Things People Say When They Don't Like You

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Life would be so much easier if conversations were like those on television shows where the actors just say what they think or mean. If somebody doesn't like you, shouldn't they just tell you? Wouldn't you rather know they don't like you than listen to their subtle barbs and fake sweetness? Psychologists made a list of some of the things people say when whey subtly don't like you. "No offense, but . . ." Of course there's going to be offense if you start out a statement this way. Have you ever said this to someone? Did you like them? "Don't take this the wrong way . . ." Same as "no offense, but . . ." "Why do you always…?” Using the word "always" is judgmental. Theyu've already decided you're wrong. “I’m just being honest,” is most often said right after they’ve said something harsh or offensive. “You’re too sensitive.” Can't I have reactions or emotions? Shutting down sensitivities is denying their humanness. “Whatever, it’s fine.” That's usually a signal that they've just hung up on you. It's an emotional shutdown “Are you still talking about that?” They are signaling annoyance and condescension. I would imagine you've heard all of these before. I have.