if you did something bad for your spouse what wil you do to make it up

What is good for man of the house, is bad for his wife. In a situation like, I help someone from my family does not get the approval of my wife. Similarly, my wife helps someone from her family, I donot approve. LIke this, minor skirmishes and misunderstandings always comes up and one should not make these as big issue. All these are settled with plain talking. No need to cajole for some genuine deed I have done. If really a mistake has been done, just ask her to be excused.