Is this depression?

United States
December 4, 2006 8:35pm CST
I'm 21 years old and going to college. I like to have fun with my friends but most of the time I prefer to be alone. I've been feeling really lazy recently. Don't get me wrong I do go out and but not necessarily party. I just feel like I'm not living the way I should. I'm finally the age that every minor wants to be and here I am just watching it go by. I was told that I might have a minor case of depression but I haven't seen a reason to go find out for sure. Does anybody else feel like this? Is this normal? What should I do?
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@squrrly26 (557)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Yes it can be normal,but it all depends on what kinda person you are.I mean when you were younger did you want to go out more an be more active than you are now?Has something happened to you that might make you not want to go out as much?When you go out does it feel like it is the same old boring thing?If you have said yes to some of these things then you may be depressed.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
When I was younger I used to go out alot and sometimes i do get bored of doing the same thing every weekend. I'm not the party or clubbing kind of girl, so I mostely just like to hang out. It does tend to get old. Overall, I don't know what it is exactly. That bothers me.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
When I was younger I used to go out alot and sometimes i do get bored of doing the same thing every weekend. I'm not the party or clubbing kind of girl, so I mostly just like to hang out. It does tend to get old. Overall, I don't know what it is exactly. That bothers me.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
I used to suffer from depression (due to early childhood factors). I found I had to examine my thoughts. We can get into habits of thinking, which lead to unhappiness. I learned depression is a mourning, and one can put a time limit on it (say ten minutes to mourn) then turn the thoughts back over to the positive. We should seek to spot negative thoughts, especially repetitive ones, and consciously replace them each time, with a positive thought or affirmation. Some times, repetitive thoughts are falsehoods. I think meditation, short bursts of it, might be good for you, plus the replacing of neg thoughts...
@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Yes do you sometimes feel like you can't or won't go anywhere? Do you sometimes just want to cry? If so have yourself checked
• United States
5 Dec 06
I'll be home on a friday night around 6pm and not want to do ANYTHING just watch a movie, but then 11pm rolls around and i regret not going out. When I feel really lonely and i realize it, that's when I want to cry. That's the thing, I'm not lonely.
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• India
5 Dec 06
All is you need is to just turn off your TV and go out for 3 or 4 evenings.Please NEVER join any online dating site for now.That will make you more computer addicted and further increase your post 11pm dullness.Just get out of your home with your family or good friends,enjoy in decently and have a sound sleep.You will are fine.This is not depression but anxiety.Just relax and take it in control.
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• France
5 Dec 06
5556970 is true i think that the most important is to go out ! i know thaht sometimes it's very difficult but it can increase your happiness ;)
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@missybal (4490)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I don't think it's depression. By the time I reached the age of 21 it was like all that party feeling went out of me. I perferred other things, I had grown up quicker than others. I wouldn't say your depressed just more mature. And if you were like me before 21 I was wild and crazy and run-run-run. Now I figure I did it and now like the slower pace.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
5 Dec 06
You may have slight depression but maybe you may just be maturing and may not want to party all night. If you finding yourself making no effort at all and really exclude yourself seek help but I think you are fine. I suffered Bad depression when I was 19 and Then one day I kicked myself out of it, I still suffer a little bit but I know what to do if I get worse again There is Help out there and People who care :)
• United States
6 Dec 06
Yeah maybe. tThis does make sense.
@bsabers (668)
• United States
5 Dec 06
It could be normal, but I dealt with a little depression about a year ago, and I'm usually an active person, but all of a sudden I just had no desire to do anything. I'd say if it continues to get it checked out.. It can't hurt.
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• India
5 Dec 06
Treating depression is especially important because it affects you, your family, and your work. Some people with depression try to harm themselves in the mistaken belief that how they are feeling will never change. Depression is a treatable illness.
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@cloud_one (375)
• India
5 Dec 06
it happens when u r not sure what u want from ur life,when u have no goal in ur life... think abt what u want in ur life,what u wanna be,,what r ur hobbies,,ur passions,ur beliefs.... do things which u like most... it happened to me once,,u know what i did,,i decided to do the things whichi never did before i went to diff restaurants to eat,,listened to diff type of music,started reading newspaper,,try it
• United States
5 Dec 06
you do have a point here. I do know what i want to do with my life. I think it's just my activities and the people around me. I'm seriously thinking about tranfering to another college out of my hometown. Meeting new people in a new environment might help. don't you think?
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@vinoth_123 (1876)
• India
5 Dec 06
Do chat with your friends trough mylot then step by step you can come out from your depression.
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@jalin_o (68)
• United States
5 Dec 06
i know exaclty what you're going through. i just turned 20 and i cried on my birthday! i don't know whether its depression or not, but just take it one day at a time.. feel better! =]
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• United States
5 Dec 06
I have been the same way, but I would not call it depression. Stress or an overactive lifestyle can cause you to feel more tired. The loss of someone can do it to you too. I just lost my brother a while ago and that is the reason I fee the way I do.
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@michele609 (1687)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I see many of patients( I am a Nurse) come in with depression, and your sytoms are no where near them. Have you ever tryed taking vitamins or maybe just having a little fun/. Some people(even me) perfer to be alone at some point! I think that if the vitamins dont work you should go see a Doctor just to be on the safe side!
• Saint Lucia
5 Dec 06
this could probably be a case of depression. you should deal with it before it gets worst
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• Pakistan
5 Dec 06
yes it is
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• United States
5 Dec 06
i think if you've always been that way, then you should just examine what it is you want out of life, and start doing those things that interest you the most. but if this is something that has onset recently, then you definately need to speak with your doctor about your feelings. depression is a serious problem, and if its not addressed, it can get out of control. it may simply be anxiety, or the age. we all look forward to the milestones like 21, and when we get there, it can be a bit disappointing because its not what we imagined it to be. making a change in your environment might work, for a while. but after you settle in somewhere else and the newness wears off, you may have the same feelings you do now. i would go to my doctor and let them know what im feeling. theyre trained to deal with these situations, and they are better equipped to figure out if something is medically wrong than we are. good luck
@dmod01 (148)
• India
5 Dec 06
i dont think so.........
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@flowerchilde (12533)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Are you taking your vitamins? (With lots of iron?) If I don't take a multi-vitamin and mineral, forget it! Then I'm abusing the caffeine.. which ultimately makes me more tired... So for me it's multi-vitamin/mineral always.. Of course I am a semi hermit, and woudln't mind being more of a hermit.. But that just makes me enjoy the parties more, three, four or five a year with our good lifetime friends.. Are you wanting to party more? or just feeling you're expected to? That would be an important question and answer :)) Personally, I'm into study and learning, more than partying, but the partying is still good. But I don't keep up with everyone else! I prefer a lot of solitude.. and if you happen to be a bit like that, I don't see anything wrong with it.
• Malaysia
5 Dec 06
i did face the same thing..n i did notice that it just not myself. it's out of control...do something on it..don't preasure control yr mind...i do heal myself..but in a lil' bit late..the thing that i did was...i came back to God to find his bless and forgiveness if i did some mistakes...i feel more calm n cld control everything now on...God is always be with us...so ask his guidence....god always love to hear us to pray to him..
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@vipul20044 (5796)
• India
5 Dec 06
You know mood does swing! And yes you might get depressed according to it Maybe it is something from the past that is still troubling you or is stagnant in your mind and you arent letting it go If you dont think this is your usual self, just note what is different than your normal self if you sort out the differences, everything will be back to square one
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• Italy
5 Dec 06
I can understand the way you are feeling. I prefer to be alone too, because i am a lonley person and i don't like to be part of a group of persons. Sometimes i go out with few friends, and i don't feel depressed for my condition. Remember that only strong personality persons, that don't need to be always in contact with other people, can stay alone for most of their time...
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• Italy
5 Dec 06
it's normal.....bytheway you can search for someone who can love you.....try the LOVE....it's so beautifu to have a person who loves you.....
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@TerryZ (22082)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I think this is very normal, infact I went through it and I think most people do go through it. If you didnt that would mean you had no feelings about your life,nohopes and dreams that is a good thing. You will soon feel better, and remember always be thankful that you are here in this world, and try to make the people who mean something to you happy. You will be fine.
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