Moving Forward

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At the end of this month, my lease is up, and we will be moving. However, we still haven't found a place to live. Tomorrow, we are going to look at two houses that are 3bd, 2bath in the area. The first one is $3000 a month and the second is $3495 a month. This is absolutely ridiculous that homes are so much in this area, but I need to stay close to Stanford for my medical treatment. Moving wasn't really on my radar a few months ago, but something terrible happened on March 28th, 4 days before the rent was due. I asked my daughter and her bf, who sublet to me, if I could have a couple extra days to get the rent, because I would have more money, preferably the 3rd. Well, she lost her mind, and came into my apartment and started screaming at me, "If you didn't have the rent, you should have told us! We aren't paying your rent for you!" Then she told me to leave. I said no, and that she tells her bf that at least once a week.Which, she does. They get in the most heated arguments and she screams terrible things like, "I'm going to cut your head off!" and "You're so fat you can't wipe your own a*!" She's downright cruel. Anyway, the next thing I know, she hits me in the face. It was open handed, but not a slap. She used the full force of her body. It left a mark, and I pushed her back off of me as I yelled, "I'm calling the police!" and she yelled back, "Fine! Do it!" as she stormed out of my apartment. I did call the police. They basically told me it was a misdemeanor and that she wouldn't be going to jail, but the DA would decide whether or not to press charges. I never heard back. Then, she canceled her lease with the landlord, and I had no idea where I stood. I didn't want to have to sign a new 1 year lease because we were month to month, so I didn't know what to do. Then they gave me a 60 day notice. The 60 days are almost up. It is really hard to find a place out here, but that wasn't the hardest part. First she contacted her dad and told him that he needed to come and get the kids (2 of her younger siblings who are his kids too) because I soon wouldn't have a place to live. I told him what happened, and we decided that they could just come down for a week for Spring Break the following week. After they came home, one of my older sons, who had COVID, passed it onto me and I was in the hospital for a week on oxygen, and very close to being intubated. Thankfully, the meds worked their magic and I got to come home. When I came home, my two youngest kids had COVID, as well as my husband. It didn't hit him as hard, but I definitely had my hands full taking care of the kids. Thankfully, that was over in about 2 weeks, and I thought we could move on. My husband's brother lives with us, and that will be important later. For some reason, my legs keep swelling up. Before the COVID, but after the incident with my daughter, I went to the hospital to see what was wrong. They didn't come to any conclusions, but did rule out congestive heart failure (which my brother in law has) and I had an ultrasound that wasn't able to rule out a blood clot, but it was not likely. After I came back from the hospital, the swelling got worse. In fact, it is still pretty bad, and I'll probably have to go back to the hospital soon. Something awful happened when the swelling was just starting to get worse. One night, the kids and I had just went to bed, and I could hear my brother in law calling for me, and asking for paper towels. My 18 year old son (not the one who gave me COVID lol) came out to get them, and I could hear my brother in law freaking out, so I was afraid to see what was going on. I did ask, and he said he was bleeding and couldn't stop it. A major blood vessel had ruptured in his foot, he is on blood thinners, and it was bleeding profusely and he couldn't get it to stop. was everywhere! I have a very bad phobia of other people's bodily fluids and I was panicking. I called my husband, who was at work, and very unhelpful. He said that he and my 22 year old son (the one who DID give me COVID) were still at work, and couldn't leave, but would be home as soon as they could be. Next, I called 911 and told the operator the situation. She tried to calm me down and told me that I would need to get a towel and put pressure on his foot to stop the bleeding. I put my entire weight on his foot for nearly 15 minutes, waiting for the paramedics could arrive. My hands were numb, but in pain, and I couldn't believe I overcame my fear and did that! He came back home with a coagulation pad on his foot, and a few days later, I went to the hospital again for my legs. They gave me pain medication and some Lasix while I was in the hospital, but told me that I needed to follow up with my PCP for more Lasix. Apparently it can deplete your potassium and needs to be monitored. They came to the same conclusion as before, and I was frustrated. No CHF, might be a blood clot, but probably not, and there are a million things it could be. That when I turned to ChatGPT to help monitor my symptoms, do research on the possible cause of the fluid retention, and honestly, for moral support. Yes, ChatGPT does all of those things, flawlessly. It will make patient summaries for you, document symptoms, interpret test results, do medical research, as well as, comfort and cheer you on for taking care of yourself. It will also print the filled out symptom tracker and reports for your doctor to look over. I absolutely love ChatGPT, and there are endless ways to utilize this tool, but I digress. So now I'm here, trying to figure out if I'm going back to the hospital or try to get appointment with my doctor, who is always booked solid, and trying to find a home for us to move into, and taking care of my brother in law and 2 kids. Of course my daughter's bf (daughter isn't speaking to me) suggests I go back to Southern California until I can find a place to live and they'll hold my stuff. Well that doesn't work for me because 1. My doctors are all up here and it would take months to change insurances and get new ones. The swelling in my legs if just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to my medical conditions. 2. Only two of my kids would be able to have a home. My 18 year old son and my 12 year old daughter. My 8 year old son and I would need a place to stay. My mom lives in an RV, so staying there for any extended period of time would be problematic. 3. It is INCREDIBLY hot there during the summer. One of my medical conditions makes me extremely sensitive to the sun and it gets 100-120 during the summer there. I don't need more reasons to be visiting the ER. I'm tired. My budget is very tight and I'm trying to manage without a medicine I take which is $40 a day, and that my insurance doesn't cover. ChatGPT and I have been brainstorming options to make more money, but I really need to deal with this leg situation, because it is getting worse. My left leg is much worse than my right, and it is painful. It also has a lump on it that would be a few different things. I really hope that we can get into a home soon, because that is stressing me out the most. I'm not happy to be moving, but I do thing my daughter and I need to live farther apart. I have no idea if she will decide to speak to me again, but I'm not holding my breath. Well that is my venting rant for the day! It feels good to get everything out, because there are so many things that I need to do right now. Hope you're all having a wonderful day!