Too Available

You know what they say.....Treat them mean, Keep them keen. I definately believe in that one.

i agree with you that she should not be so egar to be with him, as if things dont work out, she will get hurt. i hope that she listens to you and comes to see that your only trying to spare the pain,if it happened.

One tidbit of advise I have always told people is that "absence makes the heart grow fonder".

I believe that if you are too eager to meet a guy and the guy notices that, there is a big chance that he will take you for granted. He would think that he does not need to exert an effort because the girl is so into him. Your daughter should take it easy. She should learn how to say "no" to him to keep him interested in her. Advice her not to always reply to his text messages and not to always accept his invitations for meet-ups. Give the guy a challenge. And if he would still pursue her, then she would know that the guy really likes her.

I don't think being eager or available-- in itself-- is a bad thing, especially if it represents genuine feelings. However, where I'd start to get concerned is if the eagerness slides into a negative sort of "unhealthy neediness." Of course, I think I should frame that in the context of my general dislike for the whole "game playing" aspect of meeting/dating... I've always believed in just being oneself.

I don't think that there is anything really called being too available, at least on a more mature level. In fact, in mature relationships, it is often a plus if a person responds promptly, even if it is to say that he/she is busy at the moment and will call/message back later. However, that level of maturity is absent amongst teenagers and so, they face this problem. Your daughter's friend may end up thinking too highly of himself and take your daughter for granted if she is eager to please him all the time. I don't believe that you should teach her to play hard to get or whatever, as that can lead to a negative attitude too, but just tell her to take herself more seriously than she is at the moment. That should do the trick.

oh yes, i think that she should not be so eager, i remember doing the exact same thing with a guy when i was her age! and i look back now and think that if i had backed off a little it would have turned out diff. but when you like someone so much you just want to talk to and be with them every minute possible, thats a great feeling! a qoute i really love comes to mind, "familiarity breeds contempt"