How to help a friend cope?

@gewcew23 (8010)
United States
December 4, 2006 10:33am CST
A friend of mine lost her mother this weekend and I was wondering if you could tell me some ways to help her cope. I know I can pray for her and her family, and take a meal etc. but is there something that I could do or say to her. I have never had to experience this and I thank God for that everyday. I don't know what I will do when that day comes. Thank you.
6 responses
@crankycool (1052)
• India
4 Dec 06
I think you should ask her to stay with you for sometime till she recovers from the loss of her mother. All that she needs is consoling and a shoulder to cry on. I think you, being her friend, shoud be the one providing the support that she needs now.
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@gewcew23 (8010)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Thanks for the idea. I don't know if I could get her away from her husband for the night or not. But I might try to have maybe a girls night. Thanks again.
• United States
4 Dec 06
Thats really sad, but try to comfort her the best you can. Talk to her everyday, make sure she does her daily things. Depression can lead to serious health issues. Go shopping together, go to the movies, ect. She will be very destressed for a while, but a good friend like you can help her.
@gewcew23 (8010)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I didn't even think about the depression. I just pray that she will let me know if there is anything I can do for her. I know that she has her husband but he is going through this too as he lost a parent earlier this year. Thanks again.
@Polly1 (12647)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Continue doing what you are doing, the most important thing you can do, other than praying for her and her family, Is to just be there, be her friend, hugs are good. Check on her often, visit with her. you don't have to say anything particular.
@villageanne (8554)
• United States
23 Jan 07
When my husband lost his mother, it was hard on all of us. Food being brought in was great but I think what we really needed was a shoulder to cry on and someone to just say, 'I cant imagine how you feel but I just wanted you to know I am here." So many people say "I am sorry" or "Is there anything that I can do?" but not many people really try to do something.
• United States
19 Jan 07
What you said is all you can do. Sometimes at a time like this, it is better to say nothing. Just being there to let them cry is more than enough. And prayer is always the very best thing to do.
@Asylum (48063)
• Manchester, England
4 Dec 06
There is very little that you can do apart from what you have already suggested. The most important thing is to be there as a friend so that she knows there is someone that she can rely on. Any loss of family is a difficult thing to cope with and only time will ease the loss, although it will never completely disappear. You are obviously a friend that cares, so you are already helping.