Do you ever feel like punishing your friends kids?

I'm not comfortable with punishing other peoples kids, but I sure do wish some parents would start doing their job and teach their kids the appropriate way to act and start correcting them for unacceptable behaviors. I had a friend that I stopped being friends with because of this very reason. Every time I went to her house her daughter who was five (which is way old enough to know better), would hit me or kick my husband or bully my daughter and neither the mom or dad would do anything about it. If we would go to dinner she would make such a scene that it would be embarrassing, and her parents would never do anything about that either. It got to the point that I couldn't take it anymore. Even my daughter who is 6 asked me why she acted like that and asked me if she had to be her friend.....how sad is that?!?

I sure do. I have a couple of friends who appparently don't believe in spanking or any sort of punishment and their kids are just rotten. They scream, push, cry, and anything else they can think of to get their way. I do not have any children yet, but when I do, I will NOT allow my child to act like that in public or at home. I think you have to start early in teaching a child what is acceptable behavior and what is not. And I mean REALLY early...not waiting until they are 5 before you start trying to teach them.

Most of my friends do not have children yet however I do think I want to discpline strangers kids sometimes. People don't know what they are doing they let their children walk all over them and embarass them like at the store or at a party. As a teacher I do step in at times with children. I would say things like we do not hit our mothers go to time out. Children do not know what they are doing is wrong until someone show them it is.

When my friends kids come here to the farm and they start messing around my stuff in my house, I just start giving them work to do on the farm, example to go and fill up the horse's water, or go and brush them and so on. It works like a bom!

i do feel like it but sit the parents down and tell them that they should control and punish there kid. Let them raise there kids there own way, and maybe they will pay for it later!

I love that putting them to work idea. My kids, and I have 4, bring kids in and out all day long. If I were to take them with me in a public place (first off I would have to be off my rocker to do so)and they were insane, I would tell them to stop whatever they are doing. If that does not work, I would pick up my purse and tell my children to get in the car. The kids all seem to love me and being at my house, I talk to them like they are human beings and if they do something I do not like I tell them that also. So far I had one older girl (14 years old) get a little nasty with me. LOL my son put a stop to that. He told her "that is my mom and if I don't talk to her that way you won't either". "Go home". Proud of my boys :D Usually though, just speaking with kids, yours or not, telling them that you do not like the behavior they are showing at the moment, will stop it. If it doesn't, do like I would, with warning that is (if this does not stop right now, I will leave). Then get up and leave if it doesn't. That way the other parent knows you have had enough and so does their child.

I rather feel like smacking the parents. We have a shop that caters for travellers and tourists, and you won't believe what parents let their kids do if they think they will never see you again! Don't they realize how antisocial their kids will become if they don't start guiding them? Yep, rather give the PARENTS a wake-up call! The kids are often just looking for attention.

I havent had chance to go out with my friends who have children lately but my 2 years old niece, she embarrased me when I go with her and my sister in law. She is out of control and I hate it. She scream if she dont get her way, she goes everywhere, and mom, she dont do a thing to stop her. I dont want to do it, because it should be the mom to take care of her but she wont do it so I do the punishing part.

I'm not backwards in coming forwards. I tell the kid exactly what I think of their behaviour and have done in front of the parents. I wouldn't agree with smacking the little buggers but to say nothing is to condone their brattish behaviour. I'm a bit of a wild Scot so the parents didn't challenge me on those occasions but did make feeble efforts to regulate their offspring after I'd said my piece.If they didn't then I'd have a go at them -- kids are a reflection of the parents and who needs prima donnas for friends? Or someone too weak to impose the boundaries that a child needs. If the chid rules the roost and not the parent then there's something seriously wrong.

Sometimes I get the feeling that certain are undisciplined and out of control, and I feel annoyed by the kids and embarassed for the parents and their inability to manage the behavior of their kids. But I keep my mouth shut about it!

That sucks, I would tell my friend something about the child's behavior or tell the child something in front of the parent so the parent can take a hint. It's horrible that parents think by ignoring their child's behavior that it's going to go away.

I don't think I could myself, I hate telling off my nephews, especially when the parents are around, it makes me feel uncomfortable.

Well sometimes, but it is usually my sisters kids that i want to yell at to stop being a brat but it just seems like the peoples kids that need to be disiplined the parents dont do it and they seem to get mad when someone else trys to do it

i use to be friends with a girl who daughter drove me nuts she was so bad for her mother and anyone else that was around her our children were in the same class at school and she was always getting into trouble i ended up ending the almost ten year friendship because it was too hard for me to hang out with her her daughter was so bad that their was always too many problems when i came over with my kids

I understand how you feel and I did have the same experience like that before but I never ever have a kind of feeling that wish to punish the kids. I will give some advise to my friends and if that didn't change at all I will just wouldn't wish to go out together with them. Its true that we should educate our kids some manner otherwise the parent will be just so shame when things like that happening in public.

never...i dont think that will work out

I am in the same situation. You can't really tell them to control their kids, because that is a touchy subject. Try to spend time with them without the kids.

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yeh I kno what you mean!!some parents are just too careless!!I am against the smacking though!

Yes I feel like that all the time with my girlfriends children and some times I do correct them and I dont even realize im doing it.