My girlfriend never talks, what should I do?

United States
September 14, 2006 8:54pm CST
She never really says more than yes, no, I dont know. I have known her 9 months.
57 responses
• United States
20 Nov 06
Get a new girlfriend who has a personality? Haha, but seriously. If I had a boyfriend who didn't talk much and only ever replied with "yes" or "no", I'd have to kick him to the curb. While he could be an incredibly nice guy, I'm not into boring people who don't talk. I'll admit that when I first meet new people I may not talk that much, but I certainly say more than yes or no. I'd say after the first few weeks I'd be able to talk someone's head off.
@aquarian83 (1944)
• United States
20 Oct 06
is she really ur girlfrnd i doubt it...
• United States
16 Sep 06
What does she like to do the most , Does she have any hobbies that ya do together. Or do what I do to my boyfriend , I get tired of talking and tell him it is night to do the talking I am all talked out lol
• United States
16 Sep 06
How old is she? Younger people have difficulty articulating their feelings. What is her background; was it abusive? She may be afraid to say anything because she doesn't want to get yelled at or hit? Based upon your responses to other discussions, you are very blunt and opinionated. How have you responded to comments she has made? She might be afraid of you because you have proven yourself to be confrontive. Has this happened with other relationships in your life? If so, it's a pattern, and you're the common denominator. You are the one who needs to change your behavior so people feel more at ease when they communicate with you.
• United States
16 Sep 06
Sounds good to me :-)
@ebukas (135)
• Nigeria
16 Sep 06
Do you mean she doesn"t know how to talk or she hates talking? if she hates talking then try your best to know why and work towrads solving her problem if you can,and if she doesnt know how to talk i think you should put that one in prayers
@ysalwal (210)
• India
16 Sep 06
you should feel happy and say thanks to her for giving an oppertunity to express your views
• India
16 Sep 06
don worry...it doesnt mean dat she doesnt love you..maybe she is a quiet type..you be 'yourself'wid her n gradually you can see the transition...n its just been 9 months right...just wait 4 some more yaaaar..
@TJKMFK (54)
• United States
16 Sep 06
Maybe she's shy. Sometimes people can seem outgoing at first but when they relax around someone their true nature comes out. I'm like that. I force myself to interact, but I guess when I get to know someone and can relax around them I feel safe to be me.
@lesnan (538)
• United States
16 Sep 06
Wait a minute. She's never said more than the above to you since you've known her? Are you sure that she's your girlfriend and not someone you just started calling your girlfriend because she hasn't told you off yet? I am also a person of few words, but I never snub the ones I love. I think there is something deeper here. Have you brought this up with her?
@ErnestK73 (214)
• United States
16 Sep 06
Have you tried talking to her about it? Sometimes talking to people about things go a long way.
@mayshoe (606)
• India
16 Sep 06
it really depends on how much time u are giving her to answer. What sort of questions u ask is important. like do u eat ice cream. will u go? etc the questions should compel her to answere in detail it should be open ended not close ended question rite. follow this and see the results. or mail me
@shuz697 (1045)
• United States
16 Sep 06
well Id just be there for her that's all you can do... if she doesn't want to talk don't push her too.. her parents don't sound like the best people to have around so I bet their not helping with the situations.. I know when I am down I don't talk and sometimes I can be quiet for weeks but not months.. please make sure she is OK cause I worry for her well being specially since she doesn't talk even with you the person she's meant to love.. that's scary .. I could understand her not talking around her parents or something but while she's with you she should feel safe and happy.. I think there's more going on that you don't know about and she needs a lot of love and support.. you sound like you really care for her so I have faith she will find herself again with your help... hope it all goes well... Good Luck ...
• India
16 Sep 06
Oh my god dont u hav anythin else to post
• United States
16 Sep 06
I use to be a quite shy person around people and especially when I firs met someone I liked but you said this is going on 9 months but also you have not spent that much time with her alone. It may have added up to 9 months but you still have not had that type of relationship that ohters have in the begining where you go out and do many different things where when someone is a shy person they begin to oepn up and revil there true feelings and self. I think when the 2 of you can have more quality alone time together she may open up and if it dosen't happen and you are not happy with her not talking then I think you may want to find someone you are compatible with. If someone is met to be together then it will happen in life.
@drilyas (843)
• Pakistan
16 Sep 06
leave her.lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
@gvl1954 (58)
• India
16 Sep 06
some people are not very talkative by nature. if she is too quiet for you to understand her better, then you could tell her so and see what her problem is. girls do not say much for a few reasons like shyness, low self-esteem, lack of knowledge, fear for being judged, so on and so forth. you could talk to her and find out and may be you could even help her come out her quietness?
@noorasie (686)
• Pakistan
16 Sep 06
That is really a very serious medical problem... you should immediately consult a good specialist.
16 Sep 06
If you want to make her talk, Put open ended questions, Ask more what,when,why,where,and how questions then she has to speak.
@berhanu (96)
• Ethiopia
16 Sep 06
you better spend more time with her