Cat owners, advice needed.

@spcbrass (1192)
United States
December 4, 2006 3:16pm CST
My girlfriend and I have already have a cat. He is 5 years old, not very territorial, and generally mild mannered. We are thinking about bringing another kitty into our home. We saw a grey kitten at the pet store and I know that my girlfriend wants to bring him home. How long is the normal adjustment period for one cat to get used to another? Are their age differences too far apart or is 5 years ok? Anything that you can share would be great!
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29 responses
• United States
4 Dec 06
You may have to leave the kitten in a cage till the older one gets used to him withot being overly territorial. It shouldn't take too long...
@LovingIt (5398)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Caging a cat or kitten is never a good idea. Putting in them in seperate room, maybe, but it's cruel to cage one.
@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 06
Really you should not have a problem as it is a Kitten and normally older Cats will not go for Kittens I know mine didn't Do keep an eye on things for a bit but introduce them very gently and slowly and like with Kids do not push the older one out when you fuss the little one make sure the big one gets fuss to Good luck to you
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
4 Dec 06
That is one of our concerns is that he is the boss of the house now. When my girlfriends old roomate moved out she took her cat so now Bosco gets all of the attention.
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@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 06
You should be ok as it is a kitten honest very rare a older Cat will hurt a Kitten
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@jillbeth (2710)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Get a female kitten and he will not be as threatened by her as he would a male kitten. It would be wise to have one or both of them fixed (if they aren't already and you don't want more little kitties running around). I have been in this situation, and it will probably not take him long to accept her.
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
4 Dec 06
She wants to get another male kitten. I'll talk to her about this though and see what she thinks.
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@LovingIt (5398)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Hi. I'm a former cat breeder. The following is how I always instructed my kitten buyers to introduce a new kitten to an older cat and I never had a reject. :-) Just one question? Is your girlfriend's mind set on the male kitten? If not, your older male might be more willing to accept a female kitten. Also if your male is not neutered, I'd suggest getting this done as well, to avoid him becoming upset and marking his territory. When you bring the kitten home, put it in a small room such as the bathroom at first. Keep the kitten in there anytime over the first few days when you won't be present to supervise the kitten and older cat together. Be sure that it's the kitten that you put in there and not the older cat as you don't want the older cat thinking the kitten is taking over his territory. Introduce them for short periods at first. Expect some hissing and spitting at first. This is normal, just take care not to let the older cat hurt the kitten. Be sure to give the older cat a lot of attention while this is taking place. Let him know he's still loved. Make the introduction short at first and lengthen the time they are together as the hostility lessens. Don't try to push it, give the cat time to get used to the situation. Sometimes it takes as long as 2 or 3 weeks and in rare cases longer, but they will eventually be ok together. Good luck with your new kitten. Just remember that cats are like potato chips. One is never enough. :-)
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Thanks for the advice. WE will get one next month instead of in the next week because with the holidays coming up we will both be out of the apartment during extended periods of time. When we can spend more time at home, then we will buy the new kitten.
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• Janesville, Wisconsin
24 Dec 06
I think its good just to limit the new kitten as you say but do so for about a week to a couple of the rooms. Then open the door and let them discover eachother.. and watch what happens.... give both cats the room to run, Then usually if something brakes out they take off. Usually at first it is sniff sniff hiss hiss... Sniff sniff hiss hiss..... and start off with their food dishes on opposite sides of the rooms, over time slowly move the dishes closer together... and feed them at the same time. They will growl and grumble as they eat making it clear they are not shareing at first, but over time usually they will share pretty well, without fights. But even cat mates swat and paw and hiss at eachother from time to time. - DNatureofDTrain
• United States
4 Dec 06
Hi, I just went though that. I have a 9 year old male, non aggressive. I was told to get a female, and a young one. So we rescued a 6 month old female.Both cats are fixed, and that is important. Also, you must keep them separated for anywhere from a few days to a few weeks. It depends on how they seem to act. Never leave them alone until you have seen them together for awhile, and know that they will get along. They will sniff eachother, and the older cat will be dominant over the kitty. The age difference you are talking about is fine. But, he can get jealous if you do not give him attention when you bring the little one home. Good luck.
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
4 Dec 06
She wants to get another male cat. She doesn't like female cats. The one we have now is fixed, and if we get the other one he will be fixed too.
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• United States
4 Dec 06
It may work if they both are fixed, and the kitty she wants is young. But I know for a fact that male and female works the best, even if fixed. I have had lots of cats. It can work, but, you need to be careful to make sure they had time to adjust. Some cats take months. But, a very young cat should adjust faster with the older one. Good luck.
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@prncesssly (1375)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I agree with what someone said about bringing the other one in but leaving it in the cage/carrier for a while. HOWEVER let me ask you this... is your current cat fixed? WIll it be 2 male cats? If so, they are very territorial. If the older one feels threatened, he will start to spray all your stuff. You need to make sure at least the older one is fixed. The younger one may not be old enough yet? But seriously, take my advice. We didn't do this and our older cat would spray everywhere until we got them both fixed!
@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Our cat now is fixed. So the spraying won't be an issue. It will be 2 male cats because that is what my girlfriend wants.
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
5 Dec 06
Kitties! - These are my cats. Two of them are unfortunatly no longer with us...
I still have 5 cats who I totally adore.
Older cats are more likely to except kittens than older cats. Naturally they will act territorial and he might slap the kitten and hiss at him for a few days, but he will never actually hurt it (it's biologically determined so small kittens will survive in the wild...). When an older cat does really attack a kitten, it has something not straight in their brain; a healthy cat will never intentionally hurt a kitten! We have 5 cats and we got them all as kittens. The kittens would have some slapping going on, but they surrender to the older cats and they will accept them as not being a threat to them. You might start seeing your cat cuddling with the kitten after some time, licking it's stomache or even it's bottom to help improve him pooping (like a mother does); both male and female cats can do this. If you need any more info feel free to send me a message, I've had (and still have) a lot of cats, so I might have some more usefull advice for you;)
@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Everyone is saying that it shouldn't be a problem. Thanks for your advice and opinions.
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@getnbuy (1314)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Every cat is different. Most cats adjust after a while. We have had cats that did. It helps to put them in separate rooms at first. Our male cat, Hobbes, was not happy when we brought home a kitten. He hissed and looked disgusted. He is good friends with the cat now, but that was 9 years ago! For a very long time he treated that kitty like his underling. He would keep it off our bed and eat the cat food first. the poor kitty was very timid. finally he is a normal cat, but it took years.
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Our main concern after readig everyone's replies is going to be in feeding the two of them. We will have to see how our cat acts when we start feeding the other one.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
I don't think you'll have a problem with bringing a kitten into the home. There will be some fighting and what not at first, but they will create their own "areas" in the home and will also get used to each other. There will be times the older one will get sick of the kitten because it will be more playful and all, but they should be just fine.
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Our older cat is so lazy, he barely ever plays, but he does walk around the apartment all day juming in and out of every window!
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• United States
5 Dec 06
It depends on the cat. Sometimes they get along right away and other times you have to ease them into friendship. Try keeping them in separate rooms so they can smell each other through the door. Give them separate litter boxes and food dishes at first until they get to know each other. Check out www.pimppets.com for some cool cat toys.
@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Cool cat toys huh? Well Christmas is just around the corner, we will have to see what goodies we can get them!
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• Austria
4 Dec 06
Depends on the breed of the cat. But for regular cats or cats of almost the same type, they can get along well in less that a week. as long as there is enough food for both, there will be no fight :-) I hope
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@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
They are both the same type of cat. Bosco is a veryy passive cat, so I don't think there will be much of an issue.
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@birthlady (5613)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I think the age difference will probably be fine, especially because the gray kitten is a baby. Normal adjustment times vary on the animal. I just recommend allowing them to make friends on their own. One thing is to have a seperate cat food and water dish and a seperate feeding space from your 5 year old cat. Also, I recommend a seperate litter box, and a seperate blanket or pillow to sleep on. Just like children, don't expect your older cat to give up ownership, just because there's a new kid in the house! LoL!
@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
We know about the seperate cat food, but the seperate blankets is a good idea. We are a bit concerned because we don't want our cat to eat the kitten's food.
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@udayhase (173)
• United States
4 Dec 06
As far as I've seen with my cats, it really does not take long at all, usually a few weeks, and the cats will learn the do's and don't's between each other. There should be no problem with the age difference, in fact, in may even be a good thing, since older cats tend to have a longer temper, and will often just ignore a much younger kitten that may have a bit too much energy for its own good.
@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
5 Dec 06
That was our guess about 3 or 4 weeks before they are fully adjusted. We still haven't made our decision yet though.
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@reeseyj (906)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Older cats tend to nurture younger cats. there will probably be a lot of grooming going on.
@spcbrass (1192)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I have heard about this. I think the our cat would be fine.
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@shizzz (3)
• Pakistan
5 Dec 06
u can bring the other but dont let it near the older one do it slowly
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I am the owner of 3cats. We had the 2 which I had gotten from animal welfare as kittens. Then a stray kept coming around my house and of course I started feeding her. Then the winter came I started bringing her in not all at once. Just for a little at a time. So with that I would say about 2to 3 weeks for them to adapt to each other. Good Luck
• Indonesia
5 Dec 06
I think that's oke.. I don't know about foreign cat (hope it has no different)... But I was also have hmm about 6 years old cat.. and when kitty come to my house.. he is not do anything... but also not really care about the kitty.. I think that's oke ^^ the most important is.. never make your 5 years old hungry.. because sometimes I hear. if cat really sturf he can eat kitty.. but I think.. if it is not wild cat.. he won;t do that ^^
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@Shadetail (103)
5 Dec 06
Personally i think you should introduce them very slowly. Let them meet, and stop them fighting. Give the older cat a treat or telling off for not fighting/fighting and of course, let them know each other. Maybe they will become great freinds, but as many users have said before me i think the best option is seperate rooms, slowly getting closer untill they get to like each other.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
age differences doesn't really matter as long as there is food on their plates
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• India
5 Dec 06
ATLEAST u would play a role in giving ur cat company ,so go ahead
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