Have you ever ruined somebody's life?
By Toni
@toniganzon (79099)
Philippines
August 16, 2026 7:10am CST
Intentionally or unintentionally?
I was told I did.
I was graduating in my senior year of high school when I started dating this university guy. He was 18, I was 16. But we dated only once and with a chaperone.
We never saw each other again after that first and last date because I had to leave for university. He knew my dormitory address and would frequently send me letters.
I wrote him back telling him that he should stop coz I wanted to focus on my studies and I didn't have time for boys.
Years later, I learned that he got kicked out of the university and had to transfer to another one. HIs friends said, he failed in his studies because of me!
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@teamfreak16 (44895)
• Denver, Colorado
3h
More than one has told me that. 
Sounds like he was a bit obsessed.
Sounds like he was a bit obsessed.1 person likes this
@toniganzon (79099)
• Philippines
3h
Yes he was. And it was his friend/roommate who told my brother, who was unaware I dated anybody. So my brother thought he was being delusional.
My siblings were aware he was courting me but then never knew I ever went out on a date with him.
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@teamfreak16 (44895)
• Denver, Colorado
3h
@toniganzon - It sounds like it was good you did what you did when you did. He probably would have been even more obsessed.
@rsa101 (41669)
• Philippines
27m
How does it make you feel to unintentionally hurt someone? I can't really recall a specific person, but I believe I remember a girl I was attracted to but never had the guts to court. Her aunt, a friend of my mother's, told me that the girl was waiting for me, but I didn't do anything, so she was disappointed until we parted ways after graduation and lived separate lives. I believe she later got married, but it didn't work out and she didn't have children of her own.
