can an affair ever be possitive to a marriage?
By ESKARENA1
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
6 responses
@budsr03 (2350)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
Well there is the chance that the husband could fall in love with the one he is having an affair. Wife and hubby get back together after hubby gets dumped. Hubby can't forget how much his wife was hurt by this short affair. I can't see it as being positive.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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1 Apr 07
ok, but i was thinking more in terms of an affair filling gaps in the marriage that if left unfulfilled would destroy it. Is that not possible ?
@nancyrowina (3850)
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31 Mar 07
If the marriage is already failing I imagine it would finish it, unless the person that whichever party is having the affair with makes a mistake and shows the married party what a mistake they are making by cheating on their spouse.
In my experience once trust is gone from the relationship it becomes very difficult and paranoia ruins the relationship.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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10 Dec 06
thank you for your response, is it not possible to get over an affair and the marriage be stronger for it though?
@nancygibson (3736)
• France
10 Dec 06
Off hand I can't think of a reason why it might, but I suppose every couple is different
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I think no because I feel that after an affair, the trust is forever lost. He says that in some instances, yes, it could be good because it could do a few things for the failing marriage, for one, it could make you both see the love you really have for eachother, and for two, it could make the marriage stronger by making you try harder to pull it together. He said also, in cases of couples staying together Just for the kids, it could be an ok thing too.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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10 Dec 06
i have given you plus for your thought provoking answer, i like the idea of it making you both realise the love you have for one another
@WanderZ (107)
• Singapore
31 Mar 07
I got a way it would be good. An affair can help (rarely) when it help the other spouse learn that they have been a bit over the top in some things (like too much control) and change of attitude. Though this can almost never happen. Making the married couple relive their love.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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31 Mar 07
thank you for your response, it not only earned you a plus rating but makes a lot of sense to me
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