why children dont talk with parents??

India
December 3, 2006 8:25am CST
Why Do u think Children wont share thier thoughts,their feelings with their parents instead with their friends thouugh parents r the one who care abt them most?? Why Children wont share their problem with their parents????
6 responses
• Australia
6 Dec 06
This is a complex topic where one answer won't suffice, because we have many different case scenarios. In general I do believe that 40-50 years ago there was more communication between parents and children. At that stage most mothers were full time mothers. Now I am NOT saying that mothers shouldn't work, but the busy-ness of life must cut down on TIME spent with the children and on continual communication which builds trust and respect. I do know families where both parents work and this is still intact, but I fear these are the exceptions to the rule. It certainly is true there is more of a gap now than there was when my sons were teenagers. If the parents want more communication, then it is the PARENTS who must work at it. It will not happen over night. They have to EARN their children's confidence and this will come with unconditional love, coupled with set boundaries and enforced discipline.
• India
6 Dec 06
u r right..communiaction gap is also a eson for that
• India
3 Dec 06
children cant tell any matter to their parents because parents scold at them if they say anything wrong and advice them which is not liked by the children,but the friends are friendly to express thier inner feelings.
• India
5 Dec 06
the fear of being scolded by parents is right
• Romania
3 Dec 06
because they feel that their friends understand them more than their parents will...especially teenagers....they confess to their friends because they are on the same wave length.they might also think that their parents might get mad and punish them....come on...even you had things that you didn't tell your parents and told your friends instead....
• India
5 Dec 06
i totally agree with u...i think its the fear that their parents wont love them if they tell about their mistakes...parents should give UNCONDITIONAL LOVE then only children will talk infront of them..what do u say??
@tiibbaamm (613)
• Indonesia
4 Dec 06
i think that parents don't spend enough time with their children. therefore they don't feel close enough to share their feeling. parents sometimes only think about how to better financial economy, they also want the best for their children and wanting the best from their children. this kind of thinking makes the children feel more comfortable with theire friends then their parents.
• Romania
4 Dec 06
because they have no trust in parents...or simply they are afraid...
@taraka (717)
• India
3 Dec 06
they share if parents move close to them as frns but many of parents are not movin like tat