CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I NEED TO DO
By bhall4321
@bhall4321 (53)
United States
December 7, 2006 3:51pm CST
My situation is seems simple. I am a single mom. Obviously I need to work. Over the past four years though, I've worked about six different jobs but keep having to quit so I could take care of my kids. I've worked graveyard, part-time you name it. I'm not a lazy person and actually, if I didn't have my kids I would probably be a workaholic. I was once up for a promotion at a job I worked in for over four years (Superior Courts). But I quit that job because my older children (one in high school, one in junior high) were having alot of problems. And my baby (then about 2)well, let's just say his babysitter wasn't good enough to watch my dog much less him (she recommended by a friend). So now,I just feel so stuck. My work history looks unstable and employers do not want to hear your personal problems. I've looked into "working at home" but they all seemed like scams. I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm back to looking at graveyard jobs. Not too many around. Someone please give me some advice.
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@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I'm kinda in the same boat. My fiancee is a truck driver for now(and probably the next 6 months)graveyard would work best for me as well(my kids are 15, 12, & 1), just nothing around here. You worked in the courts, do you have any paralegal type of experience? I was reading an article on msn awhile back, a lady went around to some lawyers offices, and did all their typing and such at home, then would drop it back off to them at the office or send it on the computer. And your right, employers don't want to hear your personal problems-especially if it involves daycare/children issues. They figure it'll be the same for them. Good luck hope you find something!!
@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Forgot to add, if do consider something like I mentioned, a small attorneys office would probablly be best I would think. Maybe one who deals strictly with real estate, wills & probate, etc. Lots and lots of paperwork/contracts that needs typed with them(I know I worked for one jerk through a temp agency lol).
@bhall4321 (53)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Not a paralegal. Just a deputy clerk. I recently worked in a hospital as a birth clerk (doing the birth certificates) and patient registration. But the were swing with a promise of graveyard (which was a lie and the swing shift was from 2:45pm to 11:15pm with one day a week off. It was bad). I just signed up to take some classes online for medical coding. They make quite a bit of money and the shifts seem more flexible.
@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
8 Dec 06
you need to find a man with money who likes kids. I don't really know what else to tell you because you should be home with your kids. They were probab;y having the problems because you weren't around enough.
@bhall4321 (53)
• United States
9 Dec 06
My taste in men is what got me in this in the first place. But I wouldn't trade them if I had the chance to do it over. I would have just been more aware of the kind of things I should have done in the first place. Read my response to Worldguru. My kids have turned out pretty good considering it's just been me.
@srhelmer (7029)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
7 Dec 06
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I've found a few ways to make some extra cash (I found this site through it) and I know some of the members make as much as $2-500 each month using the links posted.
@shankaran (52)
• India
8 Dec 06
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@brightbluesea (1143)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I would think about what type of work that you really want to do. That could help to keep a long term job when you find a match with your situation. Have you checked any local job agency training programs for single mothers? Sometimes places like that will help
@anup_cfa (899)
• India
8 Dec 06
ya your situation is a very critical one..many of the ladies faces children problem but you are facing both children as well as money job problem...so i think you will notice many part time job offer at homes itself like" paper work for which you are paid 30000 to 40000 bugs" or you may start making art and craft and sell them in exibition otherwise the best option is mylot..so whenever you get time spent it with any of the alternative..
@annieja (589)
• United States
8 Dec 06
daycare is a great idea. even if you watch 3 or 4 extra kids at $150/wk, that's $450/week, not bad.
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@Sunset50 (1397)
• United States
8 Dec 06
My daughter has five kids from 2yrs to 15yrs age. She has always worked to raise them and it has not been easy for her. There is always one child or another sick in the winter or needing extra help somehow. Right now she is a personal assistant for the disabled and elderly. This allowed her the fluxuation she needed to be available for her kids. She is hoping her kids notice that she worked to raise them and didn't live off of government help so they will understand that when we are adults we work and take care of our responsibilities the best we can. As far as finding something online, I have had no luck with that. I hope you find something soon that will balance the job of motherhood with employment. Maybe a research job in the justice system, since you say you worked for the Superior Courts, that you could do most of your work on your computer would work?
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
If you can't find a babysitter...are your older kids old enough to watch the younger ones...if needed? I think you just need to look around and keep trying...I am sure with your experience there is something out there for you...just keep your head up and keep looking....
@cuddlebug79705 (2003)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Not really sure what your best option is, I would think a good daytime job while your kids are in school. That would seem the best to me, can you put your youngest in preschool yet? Maybe you should try to find something in the school system so you will have the same schedule as the kids.
@killailla (1301)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
as for daycare, look through your government listings, child and family services will suggest a good provider for you. As for the unstable history, look I am sorry but i had my child when i was 15 and have had to work ever since I have never had help, and yes there is times my son is sick, going through major problems, but that is somethig you have to dela with, you cant just keep quitting jobs!
@Bevsue (251)
• United States
8 Dec 06
In a frustrating situation like yours, you have to learn to think outside the box and develop a money consciousness that is not dependant upon your being able to work a 'traditional' job. You can't get to work every single day but maybe you could deliver newspapers or stock greeting cards or magazines in stores. Those people work a few hours a month and have 'some' flexibility in their hours. Sign up with some mystery shopping sites (don't pay for these, there are plenty free ones). You can earn a few dollars like that--at your convenience to a certain degree. Accept the fact that due to your situation, you will have to have several things going on at all times to compensate for a fulltime salary. Remember, your life won't be like this forever and when the kids are older it will be easier for you. Many of us have beenhere and survived.
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• United States
9 Dec 06
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@persistence1969 (27)
• United States
8 Dec 06
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@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
8 Dec 06
My suggestion is to start your own business.There are some that have low start up fees. Someone suggested a daycare. That's a good idea. Maybe you could start an errand service. Some people make lots of money with Ebay. Why don't you check your local library? They should have some books about self employment ideas. I know you can find them at Books a Million stores.
@jmp824 (741)
• Philippines
8 Dec 06
Everybody nowadays has a great difficulty interms of financial stability. We are all striving hard to make both ends meet. But no matter how hard we try, a couple of times that we lose the battle. We are all in need of financial help, or whatever help will be greatly appreciated. But we also take note that not all help are genuine, some opportunities outthere are fake and scams, so we slways be keen enough to handle this.
Don't worry you are not the only one experiencing this kind of difficulty. We are all!
@anurgupta (1891)
• India
8 Dec 06
i have full sympathy with u....u could probably try some baby sitting job where u can take ur child along with u...this way u can take care of ur child also and earn some money..or best option is take ur friends help in getting some job if u have them.....they might do more than a needful for u.
@mytwo_daughters (2663)
• United States
8 Dec 06
good luck! Hate to sound so dismal but that's the way it is with kids. We have to make alot of sacrifices! I'm sorry it is so tough for you. I know what it's like, I really do! I'm an agency nurse, and I could really make a killing, but I have kids. Plus there's the cancellation factor. I was a work a holic before I had kids...but I wouldn't want to miss their childhood for all the world!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
8 Dec 06
If you have a Jobcentre I would suggest you go there and get some advise and they might even have some Jobs working from Home
Also you could look into Babysitting or Childminding as it is called here
I know here in the UK they get good money for that but they also get checked out and have to do a Course so why not try that
@aboutlostit (126)
• United States
8 Dec 06
you should try looking at med transrciping at home and look at you local dhs office there is a program that will help you with child care they will pay for most or at least half of it and the daycare has to be up to state standereds so thats a good thing i would look in to that and see what you can find . maybe child care from home would be good for you.
@kyuti_elai (90)
• Philippines
8 Dec 06
why don't you try to run a business? you can start with a small one. i guess that would help.
