Well, that was an unexpected lazy day.

I hope you get them done, then. It's later then I'd like, but I have to load the dryer.

@kaylachan I will I think. If not, in the morning!

@kareng Well at least clothes are in the dryer.

George and I haven't started that yet. Since he's in his 60's and especially now that he's had a stroke, we keep getting the advanced directive/living will talk. We're not ready for that, yet. George will tell me when he no longer wants life-saving care.

@LindaOHio Trust me, he willl be able to let me know. From an outsiders perspective, it might've seemed like your husband didn't know you were there, because he wasn't making obvious signs to let you know. However, people with memory-based desises, can let their loved ones know their wishes. You just need to know how to read them and what they were telling you. So, when I say my husband will tell me when he no longer wants life-saving care... I don't mean he'll literally will tell me, but he'll let me know in some way. Bare in mind, both my parents passed at home as was per their wishes. They were able to let us know when they were ready go into hospice, and were able to sign their own advanced directives letting medical staff know they no longer wished life-saving care. When this decision is made it's often made weeks or months before the person has that life-ending event. While they are having moments of lucidity. My mother-in-law had altimizers, the most common form of dementia, and told my sister a week before she passed, that she was ready to go, by saying 'no more repairs'. So, you know that if the lines are open and you know your loved one enough, they;'ll let you know well before they enter the activly dying phase of life.

@kaylachan Sometimes your loved ones are not able to tell you what they want or are totally unconscious. My husband suddenly had full-on dementia and wasn't able to even know that I was in the room with him.