you are pregnant, not yet married, what do you do? do you Get rid of it? or....

well she's got to make some sacrifices...like what'll happen if she does register marriage..and what kind of parents r they who don't understand their child????

I think they both need to talk to their parents. If they both want to get married, then they should. I don't believe in abortion just because they were irresponsible and she got pregnant. But first they must talk to their parents and let them know what is going on.

i get pregnant first before we get married and even if he will not going to marry me i will not going to abort my baby. tell 2 ur friend that she should not get rid of the baby

Your friend has a responsibility, first and foremost, to protect and to take care of her unborn baby. Life begins at conception. If she kills her baby then has is doing murder. I would tell your friend to go ahead and to marry her boy friend. If her parents are agreed to the marriage, then fine, otherwise go ahead and get married anyway.

whether or not someone is married makes no difference as to how good a parent they are.

Hi, i think your friend and her boy friend are the best judges to decide upon this as, they are the parents and if they want to get married or not is their choice, we all can only suggest and express our views, which again will vary a lot here. Personally speaking i feel, that even if they are intercaste, there is no harm, as this is a common problem now a days and love sees no caste, so if they are interested and much in love, then they should not think twice and go ahead and get married soonest, whenever they get their parents blessings. Though i feel that the boy should talk to and convince his parents for a quick marriage, as shes expecting. And if all is well for her and if the boy is also ready, which does not happen in most cases, then she should go ahead and have her baby. There is no doubt regarding that. You should not even think of getting rid of it, its another life that is growing within you, and God has gifted this to you, we are no ones to get rid of that. Firstly we should alwasy take care that we dont land in such a situation and getting pregnant etc, all should come after marriage, but now that you are into it, there should not be a doubt to keep the baby and get married the soonest, but back of the mind always be prepared that maybe acceptance from his parents may take long, or it may never happen too, or maybe God forbid , if the boy also backs out, so always be ready for anything a despite all odds, be ready to raise your child single handedly.

she should take the help of some other elders (perhaps your parents can help) to convince her parents to get married with that boy . And let the baby grow . If abortion is necessary then it should be done by a Qualified Doctor . pls never go to the quacks ...

If your friend is sure that her boyfriend will marry her and wants to have the baby, then she should tell her parents the truth about her pregnancy. The boyfriend should also tell his parents. If both of them stick it out and insist on not aborting the child, I'm sure the parents will let them get married as soon as possible instead of having to wait till after the child is born.

I would prefer to have a child. I would not do any harm to her physical and the future child. She can take a long holiday for a while with her friend some where in the north or the south for giving a birth to a baby.

I'm not knowledgeable in intercast marriage but I'm not in favor of abortion, your friend should have the child either with their parent's belssing or not. A baby is a blessing in so many ways, her parents should not worry about what other people may say, what the heck, those people are not the ones who will burn in hell if they abort the baby. I got pregnant right after I got out of college, my boyfriend and I are not even married then. In our country there is a belief that if two siblings get married on the same year both of them will have bad luck on theri marriages, my brother got married one month before we found out that I'm pregnant. I'm living on my own that time and was afraid that my parents will get angry, so I hid the truth that I am pregnant and told them that I'll be going abroad for a few months. Eventually when I gave birth my boyfriend told my parents the truth and they were so happy with the news. With the blessing of our parents, we got married 4 months after I gave birth.

I dont understand the entire bit about killing her if they found out she was pregnant but hey that is your culture. Like soem others have said..if she has a boyfriend and they want to get married, they need to do as soon as possible before she starts to show. if she has JUST gotten pregnant the due date can be iffy. she can claim she got pregnant her wedding night!

She should have the baby, they new what they were doing when they laid down, there's always a chance of getting pregnant even with birth control. The parents will either except the situation or reject it. They weren't thinking about the parents when they got busy, they made the adult decission to do that!

You take the lead and talk to her parents, sort out the problems and your friend will be thankful to you throughout her life. It is better that the problems are cleared and get her married with her boyfriend instead of aborting. Baby is a best gift mankind can get, so, do not destroy it. You might not realise now, but you will realise later in life.

Talk to your parents, be bold enough to face them, explain them your liking towards the person and your condition. Do not kill the kid that is against mankind. That is not your job, take good care of that then you will be rewarded with a good life for yourself.

Thank GOD we don't have the Caste system in North America!!!! Don't make a child suffer because the parents don't agree, or because of the caste system. Don't let the baby rush the wedding either. It's no crime to keep a baby if you are not married. As long as they plan to get married, let them get married their way, when they want and how they want.