Making friends
By Karen Jade
@k_krist (229)
Denmark
7 responses
@sissy15 (13340)
• United States
27 Jun
I've always been socially awkward and have always struggled with deep connections. I have always had a few friends, but I rarely hang out with anyone who isn't my husband or son anymore. I get along with people, but I've found my interests are typically different from a lot of people, and I don't do well with connecting with most people. I am terrible at staying connected to people. The friends I have, I usually keep, though. I'm a loyal friend once I make friends, it's the making part I'm not great at.
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@sissy15 (13340)
• United States
29 Jun
@k_krist I've never been completely friendless; I've always had friends; it's just that I don't make them easily. I also don't trust easily, so that plays a part. I had some "friends" in high school who ended up betraying me and making fun of me to my face and behind my back. After that, I let very few people in. I think between those things combined, it has made finding friends more difficult, but ultimately, I end up with the right kind of friends, I don't see most of my friends much anymore because our lives are busy, but they exist, and when we do talk or get together, it's like no time has passed. I think at this point in my life, I'm less worried about making new friends and more concerned with staying connected with the ones I do have, even if I don't talk to them or see them much, I try to keep the connections strong, so if it has been a few months I'll randomly reach out and say hi, and sometimes they'll do the same.
@AmbiePam (123327)
• United States
6 Jun
That’s a good way of putting it, an act of quiet courage. It’s been awhile since I’ve made new friends in “real life” (not online). Most of my friends are through church, including my best friend. You see each other on church days, you go to church potlucks, you get invited to dinner, you just get to know them over time.
My other friends are ones I still have from elementary school and college. There are fewer of them, but they are still important. Sometimes the thought of making new friends exhausts me, but I’m absolutely open to it. I’m a quiet person, but very friendly.
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@Deepizzaguy (123500)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
6 Jun
My problem is making the right move to make the connection.
@Ineeddentures (38916)
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6 Jun
"At the end of the day, making friends is an act of quiet courage"
Making friends requires courage because it involves stepping out of your comfort zone and risking rejection. This act of bravery can lead to meaningful connections and deeper relationships
I actually think this is nonsense
What happened to the child we used to be when we eagerly made.friends with no fear of rejection
We take on board false narratives thrust on us by people who have been rejected and who want to instill that fear in us that we will experience the same
I think you have over thought this.
I really do.
Supermarkets. Best place to meet people.
A place where single people go to fill in time. You can identify them by the forlorn way they meander around the aisles, picking up expensive items they have no intention buying, or in Denmark that's everything lol
Take the bull by the horns, be brave. The aisle where you get chocolates is good
If you get really s ared of meeting someone, buy a bar of chocolate
Do you suffer from a social anxiety
@k_krist (229)
• Denmark
7 Jun
Nope. I’m not suffering from any social anxieties. I actually can make friends easily. For example church and school and at work. I don’t have any problems with that. But I think when I was younger like high school, I kinda had insecurities but I already outgrown them luckily.
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@Ineeddentures (38916)
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7 Jun
@k_krist
You do come across as likeable.
No doubt about that.
Did you know though that the supermarket really is where many friendships start?
@k_krist (229)
• Denmark
7 Jun
@Ineeddentures nah. Not for me. Haven’t had any friends I met at the supermarket. But yeah that’s awesome place to meet some I guess.
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@detoya (55)
• Denpasar, Indonesia
21 Jun
I actually find it very difficult to get to know someone because I often have difficulty starting a conversation. I am often confused about finding suitable topics. I prefer to be alone even if someone I don't know sits next to me. But, if I already know someone, when I meet them I will definitely greet them and have a conversation and often lose track of time.
