Spending the 4th of July with my boyfriend
By laser_vision
@laser_vision (130)
United States
July 5, 2025 2:20am CST
He’s a treasure. The two of us raided Sprouts and Jimbos for food, then spent our day at a coffee shop. We watched a movie together on my laptop, then we did work on our own projects on own computers for a few hours. It was nice to be in the company of someone who loves me all day, as well as enjoy free air conditioning. After that, we got some exercise and then found a spot to watch the fireworks. For us, that’s a great day.
Part of the reason behind the land project is that the two of us want to spend more time with each other. Our work weeks can be harsh and threatening, so it’s a relief to connect with another human who is willing to be loving and thoughtful and work on themselves (and their projects). Not to mention the fact that both of us enjoy tasty, healthy food and physical activity.
I probably should be thinking more about the nation, but my boyfriend is a U.S. combat veteran from the Army paratroopers so I think I can get away with thinking about him on the 4th. I’ve learned that both the 4th and Memorial Day are a bit hard on him so me being there for him on those days really seems to help him out. It makes him feel less alone and abandoned.
Needless to say, I enjoyed this day and I feel good about it too. He’s not a burden to me, and sometimes just giving the gift of your presence when is needed has positive feeling returns to the giver.
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@Ineeddentures (12474)
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5 Jul
"Our work weeks can be harsh and threatening"
Could you explain that sentence please in some detail?
@laser_vision (130)
• United States
5 Jul
Work Week: Monday--Friday, aka the time we spend alone without each other or working with each other if we are fortunate.
Harsh: people who don't pay us enough for our work, people who don't pay us on time, people who are nasty about us needing both of those two things, people who expect us to work around their schedule when we don't have endless time, energy, and gas for them to mess with us.
Threatening: bills and expenses. The phone bill, the car insurance, the storage unit bills my boyfriend has to pay, the credit card bill I have to pay.
And before you ask, both of us are U.S. citizens who can't get jobs. We take whatever work we can get at whatever we can get it for. We helped someone move their storage unit last month for $10 an hour. The state minimum wage is $16 an hour. We did landscaping for an elderly couple for free soup and a free hoodie for me. We are not freeloaders. We deserve to be paid more, and people will not pay us what we are worth.
It honestly angers me to work hard all month, both online and off, and then have to go to a charity in order to get my car registration paid for, and then find out that I've been lied to and I have to wait another week to get that thing paid, risking that the DMV won't mail me my stickers on time. And this, after I went to said charity in May asking them to pay for it then, but no, I have to wait until the exact month when it is due. I said, can I come in on July 1st? They said YES. I come back on the first, they won't do it because they have a bunch of rental assistance appointments. I hate being lied to and postponed when I need things to happen.
I honestly like working. I know that gardening and building is hard work in the hot sun, but I enjoy it. I enjoy writing forum posts and poems and articles. But I'm getting tired of people who can't be honest and walk their talk. I don't want my future to be contingent on whether other people like me. I would rather deal with plants. At least they are reliable if you feed them properly.
Sorry for the rant, but Trump passed the Big Beautiful Bill recently and it's pretty clear that freeloader shaming is on the rise. I just wanted to make it clear that we're not part of that class of video game players. The last time I played a game, it was because I got paid $48 for it by Swagbucks, and if I wasn't getting paid, I wouldn't have played it at all.
The whole economic situation of my generation doesn't leave me resigned as much as angry and frustrated. I'm still trying to beat it using creativity.
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