Public Displays of Affection

@megs85 (3144)
Australia
December 7, 2006 5:32pm CST
My partner dislikes showing any sort of affection (be it holding hands, cuddling, kissing) in public. At times it makes me feel as if he's ashamed of me, though he has explained to me numerous times that he just feels insecure and uncomfortable in p.d.a. How do you feel about public displays of affection? Do you find them offensive? Do you feel uncomfortable with them? How does your partner feel about them?
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36 responses
• United States
8 Dec 06
couple - halloween couple pda
around other couples, i'm perfectly comfortable with expressing my love for my girly, but in the presence of singles, i keep my distance for THEIR comfort. Ive noticed that singles dont like to be reminded or shown what rtheir missing, and it makes them a little insecure. She of course has a hard time understanding this, but thats the truth. Maybe Im too considerate... I dont do this for example:
@jeffaim (215)
• United States
8 Dec 06
i agree - especially in places like parties where you know people and it's mostly single people, even a peck on the cheek or handholding can make them feel uncomfortable. sometimes doing the same thing in a very public place can be more comfortable. I'll hold hands with my wife walking in the park, but not usually walking into a bar - it just seems to be considerate and adapted to the location and occasion.
@Lydia1901 (16353)
• United States
8 Dec 06
My husband is not like that, he doesn't mind doing things like that in public. I'm ok with it and I don't see anything wrong with it at all.
@megs85 (3144)
• Australia
8 Dec 06
Thats great, I wish my partner felt a little more comfortable, it would make me feel a little more secure about our relationship I'm sure.
• United States
13 Dec 06
My ex had no shame and would always take things way too far even in the most public places. I couldn't get him to stop! My new guy is much more reserved, thank goodness.
@pelya178 (694)
• United States
13 Dec 06
iam definitely NOT a touchy feely kind of person. and whenevr id see ppl showin affection in public id be like ewwww lol n i said that would NEVER be me. lol welll i fell in love with a girl and it being affectionate comes so naturally when im with her. its a TOTALLY different story now. n i dont even realize it. when im with her it feels like we're the only ones who exist and so i dont even give it a second thought as we walk down the street holding hands n giving occasional kisses. of course we know where to draw the lines. we wont kiss or anything in front of kids or if we're in a tight place like a crowded bus where all eyes r on us lol but its such a great feeling to walk down the street n be so proud shes with u. n shes urs that u cant keep ur hands off her lol
@Kaorin (757)
• Australia
12 Dec 06
I don't think, personally, that there's anything wrong at all with holding hands with your other when you're walking down the street. I do it myself, and it doesn't bother me in the slightest when I see others doing it. Same goes for a hug. Kissing is a little different. A peck on the cheek or lips is totally fine with me. My boyfriend will ocassionally lean over and kiss me on the nose, and I really doubt that someone seeing it is going to find it offensive. The only thing I find annoying is when people are going the full-on french kiss in public. It doesn't offend me, it just bugs me that they can't wait until they're home to do that. It's sad that your partner doesn't even like to hold hands in public. I'd be incredibly upset if my boyfriend did the same.
• United States
12 Dec 06
some people just don't like being public about affection. im not much of a pda person either.
@kids91911 (4366)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Some people like to and some don't. I don't mind hand holding or a kiss but the farther than a kiss makes me sick.
• United States
9 Dec 06
I think it is very distasteful to others. One doesn't out doors to show others spreading of their germs. The mouth is very disgusting and P.d.a is gross. I personally think is it tacky where ever people show others their private moments. It also shows the mind set of a person. To be very nasty. But others are not to judge one another.
• United States
9 Dec 06
My bf is the same way. On the other hand, it is hard for me to keep my hands (and other body parts) to myself. I try to keep it low key around very public places (such as our school) but at a gathering at my house or at his, I tend to be a bit more hands on. ;)
• Australia
8 Dec 06
I think there is no shame in holding hands or a cuddle even a quick kiss in public it shows love and lets everyone know you two are together. I would have a chat with him i dont understand why he wont hold hands? unless there is someone else? Goodluck
@sunita64 (6470)
• India
8 Dec 06
I feel all sensitive people dislike showing affection in front of public.But it varies from place to place, In conservative societies this is not done but where society is open then i think it does not matter.
• United States
8 Dec 06
i think that holding hands and such is alight. but when you get into the heavier stuff like making out and being all over each other, that's when it's inappropriate. there are things that people just don't want to see. save it for the bedroom.
• United States
8 Dec 06
My partner also doesnot like showing any affection in public which at times make sme feel sad. I wish he would to some extent :(
• United States
8 Dec 06
I wouldn't think anything of it. A lot of people, myself included don't like to show affection in public. For me, I don't have any problems with holding hands, and a little cuddling, but kissing, and major cuddling, i'm unconfortable with around people. My girlfriend tries to get me to show more affection, and I have gotten a little better, and in return, she has backed off a little bit when we are out in public.
• United States
8 Dec 06
i think holding hands, hugging, and light kissing is ok in public...when couples start groping or start kissing extremely passionately, almost to the point of love making, then i feel a little uncomfortable...but thats just me and everyone feels differently about this
@Caponis (206)
• United States
8 Dec 06
He sprobably feels funny in public. Im sure it has nothing to do with you. I know I would definetly show you affection in public.
• United States
8 Dec 06
PDA is getting out of hand nowadays. i can't stand it, if you wnat to suck face with somoen, GO HOME!
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
8 Dec 06
i dont mind holding hands or cuddling or even a quick little peck on the lips, but i cant stand when people stand in the middle of the street and make out. that's just really gross...and nobody wants to see that. its even grosser when you can hear them kissing cause its so loud and disgusting.
@humaaaa (1387)
• Pakistan
8 Dec 06
if he doesn't wants you to publicly hold his hand or you both kiss each other in public than its not because he is shy of public or don't want to show your love to any one, it depends on person to person, some people don't like to love their girl frined in front of every one, just want them to keep pampered and away from every body else. So its not bad.
@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
He's not ashamed. Maybe that's just the way he is. Don't read too much into it. Think of it this way, where he shows you affection is most important in the bedroom! Public displays are not bad. But is it really public. I don't kiss my woman at the mall wanting everyone to see. But it should not get out of hand.