How would YOU break-up with your boyfriend or girlfriend?

@chunkers (1050)
United States
December 8, 2006 12:01am CST
If you wanted to break-up with your boyfriend or girfriend, and they started a big scene and wanted to fight everytime you brought up the subject of splitting, how would you go about doing it without all the drama?
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30 responses
• Netherlands
12 Dec 06
I would get the video camera out and take video of her tantrums.
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@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Do you think it would help if you had a friend or family member with you at the time? She might act better if she sees you have someone there for support or do you think it might just make her madder?
@chunkers (1050)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Yes. That would probably help. Then she can't tell her mom that I'm mean, etc. Great Idea!!! Thanks!
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@Kackie3 (345)
• United States
22 Dec 06
Yes, that is a great idea. That way if she flips out(which she probably won't), there is a witness to her tantrums. If I were you I would start telling everyone close to you about how she acts, so they arent surprised when they hear all the commotion. They will know what to expect. Then calmly tell her to leave.
@findcutegj (1466)
• India
8 Dec 06
If I would want to break-up with my boyfriend or girfriend, and if they start a big scene when i approach them with breaking up, i would simply ask them to not to talk any more. However, in life, i dont think these instances are frequent. they occurr rarely!
@chunkers (1050)
• United States
8 Dec 06
You haven't met my girlfriend!! #1 She doesn't talk, even when she's mad; except to her mother, friends, our neighbors, etc. to talk bad about me. #2 If she would talk, a lot of our problems could be avoided. #3 She destroys stuff when I try to talk about splitting. There's no easy way out of this one!!!
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@lilaidi (155)
• United States
16 Dec 06
If they started a big scene, I would tell them... "You see, this is exactly why we do not need to be together. Our personalities clash. I have a low tolerance for drama, so its over, and do not try to contact me I am erasing your phone number from my phone and memory. GOOD-BYE!"
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• United States
18 Dec 06
I'm a pisces so I don't like to hurt someones feelings. But I've found the best way to break up, especially if you know they're going to throw a tantrum, is to go out to get some coffee and tell her/him in public. They are less likely to throw a fit that way. Then have them remove their belongings from your apartment/house while you are gone. But remember to have a family there so they can't destroy your property. Good luck!
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• United States
16 Dec 06
Another solution maybe? Get her nice and drunk, on the verge of passing out, and then tell her. When she passes out run like hell or call her friends and tell them that you 2 broke up and she needs some help moving her stuff out. Evil I say, evil ;-). If I were going to break up with a girl I'd just tell her that I'm not interested anymore and I don't have time for her crap. That's it.
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@menaku (25)
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
i will break it ti him gently... you have to be firm with your decision or else he will throw a tantrum everytime you bring that subject up and you have to let him feel slowly that you don't want him anymore in your life
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
16 Dec 06
I'd quit combing my hair and showering, and start farting a lot.. and eat a lotta beans.. maybe start acting strange deep in the night...
• United States
16 Dec 06
If I were dating a "drama king" and wanted it to be over, I would simply go on about my business and have my new man tell him its over..this way, if he decided to make a scene or get crazy, my new man is right there to take care of the situation
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@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
9 Dec 06
LOL! i could be bad about giving ideas but if a boyfriend would make it a big deal for us to split up, i'd give him a real big deal - make the split up an 'occasion', a formal sit-down talk with witnesses both from my side and his side when i bring up the issue so he can't go berserk. and if he still does, at least i got witnesses to know what really goes on and to help pacify the nuts as well. i know this is tough but if i wanted myself out of a relationship, i just would and bear with the consequences. it's sad you're going thru this, hope things go well with you.
@suren2k6cse (2621)
• India
22 Dec 06
just tell them not to talk and not interfer on your things
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@Kackie3 (345)
• United States
22 Dec 06
I just thought of a good way, tell her hey lets go on a vacation and see if things can't get a little better. Pick someplace far away and start driving. Stay at a nice motel on the way and order some food that you have to go and pick up..................then run. When she finally makes her way back home, let her find all her belongings outside, and locks changed. Leave a nice note for her in with her belongings that says see I tried to tell you its over. If she throws a fit, then, call the cops and tell them there is a crazy lady on your premises. LOL
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• India
31 Dec 06
if u want ot breakup ur relationship than there is no need of argument just avoid her nothing .
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@lemar37 (201)
• United States
1 Jan 07
You have to be honest tell them the truth and end it.
@mfrancq (1806)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I would just say, "look, I don't want to fight, I don't want drama, but this is just not happening. I'm sorry" Then just walk away. No need to linger, this will only give the other person time to think of something to fight about. Just go. Do not answer the phone if they call, this will only send mixed messagesn The only way out of this situation is to put your foot down and be firm.
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• United States
16 Dec 06
Well if you don't want any drama pack thier clothes and leave them outside for them when they get home. This is however a bit cowardly. Based on your discussion you are probably a rather funny guy who finds it hard to be serious even when the occassion calls for it, this isn't a bad thing but you might have to be a little more stern and final with her.
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@frosthon (2249)
• Singapore
21 Dec 06
Tell them straight that you have no feelings for them. Worst case scenerio, tell them you are seeing somebody. You will definitely hurt their feeings. But short pain is better than long pain. Dealing with relationship issue must be fast.
• United States
23 Dec 06
simply sit them down in a quiet place and tell whats on my mind.if they chose to fight the issue them i would walk out.
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• India
21 Dec 06
thats not a big deal you just tell he i don't like you and i cannot bound with this relation ship more so we must be split now. if she agree with you ok othere wise you must be egnowre him/her ithink this is enough to break-up
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@feralwoman (2199)
• Australia
22 Dec 06
How about a "Dear John" e-mail! Ha Ha, no drama, but completely impersonal. Would avoid all the drama though.
@TheoMom (110)
• United States
21 Dec 06
o.k... My husband is the same way... We share that and will also track me down... So from experience, I say leave when she is not there.. That's what I did... gradually I move some things that meant something to me to storage and left the rest to fate. When he left to go to work that morning, I was picked, loaded with a Uhaul that I reserved and was out of there in five hours.. with help from friends. So if it's that bad... pack and go when she's not there.
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• United States
31 Dec 06
Thats really easy....simple let him of her know indirectly that you are seeing someone else and when they ask you about it...pretend ignorance...they will understand and you are safe...but i guess that easier said than done...anyways all the best
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