Fear of relationships..is it real? do i have it?

@SimplyJo (1694)
India
December 6, 2006 1:51pm CST
Friends, i think i'm commitment phobic and have a fear of real relationships. Being a girl, i really shouldn't as i used to think this is a GUY THING but i guess i was wrong. I'm not a flirt when i love i love TRUELY. but sometimes i just can't handle TOO much love. if my guy cares too much i don't like it..when he doesn't.. i don't like it. Is everything OK with me? Please advice as i for one cannot figure myself out!
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@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I think everything is just fine with you. We are all different in our way of love. I am a lot like you too. I am now divorced and have enjoyed my life much better. My ex-husband adored and worshiped me and I hated it. There was no challenge. Then I also don't like to be man handled. I decided I was just the type person who does not need a full-time partner. I don't mind dating, but I don't want a commitment, it takes too much effort. Maybe we are selfish or smart, not sure which. LOL
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
1 Feb 07
I guess we are pretty much alike then :)
@norteh (615)
• Netherlands
6 Dec 06
You won't be happy if you don't change this. Being in love with being in love, is not rewarding in the end. Dependence is part of a relation. So try to focuss on being dependent in a relationship and explore this feeling. Perhaps this will help.