something that is hard to forget

@Akutza90 (406)
Semarang, Indonesia
December 25, 2025 9:23am CST
Hello friends. I want to tell you a little about my past when I worked abroad. When I was still working in the country, my income was not enough, so I was determined to work abroad, even though the costs were relatively expensive, I still tried to find a way to go there. Even though my debt to the bank has not been paid off yet. So after my work period there ended, I now live with my current situation even though my family no longer cares about me. Indeed, life after that, I am now like a child who is not devoted to them. Am I wrong if I do that? Hopefully, God has beautiful guidance for me.
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@Shivram59 (47160)
• India
27 Dec
I have never been abroad. I now have a small business of my own. I pray God blesses you with success in your attempts.
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@Akutza90 (406)
• Semarang, Indonesia
27 Dec
Why don't you try it my friend. Thank you my friend, I will also pray for your success in all areas of business.
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@Shivram59 (47160)
• India
27 Dec
@Akutza90 Tons of thanks, dear. I resigned from my job three years back and worked hard to have a business of my own. I surrendered myself to the Almighty
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@Akutza90 (406)
• Semarang, Indonesia
28 Dec
@Shivram59 Why not try another business? Maybe it's a valuable lesson to get back up and become a successful person.
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• India
29 Dec
I can understand. We are in similar crossroads as well. My friend, your story reflects courage, sacrifice, and a deep desire to improve your life. And you are willing to fight. Choosing to work abroad despite financial hardship shows responsibility, not selfishness. You were trying to survive and build a better future, even while carrying debt and pressure. It is not a bed of roses when you go to a foreign country unless you are really lucky. It is mostly a mat full of thorns! Sometimes families do not understand the weight of the decisions we are forced to make. Living apart or choosing a different path does not make you an ungrateful or disloyal child. Life circumstances can push us into roles we never imagined, and that is not a sin. Perhaps it is destiny. What matters is your intention, effort, and the values you still hold in your heart. Feeling alone now does not mean your journey was wrong or meaningless. Have faith that God sees your struggles and will guide you toward healing, peace, and a better tomorrow. Good luck!
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• India
29 Dec
Take care Champ!
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@Akutza90 (406)
• Semarang, Indonesia
29 Dec
@RevivedWarrior ready at any time.
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@Akutza90 (406)
• Semarang, Indonesia
29 Dec
Oh my gosh, your words make my heart cry. You are so right that I can no longer say anything. Thank you, my brother.
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@snowy22315 (202609)
• United States
26 Dec
I hope everything will work out, and your family probably cares about you even if they don't,t show it alotm
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@Akutza90 (406)
• Semarang, Indonesia
26 Dec
I always pray that they will be given health and abundant sustenance. And I am aware that my brothers and sisters here still need great support.
• Philippines
9 Jan
Don't keep grudges, you will hurt yourself. Forgive. Forgivng doesn't mean that you have to be okay with the people who hurt and still hurting your feelings, but try to be civil, you forgive not for them but for yourself, so you can be free from all the negativity. I hope you find forgiveness in your heart and able to move on. God bless.
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@Akutza90 (406)
• Semarang, Indonesia
9 Jan
y my friend I have forgiven what he did to me a few years ago.
• Midland, Michigan
28 Dec
Hello and welcome to my lot. It's a great site to interact with friends and cultures, (although I'm not here as much as I used to be). I don't fully understand your story. I'm guessing that your parents disowned you when you decided to live and work in a different country? And that's possibly they never welcomed your back upon your return. If I'm understanding the situation correctly it's possible they did that to save face with their church or friends. We had something similar happen when we were young. I'm the oldest of six kids and three of us left the church we were brought up in and joined a different church. My dad told us that he no longer considered us his kids. But that's something that can't be changed just by what is said and eventually he welcomed us back. So don't give up on your family. Ever.
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• Midland, Michigan
28 Dec
@Akutza90 I'm sorry to hear that. It's unfortunate but that type of things probably happens all over the world.
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@Akutza90 (406)
• Semarang, Indonesia
28 Dec
Actually, my family doesn't welcome my wife, so my family once urged me to leave my wife. But I didn't want to. I still can't just leave my wife and child because my wife has an illness. Maybe that's why my family doesn't welcome her well until now.
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@Akutza90 (406)
• Semarang, Indonesia
28 Dec
@MarshaMusselman Yes, that's right, and I'm one of them. If I were someone with a good income, I would go to the end of the world to get treatment for my wife. But with my income below average, I just pray to God to give me health and good luck.