What do I do to get my son to get better grades!!!!!!!!?

i have tried everything. money. taking things away. grounding. you name it i have tried it. do you want to know what worked. nothing. my son is very smart. has some learning problems, but is very lazy. doesnt like school. homework here is a nightmare. he has all special help at school. i look at it this way. he has only 4 more years till he graduates. i can only do so much and so can you. good luck we all need it. i think we should all write a book when we are done.

so you've tried punishment and it didn't work! why don't you go the other way?? try to give him temptational offers if he improve his grades..I'm sure this will work, as long as you are sure that he can do it and he has all the ability to get better grades if he wanted to,or if he did just more effort,well! you can make him much more interested if he got motivated..just try this out and I'm sure its gonna work!! good luck!

I can bet you it is not because he is too busy socializing , laziness, or trying to be the big cheese. He is most likely doing this because he is bored. I had the same problem. Boredom cause all of those actions, I didn't even realize it until I was way out of school. Don't take things from him or ground him. Challenge him. Try to make him step up his performance. Ask him to do more than is required. He will likely fight you in the beginning, but it will prove to him that he is worthy of the time he spends doing something.

Here is an incentive that worked for me back in school. Offer an amout of money for every grade example A=$30 B=$25 C=$20 D=$15 F=$0 Or adjust it according to what you feel they deserve.

Sorry to hear that dear, but have you sat down with him when he does his homework? I think he might need some company when he does his homework. I kind of makes him feels important. cathylmg http://govege.blogspot.com http://govegereceipes.blogspot.com http://www.angelfire.com/planet/mumslittlehelper

create the interest of your children on subject. and teach with the helop of computer

Mine just turned sixteen and is in the same boat. He's flunking three classes and now his backpack has been stolen from the car and he can't go back and makeup the missing work. This is the same kid that never even saw a c until last year. The notes I get say that he's not turning in his homework. We've even threatened to talk to his coach and make him drop crosscountry and track next year. I hope you get some helpful responses, because I need them too!

feed him almonds its an old chinese remedy to increase brain power feel ur kid almonds and spank him if he wastes time and dsnt study..beat the hell outta him and punish him if he watches tv, dont give him food for days and shave his head off if he pays too much of attention to his looks leave nothing in his life except books and almonds it wud work..guaranteed~!!

get rid of the television. get rid of all non scolastic book. lock up any toys (including play station or the like). password the computer. so the only time he can get on is with your help. Block all fun web sites from the computer or his account on the computer. You may need to find someone to help you on that one. He does not go anyware for 2-3 hours after school. Cut out some or all school activities. Allowed to see friend on weekend after 4 - 5 hours of study or when all homework and papers are done. work along these lines and he should start doing better. Will he resent it. Ofcourse he will. I just wish someone had done it for me when I was his age. Tell him play time is not a right it is a privlage. That is just a fact of life. I think he in not motivated enough to go against the grain of his friends who all just want to hang out and have a good time. This serves no purpose and is a waist of life.

Try having a serious talk with him without scaring him or make him feel uncomfortable.Make him calm down first.The reason he is getting F's is because he is not able to clam down and study properly.there are too many distraction like socialising.Try telling him that he can socialise as long as he understands what the teacher is teaching.Try to teach him how to divide his time.WITHOUT limiting his time to socialise.Tell him that he needs to complete his homework or study a CHAPTER.(don't say study for 2 hours kids don't like time limitations.)When he settles down he will be able to study.(DON't PUT THE CLOCK OR ANY TIME ON THE TABLE)Guide him along and make sures he understand by giving him small amount of practices.And when he has confident of solving the first few questions,he will probably find it fun and contiune and in no time he will complete the whole chapter of the textbook of whatever subject.

I remember raising my twin sons and watching other parents while doing so. My sons are now in their early 30's and doing fine. Honors academy or not, bright or dull, sooner or later the priorities set by nature are not going to be the same as yours. A bright, normal son or daughter has alot of other things going on besides school and activities...they are becoming adults. The internal clock of human development doesn't take a back seat just because it would be more convenient...and lead to good grades. Of course the work isn't too hard. but it does take up too much of his time and energy, and it is HIS life that is the focus here. Not parental aspirations. Many times it is best to place a fellow in this situation back into regular classes. I am thinking more of long term results, not the next grading period. Your relationship with him, and his relationship with himself, will determine more about his overall future than his ability to get really great grades in an honors program. Good mental and emotional hygiene and knowing that his parents will not manipulate him for their own ends, will serve all of you better than any attempts to push him where he will not go. The general air of verbal parental disapproval in these circumstances, causes alot of permanent damage ESPECIALLY in those who are bright. One of the first things to get damaged is trust. He needs to trust that you will find him a worthwhile human whether or not he is in the honors program. He needs to see that you are not going to manipulate him "for his own good"....because he will see that it is not for his own good, but to save you from a disappointment of some type. As far as "allowing" him a particular type of behaviour, he is too old for that approach. He can adapt to consequences, which means he will adapt when he is out on his own. You really don't have to worry about his future, it is his...not yours. A good thing to do is to stop talking and insisitng. You are training him to tune you out. Sit down and figure out what things YOU must have in the home, to keep life sane...NOT to have your idea of a good son. Work on those first. Maneuver around those things that are invitations for confrontation. His room is messy? Shut the door and move on. If his behaviour is not acceptable, then remove those things that you bought him...and they never return. He can earn back everything in his bedroom if need be, and there is no law against that. Take the emotional part out of the equation, because that is where the conflict festers. Use a point system, marble jars, or some other external tool that mirrors law enforcement and traffic law, he will have to learn that anyway. Don't take him learn to drive if his behaviour doesn't improve at a consistent rate and remain at a certain level. You determine what that will look like. This is not the manipulation of saying "if you do x you will be rewarded with y". It is "these are the logical consequences of your actions". He knows a threat when he hears it...so stop letting him hear it....and just go to the consequence. You said he knows better, then just assume he knows the consequences and stop trying to convince him he wants to avoid them. Once you get a nice, quiet system in place you have a foundation to work from. It looks like treating him like a child is no longer appropriate. He needs to stand up and take it like a man.

I think he might be trying to fit in with his peers. Some kids at this rebel against there parents because they think they are uncool and such. He will grow out of it. My advice is to continue what you are doing and to pray for him. While I don't have any teenagers of my own. My mom pushed me to be the person I am today. Good luck.

Sit down with him every night and put forth the effort to make sure hes getting everything done. Make him show you all the work he has to get done and make him show you when hes "done it".THEN LET HIM GO OUT AND PLAY. And when he pulls the "They didnt give me any home work" thing call his teachers and ask. Just make his life a little more crappy till he finds out he has to do work. AND DONT JUST THREATEN AND NOT DO ANYTHING! That never works especially because he knows he can get away with it.

Honestly, I'd have him work at McDonald's or some similar type of job on the weekend or a time that does not conflict with his school studies. I am sure at some point he will understand what you mean about his future and his choices. Gl, 15 is a tough age to parent and a tough age to be!

This must be so frustrating for you! One oddball suggestion which may not work: 9th grade (around here, anyway) does not actually affect university admission unless you actually fail. Why not just let your son get a few bad grades, and then he can see the consequences of just goofing off? Set a low point: say a C or a C+ at which he is grounded, and then just don't bring it up unless he asks for help. Maybe if you are always reminding him to do his work, he doesn't feel as responsible about it, because he feels like it's your job to make him do it, rather than his job to try to do it. I really don't know. Most of the kids I work with are quite anxious about their grades.

You see the option I give you may be the one which no one would have said. But in order to make it work successfully you must make your son to do a job. You say he is 15. So don't let him go to school for a year. I hope that it is waste sending him to school as you said he is not studying. Make him stay back in home and ask him to do jobs and most importantly don't ever make him interact with his friends most often. Just allow him on some days. Make him to feel how difficult the manual jobs will be. Then he will automatically study from the next year. This is the case that we had in our home for my brother. But I hope it may be different in your country. But make sure you don't follow all instructions that I have given. Make some adjustments and please consult about this to any other person because the case may be different in your country. So I hope it will make him lonely and if you love your son too much you have to control yourself.

there other things this child is good at doing concerntrate on those areas

First off, is it possible he has a learning disability of some kind? My sister is brilliant and all through her school career teachers blamed her low grades on her being lazy. Turned out she was dyslexic. And yeah, not that interested in doing school work when all her hard work didn't amount to anything. Secondly, some people just aren't academically inclined. Seme go on to University, some are happier working with their hands. It's not an issue of intelligence, just inclination.

If you are 100% sure he is capable of the grade-level work he is being assigned, is not struggling with comprehension, and is not dealing with organizational issues, then the next best move is to try to find ways to positively reinforce the behavior you desire -- in this case good grades and school success. Punishing him and taking stuff away is apparently not working, because he is just bucking against you. He is finding a foothold and is happy with the way things are as they stand. Get together with his teacher and brainstorm ways to motivate him so that in the end he feels like he is the one choosing to change.

I am one of those kids.....I was a late bloomer and still am, I usually don't post too long of things but seeing as how I have insight ti think i can help. You children mentally are too smart for the school systems, the ting that can help is finding some "special" advanced children program so that they can be with other advanced children, and hopefully ggrow a bit faster mentally...sooner or later they will wise up like i did and start to find their way, I wised up and within one weeek of putting myself to it found an engineering job without even having my associated yet... so keep on then set a guidline, use some ind of list, most likely they are so fast mentally that they are taking in too many projects. consider them sponges they take in anything and evrything...they may be taking in too much..DO NOT put your children on mediaction it hampers the mind, help their minds grow not hinder them..