What's Most Important To You?

What makes you SMILE? - smile,happy,fulfillment
@tentwo67 (3384)
United States
December 3, 2006 11:02am CST
Would you rather be extremely successful professionally and have a tolerable yet unexciting private life, or have an extremely happy private life and only a tolerable and uninspiring professional life? For me this one is easy. I would much prefer to get my satisfaction in life from my private and not my professional life. I decided a long time ago that work doesn't have to bring fulfillment to me - it's just a means to an end. I will say, though, that I'm more likely to stick with a job I don't enjoy if it pays well, and much more likely to chuck it if they're not paying well AND I'm not having fun. If it's fun but not profitable, I'll hang in as long as I can. What do you guys think about this?
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39 responses
• United States
3 Dec 06
Definately an extremely happy private life is way more important. I know this from personal experience. I dedicated nearly 7 years of my life to a job that I thought was rewarding and important to me. Unfortunately it nearly led me to a nervous breakdown. Even though this job was stressing me out beyond reason, I stuck it out. I was fired from the job. YEAH. I am now happier than I have ever been. My finances suck, but who the hell cares.
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@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
3 Dec 06
You are so right!
• India
4 Dec 06
yes an extremly happy life to me to!i think is more important because if you private life is happy you are feeling good no mether the circumstances.butt you havea good carear you ar moust of the time unhappy because you feel thet something is measing from you life! my belive is that if to peple love each other they can manig and they can do anything to be happy and coplit from any points of weu toghether you can do anithing! suport love and trust is the key word to a happy life!
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@urzicutza (1973)
• Romania
3 Dec 06
yes an extremly happy life to me to!i think is more important because if you private life is happy you are feeling good no mether the circumstances.butt you havea good carear you ar moust of the time unhappy because you feel thet something is measing from you life! my belive is that if to peple love each other they can manig and they can do anything to be happy and coplit from any points of weu toghether you can do anithing! suport love and trust is the key word to a happy life!
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@ossie16d (11827)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
I had an extremely successful professional life and at the same time a happy private life for many years, but I could only do it because I had the support of my husband. Also I was always able to negotiate my employment contract (from the late 1970's), which meant that I could add or remove certain things which did or did not suit me. Not everyone is that lucky, but I was one of the fortunate ones. During this time I was also a mother, but as I said I did have the support of my husband. However, my husband became ill and when it was obvious this was not going to go away in a hurry, I immediately quit my job to be at home with my family because they needed me more than any employer ever did. There does need to be a balance between the two, professional and personal life, and you do need support from your partner or it would be extremely difficult.
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@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Definitely need that balance!
@ossie16d (11827)
• Australia
7 Dec 06
Thanks very much for giving me best response on this one. It is really appreciated tentwo67. :)
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@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Dec 06
Oh! I just noticed your smiley face with the thing that looks like a circular gear around it. It's pretty cute, I musy say!
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@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Why, thank you! I thought it was very cute too!!
@theyaume (197)
• Canada
4 Dec 06
For me. the most important thing is the happy private life. I would rather earn just enough too see my future wife and children more often instead of working like crazy to earn more to pay for big travels to forget about everything. Family is more precious than a boss that can replace you without any problems if you leave. By the way, The Family Man is a good movie that deals with this dilemma.
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@tentwo67 (3384)
• United States
4 Dec 06
That is a good one, you're right!
• United States
11 Feb 07
Joseph Campbell said it and I always say it Follow your bliss. If you are lucky enough, you are happy both in your personal and professional life.I would choose to be happy in my personal life.You can always change a job you don't like, but it is so much harder to change families or friends.
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• United States
28 Dec 06
The most important thing to me is my family if anything happen to them I will be lost. I don't mean my mom or dad I mean the family I have made .
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@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
7 Dec 06
Interesting question. Well, successful and unexciting and subjective. So I think I would rather do a job that I like and do it well. I'm not a professional anymore. It made me crazy. The job I have now brings me a lot of physical and emotional satisfaction, plus a pay cheque. Actually, at home does the same thing for me! Except for the pay cheque.
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
I think end of the day the answer lies within yourself. Some people will not be unhappy until all their professional goals are met while others gladly take the backseat careerwise and would much prefer to concentrate building a more fulfilling life for themselves and ones close to them. End of the day I feel we must achieve a balance. Moderation is the key to happiness in life. And follow what your heart tells you to do..make sure when you do something, do it with passion and give your best.
@zeus1a (1048)
• Netherlands
5 Dec 06
For me it would be a fine blance of both of them.But if my work doesnt go well i cant be well in my personal life!Money comes from it so that has an impact on personall life.But indeed personal life is the most important
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@zambian (31)
• India
4 Dec 06
Where does one begin and the other end? I would much rather have a balance in my life.If I am successful at work it will reflect in my private life. Besides, you spend most of your waking hours at work and and if those hours are not fulfilling it will have a negative impact on your private life, no matter how wonderfull it is to begin with.
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• India
4 Dec 06
i think we should take both professional and private life separately. one should not mix both of them at any point of time. professional life should only be lived at the times of job. but private life is the place which i personally feel as a heaven for me. i enjoy being living life to the fullest. money!who don't want to earn , all r crazy about it but the present life if missed will never come back in future. Be true, spread love everywhere and make the fullest of your life.
• India
4 Dec 06
Hmm...private vs professional???Thats a tough decision to make...But u can't just single out one and say u don't need the other!!! I'll probably want a great private life(i've already planned how its got to be...)but a a private life is great only after u work out the professional life properly!!!!They are complimentary!!! So that means i'll want a good professional and a good private life...This might seem impossible,but its impossible only as long as u look at it that way....! Turn around and u'll find a whole new meaning in it!!!
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@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
4 Dec 06
i dont think i could be happy with either or. i want both a successful professional career and a happy private life...there shouldnt be any reason to choose between the two.
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• India
4 Dec 06
liking - liking one another is very important,if it is not there life becomes useless.
wheather it is professional life or private life we should make one thing very clear that one should not interupt one,which is very important.then only we can lead a happy and peaceful life.
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• India
4 Dec 06
I would like to live a big life rather than long life.
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• India
4 Dec 06
Life ismy most important thing Because at any person have belive him a successful professionally life Life is only one thing in living person
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@iluvujoy (311)
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
The Family - The family is the basic unit in the society and as for me, I love my family much...
The most important for me is my family. They are the reason why I continue to live. Although, God is my first love but next to Him is my family. I will really do anything just for the good of them. I love them so much...
• Italy
4 Dec 06
love - love
for me the thing more important is the health, then the money and then the love. Without health you cannot earn money. Without money the love is difficult
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• India
4 Dec 06
In short, my job will be a part of my life rather than my life being a part of my job....have a nice day
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