Have you ever fallen in love with your friend?

friendship - love in friendship
India
December 8, 2006 12:07pm CST
Hey people, i saw many topics askin how u knw u r in love or love at forst sight, but lemme knw ur opinions how is it falling in love with your friend or bestfriend? how do u think such relationship is different than ne other love? how do you realise tht u love ur friend? ne experiences?? and what can be the chances of success of such relationships, specially wen the other one doesnt feel the same way? do u lose ir friend? step in the condition and tell me wat wud u do wen u know ur very gud friend has feelings for you!!!
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97 responses
• India
28 Dec 06
Falling in love with ur Friend or Bestfriend isn't really surprising,you know the person so well,u just get used to'em! You know their likes/dislikes,what makes them happy, what makes them angry and so on! So you can't fall in Love with the person you can't be friend with on the other hand falling in Love with ur Friend or Bestfriend is probably the best choice! Every relationship is different in it's own way,so this one too is diff. than any other 'couple' related relationship!But the chances of success of this kinda relationship is more than ny other Love! Well abt realizing,u gotta be in that situation to actually feel it,words can't describe it,can they? If u've ever been in such situation,u wud've known it doesn't take a sec. to realize that u just can't live without that person! The chances of success of this kinda relationship depend upon both of them...and if the other one doesn't feel the same,then you should give ur relationship some more time and then decide but Do think before deciding nything! You may lose ur friend but if it works then u might get a lot more than just a friend!Well you say a very gud friend...Think a little,spend sometime and u never know u might find out later that he's the ideal one for U! I've been through all dis and I denied her 'cause I was elder to her but age doesn't really matter in Love...what matters is how much u 'Love' in 'Love'...u may not live happily with the person of ur age and Regret later...! Think and Decide!
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• United States
8 Dec 06
I didn't fall in love with a friend, but I did like him a lot. It was a complicated situation. I wanted him to know I liked him, but at the same time I didn't want to jeopardize our friendship. My friend ended up telling him, cause she knew I wouldn't, and it was really awkward at first. But it's been over a year later since that happened and he's one of my best friends. Probably about 8 months or so ago, I realized that since he lives in New York, it wouldn't work out. He didn't even know what to do since he lived in NY. As much as I cared for him, I decided that we'd be better off as friends.
• United States
28 Dec 06
I think you missed about half of my post. He lives about 12 hours away from me. I live in Indiana and he lives in New York. I want to be with him, but I want to be with someone I can see all the time. Not just a few times a month. Plus I decided that we make much better friends.
@vipul20044 (5794)
• India
8 Dec 06
I have been in the same situation and it ended in heartache we found out that we were just better being "Just FRIENDS". I am not saying the same will happen to you but tread cautiously. VERY CAUTIOUSLY. I think the problem with these kinds of relationships is that you know each other too well. You know she has a past of cheating or whatever so... you get prepared and that the downfall. Also its awkward to go to that next stage and you have to be mentally prepared for that. You too both need to talk and find out if your both ready for that... and answer the questions: What if it doesn't work out will you still be able to be friends?? and Are you both willing to sacrifice your friendship for a possible long term love affair??. As I said just be careful and talk to her don't rush it.!
• India
9 Dec 06
hey nice response!! bt dont really think its my case!! my friend is goin thru dis!! nd trust me she is goin thru hard time!! thanks for the responses neway!! i hope she'll find sum help frm here.
@dholey (1383)
• India
9 Dec 06
i remember some lines:- DOSTI JO PYAR BANE HAIRAT NAHI , KYONKI DOSTI MUHABBAT HAI NAFRAT NAHI i.e. there is no wonder that you fall in love with friend as friendship is love.... it is so obvious that one can fall in love with the best pal because YOU KNOW ALL ABOUT HIM his merits and demerits too,you know his thought process,his liking mean while you will come closer to your friend and naturally you will start loving him/her ....
• India
12 Dec 06
but do u really believe tht 2 best frnds can actually have tht relationship? i mean i always thot tht 2 very gud friends always remain frnds and love is different frm tht. der is frndship in love bt not tht love in frndship. tht love is called friendly love nd d one for ur companion is very different.
• United States
8 Dec 06
I've never fallen in love with a friend, but I have definately had plenty of crushes on them.
@xionous (439)
• Belgium
9 Dec 06
lol how did u recover from each of those crashs?
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I usually became friends with them after we start dating. I am still best friends with one of them many years after the relationship ended. I did have a friend who fell for me & I think it caused him a lot of pain when I did not feel the same way. I never wanted to hurt him, but I could not force myself to have romantic feelings for hiim either.
• India
9 Dec 06
thts very true!! u actually cant help it!!
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Those are the best kind of relationships, when you are friends first and then you fall in love, So many people in love with one another end up breaking up because they can't be good friends too.
@ezzrssi (11188)
• Italy
9 Dec 06
Yes one time !
• United States
9 Dec 06
No i havent fallen in love with a friend.
@nuel_h (1592)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 06
1st of all, i would like to say that thanks for posting such quality post, now.. i have fallen withmy friend before. ny best friend. the truth , i never tell her, and its great decision coz, we are seeing someone else and both of us are happy.
@Kevindu62 (329)
• France
9 Dec 06
heart - heart
Yes! i have ever fallen in love with my better friend!it has primary school!and u?
@bindishah (2062)
• India
9 Dec 06
I think it would be a wonderful feeling falling in love with your best friend. The person already knows you in and out, would not take you for granted and compromises would be easy to reach in case of problems.
@samaira (162)
• India
9 Dec 06
no never...but yes if love happens between two friends it wud be the best relationship ..coz friends can understand each other very well..
@ngchunyi (130)
• Canada
24 Dec 06
well not exactly fall in love together. But there was definitely time when i had feelings toward my friend.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
9 Dec 06
it's better to be frieds first before getting into a relationship. it's best to root as friends first. get to know each other. and have a smooth relationship while in a relationship. not all friends-first relationships last forever. but it's worth the try.
• United States
9 Dec 06
I fell in love with my friend and married him. We celebrated our 5 year annv this month and have 2 children together.
• India
9 Dec 06
i have never been in such a situation, but know couple of friends who have.. i will say, when you are in love with anyone, even it might be your best friend, you will know that.. you will long for them, try to be with them and care for them.. so go and find your love.. :)
@Hamlet333 (724)
• Pakistan
9 Dec 06
I think its really good to be in love with friend because if we have good understanding with our best we can feel good in love with him...
• India
9 Dec 06
shine of friendship - friendship of sun with its shape
friendship not always ends with making lowe. if u have love toward ur frends u can suatain ur friendship longer..
@rockboy (79)
• India
9 Dec 06
no ididnot fallen in love