Do you believe in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater?"

United States
September 20, 2006 4:49pm CST
I do. What are your views on this?
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256 responses
• United States
21 Sep 06
I don't think so. I've cheated ONCE and have NEVER done it again. I'm afraid cheating will only hurt me more. It has before and I will never do it again. It's not worth losing the person you love and that respects you. Maybe if you cheat often is because your not really in love.
• United States
23 Oct 06
Ooh What a jerk! Add insult to injury! Good thin you divorced him!
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• India
23 Oct 06
totally agree ..
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• Indonesia
23 Oct 06
Yup...I with you mom...
@browneyes (395)
• United States
21 Sep 06
I do to also. Or at least by watching my father in law. He is on his third wife now. and still has not changed. :(
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• United States
19 Nov 06
Thank you for your response.
@i_agree_but (1185)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Oct 06
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@hppygrrrl (419)
• United States
21 Sep 06
I am 50/50 on this! I know people who have always been cheaters, but the other half of people may have cheated once but would never do it again....hhhmmm
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• India
23 Oct 06
hhhmmmmm..
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@stampik (147)
• Poland
24 Oct 06
I think 75% people who cheated do it again
• United States
24 Oct 06
75% is still a high number. Thank you for your response.
@baileym11 (888)
• United States
24 Oct 06
Actually I don't. I believe that people are fully capable of learning from their mistakes. If they weren't, what would be the point of living?
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• United States
24 Oct 06
Yes but some people aren't fully WILLING to learn from their mistakes. Thanks for the response.
@wavelander (1528)
• Portugal
23 Oct 06
well, in most of the cases it happens but everyone deserves a second chance!
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• United States
23 Oct 06
So after that second chance you think they will always be a cheater?
@LadyElektra (1079)
• Canada
23 Oct 06
I think it depends on the person's self confidence..if they gain confidence after cheating maybe they wont do it again
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• United States
24 Oct 06
Wouldn't the extra confidence come from just knowing someone else wanted them? You wouldn't have to cheat to get the extra confidence. I think flattery of being noticed builds more confidence than being intimate with a person.
@TDonald (1422)
• United States
13 Oct 06
If that were true, then the possibility of someone making better choices in the future, wouldn't exist. Is that true?
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• United States
23 Oct 06
For some the possibility of making better choices doesn't exist. Some people are just so set in their ways it doesn't matter to them what they do or who they hurt.
@Lillith (775)
• United States
21 Sep 06
My personal feelings on this have more to do with the reason someone cheats in the first place. But there are many people who will do it over and over again if they keep getting away with it or forgiven by their partners. I do feel that there can be those just once situations, but those are most likely more in the minority.
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• United States
23 Oct 06
I just don't see how people can be so weak to let their partners cheat on them again and again and not do anything about it and still stand by them 100%.
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@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
21 Sep 06
this is a difficult one but veiwing it from our human natare i think it will be very very hard not to cheat. but we can still break it though lol.
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@stampik (147)
• Poland
24 Oct 06
I'm cheating... hmm only in HL
@rosebug23 (1909)
• Australia
24 Oct 06
I think give a person a second chance but i have known a few ppl that have cheated said sorry never again i really love you then cheated again. that same person s wife divorced him he married the woman he was cheating with and was then caught cheating again with another women.I pesonally have never cheated nor has my husband of 39yrs but we both know ppl that have cheated numerice times so yes i have to agree with you i would never marry someone who was cheating on their patener with me as i figure if he cheated with me he could just as easily cheat on me
@jmp824 (741)
• Philippines
24 Oct 06
Nope, I dont believe that once a cheater, always be a cheater. Theres always room for change. Give that somebody the chance to realize that cheating will do no good, to him/her or to everybody.
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@twmoores (567)
• United States
24 Oct 06
yes... If they werent committed to the relationship to beging with what them more committed after they cheated?
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@twmoores (567)
• United States
24 Oct 06
from a working moms forum... kind of cool huh
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• United States
24 Oct 06
I never say " always". Things & people can change if they want to.
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@priju20 (416)
• India
24 Oct 06
no i dont believe in that cheating is a human flaw is can change
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@Ljorge (1488)
• United States
24 Oct 06
yes, i do. I don't condone cheating. I have been lucky enough to never cheated on the person i was with. But, i have to say if you have cheated on somene its a higher probability that it will happen again.
@heartonfire (4128)
• Denmark
23 Oct 06
it depends,i think we learn from our mistakes and if that person realises it was a mistake he will not do it again risking the love of his partner..i can tell from my own experience that cheating only brings more confused feelings,and lots of pain and problems for all the 3 persons involved..
@Cortney (3982)
• United States
23 Oct 06
I have know some people that have cheated on every person they have been with.. I have known only 1 or 2 that have cheated once and they felt so bad they would never do it again. I could never cheat.. I couldn't hurt someone like that
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• United States
23 Oct 06
I don't believe that saying at all! I cheated once and only once in a previous relationship and I would never do it with my husband. I love him more than life. Also he cheated on me when we first met and has never done it since.