try to Provoke You
By kay lar
@jaylar (2133)
Kingston, Jamaica
August 10, 2024 4:16pm CST
In life, if you look back, you'll see how many people said or did something to provoke a response.
Abusive husbands have this as a science. They get the wife to react, then respond to her with violence. Their justification is that she provoked him. He leaves out his actions which set the stage. The wife is to feel that 'she caused it.'
When Bosses want to fire you they'll often say something so you respond and can be labeled 'insubordinate' and terminated.
Online, it is the same thing.
You have to realize this.
Don't respond.
.
The man across the road parked to block access. He expected a response so he can make a scene.
I realized it instantly and having another route, took it. Subsequently I thanked him for making me go in the other direction. He never parked there again.
It that wasn't evidence of his attempt to get a rise out of me, I don't know what is.
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@Deepizzaguy (113695)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 Aug 24
It is the best advice I have ever received to not respond to comments I make on social media that in my view are not harmful.
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@Deepizzaguy (113695)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
11 Aug 24
@jaylar That is true since a bully get neutralized when the offended party does not answer them.
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@jaylar (2133)
• Kingston, Jamaica
11 Aug 24
@Deepizzaguy exactly... bully goes out of their way to offend another who isn't... failure!
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@LovingMyBabies (85295)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Aug 24
I absolutely agree, the abuser of any kind is LOOKING for a reaction! They don't like when they don't get it. 
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@LovingMyBabies (85295)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Aug 24
@jaylar I'm married to a narcissist so I know all about the reactions some want.
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@jaylar (2133)
• Kingston, Jamaica
11 Aug 24
@LovingMyBabies now that you know the 'secret information' you have your armour
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@psanasangma (7924)
• India
11 Aug 24
Sometime I wonder whether they have fun by doing so or they've been paid or it is simple how they are
the best way is not respond at all
@jaylar (2133)
• Kingston, Jamaica
12 Aug 24
@psanasangma happened to me. I was earning and suddenly I was accused of something and angrily responded and boom... kicked off.
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@jstory07 (145618)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Aug 24
The man was probably mad that you went another way. I ignore people like that and do not react.
@jaylar (2133)
• Kingston, Jamaica
11 Aug 24
he was so mad... I didn't say a word for days and then... came up with this big smile on my face and he was completely off balance.
And never parked there again. That's the amazing part. He'll park some distance in either direction but not near the access.
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@yoooufi (141)
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11 Aug 24
most people always provoke unnecessary trouble, even when we react to their actions, we are the ones who will be judged. some people can't even stop being manipulative. we should always be patient and walk away.
they will always take the opportunity to make us angry
