When was the hardest time in your life

@_hope_ (3902)
Australia
December 13, 2006 4:44pm CST
I really don`t know my own answer to this one yet My childhood wasn`t pretty with lots of abuse which still haunts me today. My working years were so lonely living away from everyone. Married life was good for a while, then came the kids.Times have benn really tought in rearing them and it`s not over yet Looking to the future i`m hoping that it will improve
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
14 Dec 06
Hmmm there are a few hard times I could tell you.This one would have to be the worst though.When I was 17 my parents split up,ok that's not too bad right,it happens every day.There was more to come.I had a relative come to my work telling me that I had to get to the hospital fast as my father had stabbed my mother and they didn't know if she would survive.I got to the hospital only to be told my mother hadn't made it.Then came the trial.We went through the trial only for there to be a hung jury,the judge had no choice but to call a miss-trial.So we had to have another trial.My father was found guilty of manslaughter and his sentance was 6 years.As he had already done 3 years because of the miss-trial he was out in 3 years.This mongrel gets to continue his life while my mother is gone.There is no justice in this world!
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
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My dearest friend what can i say except that i really feel for you to loose your mum under such tragic circumstances and for you to to have to see that at such a young age
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
this is where the justice system is failing us in cases like these
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@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
14 Dec 06
That is horrible! I can't believe he got out so soon either.
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@14missy (3183)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
I think we all have had some pretty horrible times but what is really awful to one is not too bad to another. Whatever the hurt and pain that you have all gone through, know that you are out the other side now and you have survived!! Look only to the great times and even the just not too bad times and you will feel blessed!
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
16 Dec 06
missy if the memories would just go away then we would have no problems then maybe we could live life as god intended but mine was not good at all
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
16 Dec 06
missy what i have been through i would not like to be made that public
@14missy (3183)
• Australia
16 Dec 06
Know there are lots of people willing to listen and sometimes all you need is a good vent! At least it will get you through another day!
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@missyann73 (1454)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I have to say that for the past two years, this has been the hardest for me. My mother has terminal lung cancer and I have been her caregiver for the last 9 months, and it is a journey that I wish on no one. Cancer is such a nasty disease.
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• United States
14 Dec 06
Cancer is a nasty disease as my Grandma passed away in 1993 from bone cancer. I feel for you. God bless you.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
13 Dec 06
I would have to say the hardest years of my life were when I was a single mum with 2 small children, and trying to deal with working, caring for my children with little or no support, while their father made a new life in another state. And dealing with the stigma that came with being a single parent, but I have the last laugh there, as my children have grown up to be 2 fine young adults and financially secure!
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
13 Dec 06
caramello well done you are a remarkable lady and you will enjoy your children and they you for the strength and determination you have
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
i don`t get paid for my house work and never have done i look after the house and the children but your wife would definately like to have a break now and then even going on a family picnic would be nice once a week make her feel special being a housewife and a full time mum can be very draining
• United States
14 Dec 06
It is really a though job to raise children. We have three 16,12,3 and I can tell that my wife is going through a lot of this hardship. She always wants me to be there, well not that I do not want to, but someone has to bring money in the house - hence I go to work. Lately she says that looks like she is not getting the same respect from others in the family as I get (because she is not paid for her house work). For me this conversations are ugly and I would like to hear from you if you had similar experience and how did you deal with it.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
13 Dec 06
Mom - I luv you mom heart
When I was looking after my mother, she had alzheimers and I had a full time job at the same time, it became too much for me mentally and I broke down and the hardest part was having to put my mother in a Nursing Home and then to see her so unhappy until she passed away..
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
13 Dec 06
alzheimers is such a horrible disease it robs a person of everything and to go through this with your mum would of been so draining
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@ngm_syd (1087)
• India
14 Dec 06
SO far i did not experience good time in my life. Thank you
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
that is sad to hear that
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
Living with a physically and emotionally abusive boyfriend and giving my daughter up for adoption so that he couldn't hurt her. That was pretty brutal. My life now is amazing. I have supportive friends, a wonderful husband, a house of my very own - and my daughter sought me out and is a part of my life again. None of this could have been possible without what went before. But it still haunts me sometimes.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
to live through the abuse would if been so hard and frightening but the heartacke you endured in giving up your baby would of been so horrific.what a wonderful mother you you are to do that for your daughter the courage it would of taken . THE JOY TO FIND HER AND HAVE HER BACK IN YOUR LIFE WOULD OF BEEN WONDERFUL I WISH YOU ALL THE HAPPINESS FOR THE FUTURE
• United States
14 Dec 06
You did the right thing by giving your daughter up.. hey, it saved her life. I am so glad that your life is now back on track, and that your daughter sought you out.
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
14 Dec 06
The hardest time in my life was when I was in junior high and all the years before high school. I had very few friends and the kids were always making fun of me and putting me down because of my race and my small eyes and my last name. It was very painful back then.
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
kgwat well it`s great to see you have survived.One thing with kids they can be so cruel and it`s usually only a few the rest just follow them as they want to be in their group .You have grown from this experience and become a much stronger person you will care more deeply of others
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@msqtech (15074)
• United States
20 Dec 06
when my wife was sick through the time she passed on
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
may she rest peacefully now forever
• New Zealand
15 Dec 06
I can't choose which is the most hardest time. I have had a lot of hard times. I think one of the hardest times would be now... the pain of the past haunting me. Maybe it was easier for me back when it happened, than it is now. I don't know.
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@msqtech (15074)
• United States
20 Dec 06
loss of family you love will probably be the worst
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
16 Dec 06
You have friends who care Ally and we will help you through your hard times and rejoice in your joys! hugs my friend.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
16 Dec 06
my dear friend we are there to help you and together we can beat your pain or ease it atleast
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
14 Dec 06
So far, I think the hardest time in my life was when I was coming out as a lesbian to myself. I knew it would disappoint my parents and I was so mad at myself at first. I wanted to just die. I even thought of ways to kill myself. I'm not all that attached to my parents, but I was still sad to be disappointing them. When I finally accepted myself, I was so happy. Now, I am proud to be a lesbian and quite glad to be one. Otherwise, I would not have a wonderful girlfriend.
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@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I wish my parents really were "only a little shocked". Instead what happened was, I told them and my parents didn't believe it at first, but then the news hit my mom and she was going nuts and had a nervous breakdown, had to go to the hospital and only came home because she was very heavily sedated. After that, she spoke to some nutjob shrink that told her she should try to change me because gay people are more depressed, and that it wasn't too late, because people don't truly decide their sexualities until they are 25. Thanks a lot to that jerk, because now I'll have to tell her again in a few years!
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• United States
14 Dec 06
Gee, your parents shouldn't be disappointed in you. If my daughter ever comes to me and tells me she is a lesbian, I'll be a little shocked at first, but I will get over it quickly. I will love her no matter what, and I will never judge her.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
i would of been dissappointed if my daughter had come to me and told me that to but then we are all different it doesn`t change who we are and my daughter is still my daughter .SORRY YOUR PARENTS TOOK IT SO BAD
@otshock (271)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I moved to a different state where the only person I knew was my boyfriend. My boyfriend lost his job. I had to walk to anywhere I needed to go (with my 3 year old son in tow). I had a wagon (or a sled in winter) to haul him and the groceries, etc. We had a freezer, but no refrigerator. We had no furniture to speak of. We slept on the floor. I washed clothes in the bathtub (bluejeans tear up your hands, by the way), and hung them out to dry. In winter I had to hang them in the house. All we could afford to eat most of the time was Ramen noodles. It was pretty rough. Thank God my life has gotten easier! lol
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
it must of been hard for you all but it`s good to se you are doing ok now
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• United States
14 Dec 06
...For me, the hardest time in my life was when my mother got sick, also, my father, i dont know what to do, because both of them experience severe pain in their stomach...since im the eldest, i have to care for my parents, brothers and sisters...inspite of many things to do in school because that time, im candidate as class valedictorian, so i have to do it at the same time, more on time management...and i have make it...my mother has been cured, also my father and the thing that gave me more courage is that when our teacher announced that im the class valedictorian...i am only 12 years old then when i experience this hard times...but still i have made it through the help of my faith to GOd.
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@Dawn16 (12)
• United States
14 Dec 06
You have really gone through alot, especially for your age. Your positive attitude and testimony of your faith, are very encouraging. I am glad that your parents are now well. And, being class valedictorian is a big accomplishment. I am sure, your family is very proud of you. Keep up the good work!
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
Sometimes when there seems nothing more we can do god gives us the strength to cary on you have shown this by your stort you are truely amazing and your parents must be so proud of you .For you to continue your studies will what you have delt with shows maturity well above your age .God bless and keep you safe .
@volatile (204)
• United States
14 Dec 06
When my father's gas station burned to the ground. My dad is the classic father figure. Doesn't say much...doesn't show much emotion. But on that day I saw him sobbing because he didn't know how he was going to provide for me and my brother. It affected me because he would wake up 4 in the morning and not come home till 11 at night. When I helped him out I saw him work in 90+ degree temperature in the garage working with no AC. I saw him with cuts and burns on his body from the cars. He never complained or quit. So to see him cry affected me emotionally.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
what a wonderful day to have how proud you must be just goes to show you his love for his family
• India
20 Dec 06
result time
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
that would of been so hard the waiting i hope you achieved your goals
@beverly1 (1128)
• United States
14 Dec 06
me when i was about 13 when some one try to touch me in the wroug place and other ones to there was 12 of us and that person went to jail and he got out long time ago but he cant come there any of us. i get worry becouse i dont know what he looks like now he can be any one
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
at least he was charges my attackers were not i couldn`t go through all the court thing and three of them i don`t know who they were
@ZowieR (940)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
baby - ergt
ITs ahrd to say theres a lot of up and down probably from 15 to 18, I moved once of twice at least a year, and none of the places were good, or fit. Also givign birth was somthing you just cant hold a candle to.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
no zowier giving birth is a miracle on its own and you have a wonderful beautiful baby there you have done so well
@kakuemmom (859)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
For me i think it was when my husband and i were first married with our first child and both of us got laid of just before christmas. We had no money and a little one. Thank goodness we had good friends who in our time of need were there to help with groceries and support. It was about 6 months before my hubby was able to find a decent job I was babysitting for a neighbour so the money was real rough for a while. I remeber chritmas morning with only a small gift under the tree. Our daughter was only a baby so it really didn't matter anyway. But it was a sad day and many sad months after too. But i believe hard times make you stronger and we grew together over that time and learned many lessons and are doing fine these days.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
16 Dec 06
you do grow stronger for the experience and become a more caring person for it
@ru88en (2997)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
This fast few month and this present is what I consider the hardest time of my life. I am brook and with great debt. Sometimes, I really cannot understand how this things happen. The situation today is that my salary cannot afford to support my family basic needs. I am suppose not to have this kind of problem for I live a simple life with not expensive lifestyle. My gross salary is suppose to offer more than enough for my family but my salary is with a lot deduction from my loans and standard deductions, leaving only about 25%. This financial problem has already made a sting in my relationship with my wife. And I agree, this is my fault. One year ago, I was scam with 12dailypro amounting to 6 gross salary, my two credit cards keep adding surcharge and later charges. It should not be this way for I live a simple living and earning more than enough salary and possesses great talent. Life is very hard now as I cannot meet my utility bills. And sometimes my wife wants to leave me to go back to her parents. I'ts all my fault. I am now working, trying to make a living online to add up my income. I promise myself, I will get out of debt next year. Just worried if my wife can still wait that long and can trust me that much.
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
I`m sure you will reach your goals but you need to talk to your wife and let her know what you are doing join her in and she will understand whats happening
• India
14 Dec 06
Ya, when I was at highschool days, that was my hardest part of life. Now all is over. I am living a happy life.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
that has been a difficult time for a lot of people but glad to hear you have recovered
@ksblrnet (75)
• India
14 Dec 06
I have so many hardest time in my life. Once I had everything in my life (house, car, money, relatives etc). I don't know what happens with me. Now I don't have anything because of a business failure. I think my hardest time in my life is for the last 5 years.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
15 Dec 06
I have come to the conclusion that life will throw lots of difficulties at us and we will overcome them and grow stronger from them .take each day as it comes and expect the unexpected from it