Do you think getting married means giving up freedom?

China
December 5, 2006 6:49pm CST
Do you think getting married means giving up freedom?what's your opinion?
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21 responses
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
6 Dec 06
No, it means making a commitment and willing making the effort to co-exist with another human being for the rest of your life. I've been married almost 30 years, and I never feel chained. I feel like a part of a very complete whole and would never want to be on my own again. Being married successfully is a lot of work, but we can all do it if we try hard enough.
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• China
6 Dec 06
Wish you a world of happiness and love.
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@leese29 (340)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I agree with you sbeauty and you need to find that right person for you, Congrats on 30 years that is awesome
• China
7 Dec 06
No, I don't think so.
• China
12 Dec 06
thanks for your reply.
@msqtech (15074)
• United States
6 Dec 06
I think the opposite it actually enhances your freedom
• China
7 Dec 06
your point is unique.
@Undefeated (4788)
• Singapore
6 Dec 06
no im totally disagree ...
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@rsrait (567)
• India
6 Dec 06
in my opinion getting married in this fast paced world is looseing your freedom .only get married if you can get a understanding hus/wife.
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@whisper2 (13)
• United States
7 Dec 06
You give up your freedom in some ways since you must think of your partner's needs and desires also instead of just your own. But in a good marriage, you gain the freedom of the security of knowing you are loved and that someone is there to hold you up when you are down.
• China
7 Dec 06
well,everyone needs a good marriage.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Dec 06
freedom - marrying the person you love isn't giving up your own freedom.
if you were forced to marry someone without feeling something special for that person, that's giving up your freedom. freedom to choose who to love and who to love you. freedom to have a happy married life. but if you marry someone because you love him/her, it's not giving up your freedom. it's practicing freedom together as a couple. and that matters most.
@epizzahut (2078)
• China
12 Dec 06
no you have freedom to choose married or not ,enjoy it or suffer it, love and be loved.
@paule4129 (968)
• United States
12 Dec 06
no i just means you want one person for therest of your life
@anjuscor (1266)
• India
12 Dec 06
i never think like that. Freedom is always there for everybody irrespective of getting married. But we can see many people misusing their freedom even after getting married, for them we should steal their freedom. Marriage is mutual understanding, so you dont have to give up your freedom.
• India
12 Dec 06
Well I do not think that getting married means giving up your freedom because it depends entirely upon your better half. If your better half/life partner is understanding, caring, loving and protective you would never feel that your privacy/independence is being obstructed. Its entirely on mutual understanding and compromising. Remember marriage is not a curse, infact it is a boon.
• Ireland
12 Dec 06
After living under my mum's strict regime for twenty four years, I felt my first taste freedom on the day I got married. I learned a lot from my mum and I thank her for it but she was always the boss, as was my dad. Now I have enjoyed almost thirty eight years of blissful freedom with my husband.
• United States
12 Dec 06
no i believe that if you get married youa re joined as one and have more freedom if you feel traped i fdont believe that you are in a happy marriage and all i think that you should hav efreedom and if you dont it wonth last at all i truly believe that be careul who ou fall in love with you cant help it but theses days there are some controlling mean men that obviously bumbed their heads
@pelya178 (693)
• United States
12 Dec 06
not if its with someone who u truely love and are in love with. then its a new life with your soulmate :-)
@chukwudi (1098)
• Nigeria
7 Dec 06
it all depends on the type of freedom you are tailking about when you are married that is when life start with your man ,no more questions from outside you.but if you want to be going out again, sorry
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Dec 06
No, Marriage in my opinion is not giving up your freedom. Anyone who feels this way when they get Married, are either not in Love, or not ready for Marriage. Marriage is a commitment you make with one another to Love, Honor and cherish in all things. What happens is you find a Love for new things, and people and learn to do things together not really missing the things from your past. You do have to work at a marriage just like anything else to keep it Fresh and moving, but it is something that I have enjoyed, and plan to never change if I can help it.
@moreinfo (3865)
• China
7 Dec 06
marriage is just a contract, so dont let that trap you.
@raj0019 (2623)
• Argentina
7 Dec 06
yes you can say so
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
Getting married marks another chapter in your life and this does not mean that your going to give up your freedom. Probably, you'll have to adjust to that new level of freedom coz' not everything you did when you were single can be done when you're married. For example, you can't date another man or woman for that matter but of course you can still date with friends and family.
• India
7 Dec 06
HI THERE I AM SAHIL I DONT THINK THAT MARRYING GIVE AWAY UR FREEDOM ITS UP TO U PEOPLE U AND UR FIANCE THAT U GOOD U PEOPLE UNDERSTANT EACH OTHER