One week has gone by and the molester has still not been questioned......
By krankies
@krankies (811)
United States
December 4, 2006 3:00pm CST
I week ago today a 5 year girl who is one of my son’s closest friends was molested by an 11 year boy who lives down the street. The four days of school have been very upsetting for the little girl as this boy is aloud to talk to her everyday. This boy has been taken off of the bus service for twisted arms of the other children and placed on a different bus, not allowed to play on the play ground for abuse of behavior and know the school is saying it’s his word against the other children. They need more proof. The police department said that they are waiting to question the family because they would like to catch them off guard and that those of us who are aware should not tell other moms in the neighborhood. Wednesday is they day that the little girl will talk to the prosecutor and they will than determine what to do about the boy. This will be the third time this little girl has to report this incident. Does this seem right? How could something so horrible take this long for the proper response, why are there no consoler being brought in for this little girl? Is there something I should be doing to spread the word?
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@rms2727 (815)
• India
5 Dec 06
definitely have to go forward and spread out the word, because the more we shield such things the more they grow. and as far as the school is concern the generally do not escalate the matter because the school reputation is involved.
this boy seems to have some mental illness and if it is ignored it will grow up to be a major threat for other people in the future.
for this girl you must talk to our parents and if there is a need he should be given counseling.
in the meantime a few of you parents should get together and demand a strict action boat from the police and the school authorities
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@sexysilver (928)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Because the boy is still considered young it may be complicating the case. Either way the police SHOULD NOT intimidate the little girl when questioning her, or try to sway her answer (if the boys parents have friends in law enforcement, they may try to do this). Make sure no officer is left alone w/her ( this can be a very traumatic time & emotionally stressful when left alone w/ strangers).
Although it porbably isn't best to spread the word I can completely understand wanting to let EVERYONE know. But it can hinder any investigation going on because details get shared/mixed up then the police will have tons of variations of what they have heard the little girl said & none may be correct, so then her testamony may not be as reliable as it would've been if all that was told was ONE version, told ONLY to her mom & the police. KWIM?
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I toldly understand what you are saying, but it has been a week. How much longer do we have wait. This girl is five don't you think some of the details might be forgotton. Just todat she confessed to her mom that he has done this two other times before to her. My heart hurts to think of what this poor little girls goes through when she closes her eyes at night. My son has played with this little girl for three years and are great friends, mjust last night my son woke up crying which is out of the ordinary for him.
@sexysilver (928)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I'm sorry, I guess I misunderstood. I thought they had taken a statement, but the investiagon on gatering other evidence was taking awhile & that's why it's taking awhile.
I was raped by one of my friends & my stepdad. The case w/ my stepdad never was repoerted b/c my mom told the police I had an argument with him & was just mad at him (yes we did argue, but it was over him sneaking into my bedroom at night). When my friend raped me however, the police were VERY prompt about taking my statement, but the investagation still took awhile.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 06
Out of Experience do not spread the word
I felt the same as you do now when it happend to my Daughter when she was 5 At the time I could not understand it and thought nothing was being done but it was
So bear with it a bit longer yes it is awful and I really know how you feel and I hope it gets sorted soon
The other warning I can give is it took 3 years for it to come out of my Girl and she was in a bad way when it did
She had to have councelling then to help her
I was on Valiums when it happend but the reason of that was I was rapped for 2 years from the age of 5 so when my Daughter got sexually assaulted at that age it got me worse then normal
Just support the little Girl as much as you can and please make sure to tell her that she has done nothing wrong and that it was not her fault that is so important
Hug her lots and show her she is still loved
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I am sorry that you and your daughter have both experience such an awful time in your life. We need better laws for the victims. The few of us who know, feel that reasurrance and hugs is what we need to do, but what about the rest of the moms who may let this little boy play in their backyard. I just found out at 4:00 today that this is the 3rd time he has done this.
@avonelle26 (364)
• Anguilla
5 Dec 06
Some people om this world is really crazy and have no kind of consideration for other people and is very inhumane.
@Tatsuya (1149)
• United States
5 Dec 06
This little girl needs someone to talk to, someone to trust. As for the boy, I would have sent him off to military school a while ago. Molesting a 5 year old is a disturbing and disgusting thought. This boy should be put in a juvenile detention hall and do communtiy service. I think he should be in juvie until he is 18, and also go to military school until he is 18. I just can't believe the justice system of doing this. I would tell all the other mothers, so it doesn't happen to one of their children. This boy may not be an adult, but I'm sure he knows better. I don't understand why the police are being so dumb about this. Please let us know what happens.
@sammy1128 (241)
• China
5 Dec 06
uncredible,a boy at age of 11 would molest a 5-year-old girl.the justice should be questioning.
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
They should be questioning everyone in that house. Incredible is right just imagine how many other times this as happen considering threr is a 3 year girl that lives in the house. Boo...hoo... on the police, they are putting us moms in a very diffucult spot.
@rajendrababu (1966)
• India
5 Dec 06
hey i understand one thing,that guy is also a small boy,and he should be mentally treated,that is why he is doing allthese and he cannot be punished no?he is only 11.dont confuse yourself.
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
His mom was arrested for pickimg him up from school drunk with a three year ols in the car, when the police arrested her the dog in the car was also drunk, 6 days later another DUI, This family just moved to my district because our school desided to start a program for troubled children. He was removed from a school that I'm sure he earn his time and given another chance, yes he was a victim years ago but now he is a threat to all.
@blossomingflower (636)
• India
5 Dec 06
What did you do so far was the right thing to do and I hope and pray your message definitely gets the desired result.
@pcbulawanv (680)
• Austria
5 Dec 06
You should report the incident to the authorities. You can seek assistance from a legal team if you really want to help solve the case.
@pcbulawanv (680)
• Austria
5 Dec 06
You should report the incident to the authorities. You can seek assistance from a legal team if you really want to help solve the case.
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
You are right about seeking legal team and have already dicussed it. The police have till the end of wednesday and than then familys will pull together and hire their own legal team to remove this family from the neighborhood as they are a threat to each an ever person living here.
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
He has a three year old sister and the police still have not talked with the family, They would like to take there 3rd stament from this little girl on wednesday. I found out yesterday he has done this a total of three times to this girl. I could scream!
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
4 Dec 06
Maybe because of the boys young age, the Police have to be sure of the evidence and such, I guess They have to take a lot into consideration, I am not sure....
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I question our laws. They seem so antiqated still. This is an awful situation. I wish I had an answer, but I don't. A lot of this is happening. Look at rapists and killers. We work hard to support them in jail, so they can have meals, tv, and so forth. Is there justice in anything anymore? I wonder. Poor little girl. My heart hurts for her.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
5 Dec 06
This is not right. Something is wrong with the system in your town. If this was an adult that committed this crime there would be no questions asked. He/she would be removed and incarcerated. The boy should be removed from his home and placed into state custody. It is obvious that the parents are trying to protect the boy. But, it is the boy that needs protection from his parents. If this boy goes unhelped, I tremble at what he may do once he becomes an adult.
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Yes I agree. That is why we the neighbors do not like the police have asked us to quite down about this. As we could ruin the case. I just found out on my way to work out that this happened a total of 3 times before this little girl said something. My son was playing in the same backyard one of the times as I sat watching them on from my neighbors dining room window. This boy yes was or is being abused, but to call him a victim makes me sick. The sytem has given this family to many chances, remove him once and for all.
@dhicks30 (1948)
• United States
5 Dec 06
This poor little girl. But I feel bad for the 11 boy also. He did not think this up all be himself, something must of happened to him. But he needs help, for all of the abuse. I don't think it should take that long, but it does. I hope this little girl gets her justice.
@blueman (16509)
• India
5 Dec 06
i think it is unbelievable to imagine a kid of that age molesting someone, maybe this is the first time i've heard it so, maybe the police wants to give the kid a chance to mend his ways. usually what i have seen is that first time offenders are not dealt with that harshly as compared to how they how they deal with a repetitive offender.
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
the problem with this is that this little girl is afraid to go to school. She sees him everyday. We didin trouble seen the day he to make sure school is a priority for this young girl. She is relating school with the incident. This boys needs tp be removed, so the 5 year old can get the education she deserves. This boy has been it trouble since the day he move to our neighbor. 4 months ago. he has had enough chances, my thought is he should be removed and put in a school for troubled children until he is reformed.
@tlex107250 (667)
• United States
5 Dec 06
First, let the police do their job, they are best equiped to handle the situation. Also, let the girls parents deal with it. If this bully attacks your son, then you have a right to get involved.
@krankies (811)
• United States
5 Dec 06
The parents have asked us to help. They are from poland and speak broken english. My son along with two other neighbor girls were all in the yard when he put the little girl into a plastic play house and took advantage of her. So this is my business. I would like this not to happen to any other kids in the neighborhood. Our kids our to young to understand what is going on, I am my childs avocate! People like you who close your eyes on what you call other peoples problems are the first to complain when it happens to someone in your family. Get invloved and change laws that proctect the wrong type of people, not everyone can be reformed. This little boy has had so many problems in the very few months that he lived here I would say it is the system that is failimng him. His parents can not control hom, their drunks. Both have had 2 dui's and his mom was in the paper for getting her dog drunk. I only just found this out by doing research on the internet.
