Your thoughts about Comittment

United States
December 9, 2006 7:12pm CST
I want to compile some great ideas to write an article on COMMITTMENT! I am looking for deeper repsonses, not a shallow one word/sentence response. Give it a little thought. Here is some help- 1. What are you comitted to --- people places or things? 2. Are you overly committed? 3. Do you view your committment as voluntary or an obligation? 4. What is your level of committment? 5. How long do you plan to be committed? 6. What drives your committment- love, fear, or just do it out of habit?
21 responses
@superbaaz (133)
• India
10 Dec 06
i m commited to my family and i think it is voluntary.love drives my commitment and i advise all that love is one thing which can bring a change in an individual or countries.my commitment level is the highest what a individual can think of and i do it happily.
• United States
11 Dec 06
That was interesting...you said love is one thing that can bring a change in an individual or countries. Should we try to change others or do you mean we should effect positive change in others by loving them? ~~Max
• India
11 Dec 06
we should try to change others its not that doing everything for them but just a helping hand.
• United States
11 Dec 06
Nice topic. When I commit to someone close like gf or friends or family, it for entire life.But as time goes u come to know if ur commitment is required or not dependin on the person's behaviour. Most of the time its love n respect which keeps me committed to someone.
• United States
11 Dec 06
So you believe in an unconditional commitment? ~~Max
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
Well...I am committed to my family. I am sometimes overly committed to some degree. I think I do have an obligation being a mother. I have a strong level of committment. I plan to comitted the rest of my life. I think love drives my committment. I hope that helps...I am also a writer..It sounds like an interesting article...
• United States
11 Dec 06
Have you had anything published? I found a nice publishing site that pays for writings. Let me know if you are interested. I noticed you said, "sometimes overly-committed". That is a truer statement than many that have been made on the topic. I believe we need to "pick" our committments wisely. Thanks for your thoughts ~~Max
• United States
10 Dec 06
I just celebrated 10 years of marriage. Now I was married once before (almost 10 years) and there is such a difference in the marriages and the commitment from me and to me. My husband now does not make it impossible for me to be committed. He's committed, I'm committed. We are partners, we work on things. We see things through when times get tough. Life makes it tough even when you're sitting there minding your own business. We've had so many things thrown at us in 10 years but we both worked on the same side. My first husband made my commitment impossible. We had 3 kids and I didn't want to leave. I left one night with the 3 kids, no job and nowhere to go. I had had enough. I was about to BE committed if I stayed one more minute. Commitment is necessary in every relationship but when you push someone to the brink they should snap their commitment to you in a New York second and never look back.
• United States
11 Dec 06
"To thine own self be true". It is important to take care of ourselves, and when children are involved, they need our help and protection. ~~Max
• India
10 Dec 06
just like that - it is a good image
according to me commitment is very imp aspect of one's life. persons whole character depends on commitment he makes. commitment is easy to make but difficult to fulfil.
• United States
11 Dec 06
Ah, I like that...commitment is easy but difficult to fulfil. It is important to weigh the cost of the commitment before geting involved. Breaking a commitment can be painful for both persons. ~~Max
@vidyaa (14)
• India
10 Dec 06
i am committed to myself...and my love....my commitment to my love prevents me from roaming around...and my commitment to myself helps me to improve my future...my commitment is voluntary...i m committed to level where my last breathe stays... love is immortal so length of time for this cannot be calculated n regarding myself my past is a rolemodel for my future..so as long as i have my future my past stays with me...my soul drives my committment,the way it is committed to my body
• United States
11 Dec 06
It is wonderful to be committed to ourselves. In this day and age, many people loose themselves in others without any thought to loving themselves. ~~Max
@Aali311 (6112)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I think right now im commited to my family but im not doing such a good job i have a hard time commiting to things people places things family whatever it is that i have to commit to its hard for me. I think i fear commitment because commiting your self to someone/something it meant o give yourself to them always and i dont know if i cant do that ever i have problems letting people in and gettingto know me its hard for me i guess i dont know why but i dont let anyone get to close.
• United States
11 Dec 06
Maybe it is a fear of being too transparent. We all feel safer behind our imaginary walls until we know for sure a person can be trusted. ~~Max
@saibal06 (2575)
• India
10 Dec 06
A very good topic. I am committed to my relationships specially my relationship with my gf. I am totally and unconditionally committed to her and it is an honest commitment. My level of commitment is high. It is wholly voluntary but I like to keep this level for the rest of my life.
• United States
11 Dec 06
The words "honest commitment" jumped off the page at me. There is more value in honesty than in commitment in my opinion. ~~Max
@urzicutza (1971)
• Romania
10 Dec 06
well fro my point of weau comitment it starts with love!!! yes i am comited to somebody that i love!verry much!well i can not say that i am over comitde butt i want to be! because i want to be one and the same person!my comitment is not is not an obligation!because you are not obligated to love and to suport and to be part of a persons life!i do it because i love him and i want to help and pe part of his life in every sigel meaning of the word! well my level of comitment is stil in the girfriend boyfriend level,butt is much more deaper than other relation ships!it i te frisr person that i ask for advice!and he does the same!we are like unseparable!we have a verry great conection and it is verry deap! i plan to be comited until the rest of my life! and like i sead my comitment is based on love! and we are going tru some dificult tims right now!and i hope that our conetion and love will manige to get tru of this to!we have been so many hings inour relation ship! and sometimes we are wonering how have we maniged to stay togheter! i hope that we will show the world that we belong togheter!
• United States
11 Dec 06
WOW!! "Will show the world that we belong together". That is interesting to me. You are not only committed, but want everyone to know it. It is not a love and commitment that is just behind closed doors, but is very public! Nice answer! ~~Max
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
I am committed to GOD, and my family. I am happy serving GOD, having faith on Him. As well as to my family, it really uplifts my heart knowing that i can already help on our expenses especially for my brother's medication. I do not think of ending my faith on GOD and/or helping my family. For as long as i live, i will continue these goodness because it gives me happiness and joy.
• United States
11 Dec 06
Well said.....you stay committed to your goodness because it gives you happiness and joy. I like to refer to this kind of love as unconditional. ~~Max
@Etharon (217)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 06
I am commited to the people I love and care about most. Of course it is voluntary. I doubt that commitment can be forced, when a person is obligated to do things there is a difference in outcome. When you do something out of love, you always do your best and put in your best effort. When things are done out of obligation we tend to have the "get it over and done with attitude". I have none or little commitment towards my job and see it as something passing. However, I strive with great determination to replace my day job with an online income, therefore I am very commited to searching for the right opportunity till I find it. I will keep striving to make my stay at home mummy "job" become a reality, hopefully by end of 2007.
• United States
11 Dec 06
Have you ever thought of writing from home and being paid? I can help you out with that if you would like more information. I see what you mean about the job. Jobs come and go as do other opportunities. Family will be there til the end of our lives. It is a good place to show committment. ~~Max
• India
10 Dec 06
I am extremely attached and committed to my boyfriend.My commitment is voluntary,i love him alot,therefore the commitment follows.I plan to be committed forever,but he is not independent financially,so he doesnt want to commit at present.Definitey love drives my committment,and i really fear of losing him.He is my life,and i cant just live without him!Usually people fear commitment(specially men)!
• United States
11 Dec 06
Yes....men fear commitment. I know some who "want" commitment from a girl but are reluctant to "give" commitment back. ~~Max
• United States
10 Dec 06
committment It's a multi meaning wrod To me it basically means putiing yourself 110% behind the person, project, or idea.
• United States
11 Dec 06
Yes, I agree. Committment can have different meanings. Committment can be to many things OR committment can be to "too" many things. ~~Max
• India
10 Dec 06
you must think before commitment that you shud make it or not.but after making commitment you must be committed always whether it is love or family or nething...:)
• United States
11 Dec 06
Do mean, consider our intention and stamina before we commit?
@totomon78 (393)
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
im committed to my family, my girlfriend and my work...first of all for me its family first...then work...my family will always be there...so i give extra effort on my girlfriend and her family, been going steady for 4 years now...how do i want to stay.. i dont plan to make a date on when it should end or how long im just going with the flow...for as long as it takes....to my work as long as the company is happy with my service and the company also values my service, im happy to stay.....
• United States
11 Dec 06
I like how you said your committment was not only to your girlfriend, but it extends to those she loves---her family. ~~Max
@kishchun (497)
• Oman
10 Dec 06
yes, am committed to the people i love, to the people i like, sometimes to places too. and with me, it is completely voluntary and to the utmost level. no, i don't think it can be planned because it just is, it happens and it is life time, unless something goes terribly wrong - if the person doesn't deserve it, if i find that my faith is wrongly placed.
• United States
11 Dec 06
In what ways do you show committment? How can you tell when a person does not deserve your committment? ~~Max
• United States
10 Dec 06
Commetment means that no matter whats happens or might happen you stand by the side of the one your commited to. I am commited to my marriage and my children. It means that no other will stand in the way of them. It means to fight for them not with them. To commit to something is volantary, once you commit it is your obligation to stay commited. With my commitments it is for a lifetime . Love enables me to keep them and want to keep them.
• United States
11 Dec 06
I liked what you said...fight for them, not with them. ~Max
@14missy (3183)
• Australia
10 Dec 06
I agree that committment means that you stand by your decision whether it was made in good or bad judgement at the time! Marriage is one such commitment. I feel that any committment I make is voluntarily made by me and although I may rethink my decision in making that committment I try to stand true to it through moral obligation.
• United States
11 Dec 06
It there were no moral consequence to changing your mind on a committment, would you do it? ~~Max
@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
10 Dec 06
i am committed to lots of things like my family, the man i love ...the usual things, but there is one other thing i am very committed too. that commitment is to educating people about homosexuality, there are so many unenlightened people that are homophobic mainly because they don't understand why gays are gay. they look at it as if it were a choice for someone to be gay...IT'S NOT! it just makes me so angry when people have so much negative stuff to say about things they know nothing about! i don't claim to know everything about the subject, but...i have several gay friends and i see the way they get treated by people that don't take the time to educate themselves before they start talking or acting. it would be a better world if these people would spend their energy on trying to do things like stop crime, make the world a safe place to live, stop the war...you know the really important things instead of unimportant things like what a person prefers sexually!
• United States
11 Dec 06
What means are you using to educate people on homosexuality? ~~Max
@pamknows (33)
• United States
10 Dec 06
i am committed to my family and it is totally voluntary if you are committed by force then its not commitment from the heart and true committment comes from within if i am committed im committed all the way good or bad. when i was working i was commited to doing the best i could my word and committment is only as good as you make it and i want to be respected for what i do that dont mean they have to agree with me
• United States
11 Dec 06
Can you tell me what you mean by "im committed all the way good or bad"? Does that mean you will always stay in a relationship, even if you are treated badly? ~~Max