can you be just friends with someone ur in love with?
By pelya178
@pelya178 (693)
United States
December 12, 2006 2:44pm CST
i dont mean a crush. i mean if you both know one of you has feelings for the other. but u both dont feel the same way. do u think if ur that deeply in love with someone that u could handle being good friends. becuz that would mean they would share everything with u. even details about their love life. do you think its possible?
5 responses
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
17 Dec 06
You have to ask yourself this "Can I stand to see this person (who I am in love with) being with someone else?".
If the answer is "yes, it won't bother me" you're lying.
If the answer is "no, it would hurt too much" then no.
So the bottom line here is, NO.
Hope this helps.
@Script (592)
• Australia
13 Dec 06
In my experience it is possible, but incredibly hard. Ultimately things seem to come to a head. The friend realises you are in love with them and either pulls back or talks to you about what is going on.
At least when you can talk about what is going on your friend can know to be considerate about your feelings. When it is they are talking about their love life they may edit details so as not to stomp on your heart!!
It's a difficult situation to work through but at the end of the day you have to ask yourself do you want this friendship because you are in love or because you want a friendship? The lines become blurry and it's good to know why you want the friendship. And if it is that you truly want a friendship from the person, then you will manage to continue the friendship.
