children in rear facing car seats

United States
September 16, 2006 4:57pm CST
if a child is suppose to be in a rear facing car seat until 20 pounds AND one year of age, why in the world are there so many children forward facing that don't meet these requirements?
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@kerryq2705 (8677)
• United States
13 Oct 06
That is a very good question. I don't understand why parents are doing that either. I have seen this kind of thing so much and I want to say something to the parents but i always keep my mouth shut. Maybe parents do this because they are not educated on this. if thats the case then they need to read up on these things. They need to know that they are putting their kids lives at risk. I know that one of the most dangerous things is neck injury. If they are facing forward before they are suppose to and you are in a crash it can do severe damage to the neck. parents need to educate themselves more.
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• United States
13 Oct 06
Great comment very helpful. I hope parents that don't know these things will read these comments.
@kiwidipa (2854)
• United States
13 Oct 06
that is a great question, thanks for posting it. Another good one is even with it facing the rear many parents don't understand that if it is not properly installed, then you can actually get a ticket if you are pulled over. Go to your local police or fire department, and they will happily install it correctly for you............
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• United States
13 Oct 06
Yes thats another good point. A lot of times the seats arent even installed properly.
• United States
12 Oct 06
I think a lot of parents don't realize the laws or reasons behind doing things. They just don't think about it, or are just lazy. My husband's niece turned her daughter around at 5 months. The little thing wasn't more the 14lbs and could not hold her head up yet. She was all slumped over with her head hanging down on her chest. I felt so bad for her. And their reasoning for doing this--it was easier for them to get her in and out of the car. The carseat just took up too much space rear facing which meant his niece had to sit in back with the baby instead of in the front seat when her husband was driving. She was nuts. Her kids no longer live with her because she couldn't handle them (they are 3 and 2 now).
• United States
13 Oct 06
oh my gosh, that's awful. I have a 7 month old. I wouldn't DARE put her forward facing. Granted, I have to sit funny while I'm in the front seat. In fact, my best friend has a 7 month old also and he weighs 19 pounds. She won't be putting him forward facing until he reaches the magical 12 month milestone. I just think it's so important and it aggravates me so badly when I see a small baby forward facing--God forbid those parents get into a serious wreck with those babies.
• United States
13 Oct 06
I felt so bad for her. She is a beautiful little girl. Her name is Heaven and she is just 3 months younger then my daughter Brenna. She was really neglected as an infant because her mother said she couldn't handle it all. She just shipped her off to whoever would watch her and her poor husband worked nights then came home and had to take care of the baby because she was tired. She really makes me mad. She is 22 and acts like a freaking moron. She chose to get pregnant and have those kids (she was trying from the time she was 17 and had them at 18 and 19). She is the worst kind of teen mom and gives other teen moms a bad name. Her older daughter lives with her father and step-mom now and her younger daughter lives with her mom and step-dad because she just can't deal with them. I know it is hard. My oldest two are 15 months apart just like hers but I also had another one just a year after my second. She was living with us when I was pregnant with Brenna and had a baby and 1 year old. She saw how tired I was all the time and how I didn't have time for anything. Some people are just stupid I guess. Sorry for the rant. She just rubs me the wrong way.
• United States
13 Oct 06
I know what you mean. My husband and I have been married for 3 years (together 6) and we thought long and hard about bringing a baby into the world. I'm 22 and he's 24. From the time I turned a teenager I always wanted a baby around 17/18-ish, but when that time came I knew that mentally, financially, physically, emotionally--all the *musts* I wasn't ready. You can rant and I'll listen (well, read...lol.. :P ) There are some teen moms out there that accidentally get pregnant and do everything in their power to step up to the plate and be the person they have to be for their baby. Then you have the ones that try to get pregnant and don't do a darn thing for their babies. It urks me too, can you tell? So...about her length rear facing...will she not be too long. We bought the Britax Marathon car seat and...blah..I'm a nervous wreck--I guess I shouldn't be I have a LONG time before I have to consider facing her forward but it just seems like her legs will be squished against the back of the seat when she gets the avg length of a 18 month old.
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
17 Sep 06
Not sure. I think it is because if you child is really tall/long, they will grow out of their seat by the time they are one but before they weigh 20 lbs. My son was one of these kids. He was almost one and like 18lbs and couldn't fit in any rear facing seat. His Dr. said it was okay for a front facing seat beciase he had the proper neck control (main reason they want the kids in rear facing).
• United States
12 Oct 06
Once they outgrow the infant seat you move them to a convertible seat. It faces forward and back usually for babies from birth to 3 years. Our two oldest kids outgrew their infant seats at 4 months. No way were they ready to face forward. My daughter actually only outgrew the length limit which was 26" on our seat at the time. She was no where near 20lbs. In fact she didn't hit 20lbs until she was like 16 months old. It is now recommended to have children rear face as long as possible--usually until they hit the seat limit which is around 30lbs. They are just safer that way. My oldest daughter didn't get to 30lbs until she was 4 years old.
• United States
13 Oct 06
when do you suggest moving them forward facing? For example...my baby is 7 months but she's a teeny tiny little girl weighing in at only 14 lbs...I should still wait until she's 20 lbs to put her forward facing...even if that means she's almost 2, right? What about the height? Will her legs get too long to be rear facing? LOL...can you tell I'm a new mom? :)
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• United States
13 Oct 06
Yes she should stay rear facing until she is at least 20lbs, even if she is over the age of 1. Of course I did turn my oldest around early. We had to fit another carseat in so we turned her just before we brought the new baby home. She was 14 1/2 months old but only weighed 18lbs. She didn't hit 20lbs until after she was 18 months old. At the time I couldn't see how we could get the baby in and out with her rear facing. But now that we have even more kids and have tried the seats in different positions I know she could have stayed rear facing much longer. Not much I can do about it now. My son was the opposite. He hit 20lbs by 5 months old. He was rear facing until just after his first birthday. We debated for awhile whether or not to turn him around but he was so heavy it was hard to lift him into the seat so we turned him. He was much happier, but he still would have been safer rear facing. Many people now are keeping their toddlers rear facing, too--until they are at least 30lbs (which is usually the limit on most seats). Like I said, my oldest wasn't 30lbs until she was 4 years old. She is 6 now and only weighs 34lbs. She could still be rear facing if we had a newer seat (some go rear facing to 40lbs).
@megs85 (3144)
• Australia
23 Oct 06
By the information I have received it is suitable for a child to be facing forward in a car seat at 8kg, or when they reach 6 months of age. Thats in Australia though. We're about to turn my sons car seat around, hes only 5 months old, but he meets the weight criteria and is able to hold himself up...
• United States
24 Oct 06
He must be really strong. My daughter is 6 1/2 months old and she is in no way ready to turn around. Sure she can sit up straight if I hold her but if she falls asleep her head falls down to her chest and since a forward facing seat can't recline that is how your baby will be if he falls asleep while driving. It isn't safe. The head of a baby is the biggest part of it's body and the neck is the weakest part. In an accident his head is going to whip forward and he could suffer a basal skull fracture (where the base of the skull seperates from the spine). It is fatal. I hope you reconsider turning him around so young and fragile. Facing rear is the safest way for babies to travel (even after they are one and 20lbs).
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
25 Oct 06
Some parents just don't take the time to learn how to keep their children safe. Look at the ones who had their little ones in the front seat where they were killed by airbags. I still see little heads bobbing around in cars and know they aren't even restrained in any way. I had the mother of a 3-year-old tell me that she just couldn't make her child sit in a safety seat. I'm afraid he wouldn't have been going anywhere with me without one.
• United States
23 Oct 06
I think the reasons that there so many children facing forward when they should be facing the rear in a rear-facing car seat is because some parents believe that they know more than the D.O.T. and the manufacturers. Other parents simply do not give a damn!
@srhelmer (7031)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
13 Oct 06
I think a lot of people don't realize the law. I think a lot of others just don't care.
@zahir_dk (1693)
• India
13 Oct 06
Is there any such law ? If there is then there parents either dont know it or break it.. In both the conditions these kind of parents seem to be careless about there children, as sitting on the front seat has its disadvantages, and hence we should always try to save this little life from it...
• United States
13 Oct 06
I think many parents aren't aware that they have to be 1 year old and 20 pounds. Many infants reach 20 pounds before they are 1 and many 1 year old aren't 20 pounds yet. But the parents think it is ok to let them face forward if they have reached either of these points.
@reader (709)
• India
13 Oct 06
it is not bad to take precautions
@chihouse (213)
• United States
13 Oct 06
some parents are lazy, others don't know the significance of following the rules !
@MINDY0882 (2304)
• United States
13 Oct 06
the parents probly dont read the instructions or they do and dont care. Thats just like the parents who dont put them in the seats like they should ,u wonder why they put there kids at such risk
• United States
13 Oct 06
Because, there parents do not follow the rules.
@HomerBundy (1327)
• United States
16 Sep 06
i think some parents dont know all the hazardous things in and around their house/car...parents should take the time necessary to learn how to raise their child in a safe enviroment... i think i read somewhere that even Britney Spears had her baby in a baby seat in an incorrect position...it was noticed by the officer who puller her over for something...