Is it justifiable...

@megs85 (3144)
Australia
December 8, 2006 6:04am CST
... to be unfaithful to a partner that you rarely see? Or is cheating cheating, no matter what? My partner often goes away for work and although I get extremely lonely I would not dream of seeing anyone else. My son keeps me pretty busy regardless, but even were he not around I would still not be tempted to stray I love my partner and I think at the end of the day if you love someone, you don't do anything that could possibly even remotely hurt them.
19 responses
@rbevan (308)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I think cheating is cheating. Have you talked to your husband & let him know that you are not happy & you don't feel close to him right now? You should atleast give him a chance to change before you do something like cheat. If he does not change, that is his own fault.
@megs85 (3144)
• Australia
9 Dec 06
You obivously didnt read what I asked properly. It wasnt a personal question but a hypothetical one. I'm, quite happy and secure in my relationship, and hes all I need thanks very much!
@kids91911 (4365)
• United States
10 Dec 06
No it is not justified.
• United States
9 Dec 06
Time away shoould never be a reason why. If it is not happiness between the 2. Straying is possible. Cheating is not cheating if one lives alone and filing for devorce.
@ESKARENA1 (18296)
9 Dec 06
being unfaithful can never be excused . If the relationship has gone bad then you should bring it to an end not play around, nothing on earth hurts as much as that
@wyykidd (1460)
• Singapore
9 Dec 06
I think that not being able to have your partner be with you is not a justifiable reason for being unfaithful. Especially if your partner is elsewhere working hard. It will be tough on you being alone & having to take care of your son, but your spirit and love for staying true to your partner deserves an applause! :)
@lovein (345)
• India
9 Dec 06
When U will focus on one form, you will get feelings. When U will focus on many forms , you will not get feelings, one day. You will feel like , as if you are acting, not in real life. It is up to you, what ever yiu do feel good.
• Indonesia
9 Dec 06
yes
• United States
9 Dec 06
in my eyes it is NOT justifiable. If you cant be faithful to somebody you have no business being with them long distance relationship or not.
• United States
9 Dec 06
i agree with your last statement. cheating is cheating and it's probably one of the most horrible things to do to someone you love. like they say out of sight out of mind can also be true but it might affect people differently. but it shouldn't be justified for that reason.
• United States
9 Dec 06
no its not justifiable to be unfaithful to someone you raley see. and if you want to be unfaithful you should break it off. i agree with you, if you truley love someone you would not hurt them like that...
@deedles88 (297)
• Australia
9 Dec 06
Cheating is cheating is cheating is cheating.. No matter what the situation is, its still cheating. If you want to be with someone else, you should end the first relationship. People use excuses like, I dont see them alot, and so on.. Well, if you have problems like that, try and work on them, and if they cant be resolved then, sadly, the relationship should be ended..
@killailla (1301)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
I dont find that it is ever justifiable to cheat, or lie to loved one. If you want to cheat then you should leave your partner cause if you loved them you would never want to cheat
@Ethanael (81)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Cheating is cheating is cheating is cheating. If you're going to be unfaithful on the ground that you never see him, just forget about it, and end it with him. No use leading him on if you're going to be with someone else on the side, anyway. Mmmmm...
• United States
8 Dec 06
I think cheating is cheating. If you have agreed to be in a relationship with someone, you should only be with that person. There is no reason to stray. If you love someone, they are the only one you need.
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
8 Dec 06
i dont think its ever justifiable. if you dont see your partner often and that leads you to think about cheating, then you might as well break up with them. you're obviously not happy because they are away so much and you seek pleasure elsewhere, so what's the point of even staying in the relationship?
@mkup30 (494)
• United States
8 Dec 06
yep, cheating is cheating and their is no excuse for you to do it. You should be faithful..especially to the father of your child. If you want to be with someone else then leave your current partner first
@Lydia1901 (16353)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I agree with you, if you really love someone, that wouldn't even cross your mind. I think it's cheating to do that when your partner is away and probably is a good idea to get out of the relationship if you plan on doing that. That way you're not lying to yourself and keeping it real.
@Stephanie5 (2947)
• United States
8 Dec 06
kids kids kids - my youngins
Well, you already knew the answer to that one before you asked, lol....Cheating is cheating!!I know how you feel though..my old man leaves for weeks at a time and with 9 kids I don't have time to talk to anyone but the kids, but I am very lonely sometimes. I wouldn't dream of doing anything stupid to mess up mine and my hubbies fantastic relationship though. I know he's out there working his butt off for US!!! So, no, I wouldn't ever cheat on him!Best wishes!
• Singapore
8 Dec 06
i agree with you, if you really love someone, you will not want to do anything that could hurt them. my bf sometimes will go back to singapore while im in malaysia...it gets so lonely to be sleeping alone and doing everything else alone...but luckily, with internet, IM, phone, webcam...it can make us feel so close...