Parenting is important, but society plays an even important aspect in growing up
By paulific
@paulific (189)
Philippines
December 4, 2006 9:12pm CST
i believe that parenting is really important in every individual's growing up. but to say that the parents are to blame for who we are is quite short of understanding and analysis.
parents, including their children are part of larger organization, with structures known as society.
in several cases, how parenting is carried over reflects not only how these parents were also reared by their parents but more significantly by the structures of the society.
19 responses
@nobodyspecial (1011)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Thank you.
I was beginning to think I was the only one who saw this.
There are peer groups which have an effect. World events, teachers imparting opinions.
We do not live in an insular society, we live in a world that is connected like never before.
Just as we are affected by the thoughts and deeds of others so are our children.
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@lilmissy (481)
• United States
5 Dec 06
i think too many people worry too much about what society thinks than what is really good for thier children ,raise your children in your own decent and loving way and you will have made the best contribution to society possiable
@Lovelylilpeapod (110)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I really agree on what you are saying. Me and my husband have had this similar conversation. It is up to us parents to care for our children and their actions, but can't take 100% responsibility for our childs actions. I know this, cuz as a child, no matter how much my parents told me not to do something, I did it anyway, since the rest of society was doing it. Both children and adults tend to follow the crowd since it's easier than going against it!!!
@aggiejoe (799)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I sort of agree with that statement. I can tell you this I blame my parents for how my life turned out. I think I am a responsible, careing, And determined adult. And without my parents guidence I couldn't have turned out the way I did. Yea I know society play a roll in it. But the biggest roll is being a parent to teach your childeren right from wrong. Without that society would be unstructured. Parents supply structure. Not society.
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@paulific (189)
• Philippines
5 Dec 06
exactly! if parents fail with that many factors can now be accounted. many of us would agree that we do look at our parents as the ones responsible for who we are. but again, the parents' role is only partial to the totality of who an adult is right now. it becomes unfair to parents and even to a person to account wholly on that premise. note that by the time children begin goin to school, much of their time is not inside the house. much of the input comes from institutions - schools, media, church, laws, neighborhood. what parents actually do, is help or assist their children in the process of understanding, knowing and training to become the persons they want to be. but it's true, we owe them for everything they have taught us.
@scholastic (728)
• India
5 Dec 06
what u have said is absolutely correct..we live in a society where there are many external influences..so a child is exposed not only to thier parents but also people who do a variety of things..and the child would obvioulsy pick many things from this external world..what a parent can do howver is that ensure that a child is helped to develope a judgement which makes it possible for him to judge what is good for hime and what is bad..
@ability (692)
• China
5 Dec 06
In recent years, more and more lectures are being given on campus. They are organized either by the departments or by the students’ unions (2)with an aim to improve the students’ quality both mentally and academically. These lectures are usually in series and on different topics, such as arts, life, economy, psychology and world issues.
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@anjalisk2005 (1492)
• India
5 Dec 06
socialization is just not the effect of proper parenting but majorly to the type of society u belong to.society lays the ground rules of living in that society.say a wider concept of marriage and divorce rates.in sout asian countris the concept of dating and living together before marriage is a forbidden concept but in west it is common.which is reflecting in marriages.in south asia we have very less divorce rate but in west it is alarming!!
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
5 Dec 06
Parenting and society both are important aspects in every individuals growth.
Each has its own role to play.
But PARENTING has a more important role in the child's growth. Parenting teaches the difference between RIGHT and WRONG.
Where as a society is constituted or rights and wrongs. There are evils in every society. It is the duty of the PARENTS to teach their children to identify those ills and educate them they are bad for them and the society.
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@tanujarneja (2829)
• India
5 Dec 06
well ya that is ture but we should notr forgot that lots of sickness is there in socitey and everything is not adopted by our child, socities do infulence, but parents can contorl the influence of socity at large, what is ot acceptable is not, and if at the early age parents do not contorl the exposure of their children which is the time from when they get to learn about rights and worng then they have lost the game, so its all parents who decide wat the child has to be ....
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
5 Dec 06
Society has a lot to answer for with regards to how people bring up their children, some are very quick to criticise without knowing the full situation. And as for the Media, not much difference there! Wonder what the world would be like without critcism?
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@Centregeek (500)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Who and what we become is based on our parents and so much more. The people our parents know, the things our parents take part in within our communiities, the world around us as reflected on the news and on tv programs and in movies, our heroes, the groups that we join as kids, and so much more.
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
5 Dec 06
The world and society is becoming more and more demanding. I don't want my kids too be too pressured but that is the way the world is. You parent the way you feel is the best way (there is no right or wrong way of parenting unless there is obviously abuse of some kind) and try to fit the demands of society in, the best way you can... the best is not to throw it at your child all at once but eventually the kids do have to live up to the standards. It's ridiculous, kids are going to school younger and younger!!
