Another Day in the Making
By Ithink
@Ithink (10047)
United States
November 5, 2025 1:28pm CST
I'm healing slowly from the pulled muscle, as soon as it is better enough for me to sit for a little over 1/2 hour I can have my Aunt take me over to my moms. For now hubby and my Aunt check in on her and do what is needed.
Just got off the phone with her and she agreed to let the thought of another vehicle go. Will see how long that will last. Wish my brother would take an interest in helping if it was only to back me up and talk to her. It is what it is.
Paid her bills yesterday and today so that is done for the month. We are picking her up a new microwave and I will be making her freezer meals so all she has to do is put them in the microwave to eat. She asks for McDonalds all the time and we do what she asks but hoping to get her to eat better homemade foods in her. We did that a bit ago but she says her microwave she has is stupid. I took a look and it has a lock on it so makes it hard for her to use.
Anyways on the home front got some more stuff decluttered and that is about all I managed today besides regular cleaning, just plain tired today. Letting others irritate me with what they probably consider help but unless you know all the information and the person being dealt with you cant just say how things should be done. Everyone is different and has to be dealt with differently. Just like all house holds are not the same, what works for one wont work for another.
Going for now as Im irritated and getting depressed with all this stuff going on in life right now. I will be back to me tomorrow, hope all has a good day.
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3 responses
@AmbiePam (105705)
• United States
13h
Hey, if you ever need to talk, I’m only a PM away. 
That situation sounds similar to when my dad and I were caring for my late mom with dementia. Everyone had an opinion, including one person telling me my mom hit me (dementia induced obviously) because “she had been suppressing it all these years”. Uh, yeah right. And then my own grandmother, her mother, would tell us what we should do. I was like, do you want the job? Because you have no idea. The woman you raised is no longer there…
That situation sounds similar to when my dad and I were caring for my late mom with dementia. Everyone had an opinion, including one person telling me my mom hit me (dementia induced obviously) because “she had been suppressing it all these years”. Uh, yeah right. And then my own grandmother, her mother, would tell us what we should do. I was like, do you want the job? Because you have no idea. The woman you raised is no longer there…1 person likes this
@Ithink (10047)
• United States
11h
Thank you so much, that is it, she isn't what she once was and I have accepted that. I have accepted that she needs care and needs us more than ever. My brother is your grandmother, no help but tried to tell me in what order to even do her doctors in. She told him that she did wreck the car, his response was he was sorry hugs but had to go to work. Never even doubled checked with my aunt or me on how she is really doing. Its tiring that is for sure. I don't even bother with him at this point, she did put me on her checking account so I can handle all financial things.That made him upset but he was on it before for almost 10 years and her bills not paid or anything along with we think but no proof she should have had more in the account, water under the bridge. New start, But emotionally draining on some days.
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@RasmaSandra (90582)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10h
It is the time change and the early darkness that has me kind of really down now, I hope you can hold on and feel better soon and your muscle heals quickly,
@kaylachan (80391)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13h
You just need to take a deep breath and take things one day at a time. Get legal advice as I've stated about how to move forward with the driving issue. If she's getting frusterated with the microwave, or something else.... that could be a sign there's more going on your mom herself mot be able to communicate or is fully aware of themselves. So, keep that in mind. Patience is key, because things don't always happen quickly.
