Too old for another child?

United States
December 5, 2006 10:11pm CST
I am a 34-year-old woman, and my husband is 40. We have two sons together, but I would really like to try for a daughter. Are we too old to have another child? I feel like I am. I feel more like 44 than 34 sometimes. My aunt just got married and had a baby at 36. Maybe if we have another one within a year a two, it won't be too bad, huh? I wouldn't want it to be too soon, though, because we have a 4 month old. What does everyone think?
8 responses
@stephig (31)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Personally, I wouldn't want to have any children at that age. I want to be young enough to enjoy their lives as long as I possibly can. And I want to be able to go camping and doing other things with them too.... without a cane!
• United States
18 Jan 07
Like most people really need canes at 34--or even 44!
26 Feb 07
I wonder if you'll feel the same way when you are a bit older than 21!
• United States
8 Mar 07
I think if we had been intended to quit having babies sooner than 45 or so we would have been made that way. Especially since you have one child so close in age I don't see a problem at all with trying for one more once you and your husband think it is time :)
• United States
24 Mar 07
Yes, you're absolutely right! God made us to have menstrual cycles until a certain age, which means that we can have children until then...but I wouldn't push things, though. I definitely wouldn't want to have a baby after 40, although I know that some women do.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
1 Feb 07
34 is not too old to have kids. I have 3 kids(2 girls 11 & 4 and a 16month old boy) and I'm 32. I think it boils down to personal preference. My inlaws have a 10 year old daughter and they think of her as a miracle because she came to them so late in life, the down side is they are in their 50's and things aren't how they thought they would be. My father in law retired after 35 years on the police department and had to get a part time job to support the expense having a younger child brings. Then there's the remarks when they are in public about how great it is they're spending time with their "grandaughter." or if we're with them people assume she's ours. Sometimes people shouldn't speak. My best friends parent had her when they were in their late 40's and it's hard for her because now she's in her 30's and is taking care of her parents instead of pursuing her own life's ambitions. My mom and dad did it the way I'm going...have them young and enjoy growing old together without worrying how you will afford college and retirement. For me the factory is closed. Just out of curiosity if you have another baby and it's a boy will you keep trying until you have a girl?
• United States
2 Feb 07
If we did decide to have another child, and that's a big if, and the baby turns out to be another boy, no way would we try for a girl. We will just figure that God wanted us to have 3 boys, as long as they're all healthy, it wouldn't be a problem.
• United States
7 Dec 06
i dont think u are too old to have kids at all. as long as u want to have kids u should go ahead. There are other women older than you that are having kids right now. I say go ahead as long as it is something you and your husband both want to do. good luck. you may just get your little girl this time
• United States
18 Jan 07
Thank you very much. I'm currently trying to lose weight, and I just may try for a girl. :o)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
I honestly don't think ur to old for another child if u feel it is right..U are not old but kids do take 20-22yrs to raise the way I look at it is if u feel u are ready and willing to raise another child that is the choice of u and ur spouse..Best of luck
• United States
26 Feb 07
I dont think you are to old. My husband is 34 says hes to old to have more kids but now a days people are having kids in their late 40s
@amy0214 (1513)
• United States
7 Dec 06
no you are not. a lot of women don't start their families until their thirtys
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
6 Dec 06
O my God, you are very young...you can have baby at 40 something as well...