Do We over Spoil Our Children?
By Island_Geko
@Island_Geko (3758)
Canada
December 13, 2006 10:33pm CST
Have we as Parents crossed the line when it comes to gifts and over spoiling our Children at Christmas and Birthday? Do Children expect to much from us? When I was growing up what I go was what I got and I was happy for it even if it was underwear or sox but today if we even dare give children those types of gifts there will be hell to pay!
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@Island_Geko (3758)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
but that doesn't mean we have to spoil them rotten, we have to teach them values and understanding like Jesus taught his people, that posestions are not what counts in life but family, love and friends.
@jeffaim (215)
• United States
14 Dec 06
right on, gecko! I think it's important to give children all the love they need, along with respect and understanding, but not everything they WANT. It's not a parent's job to make their children happy (that's for grandparents), but to raise them and teach them values so that they can be happy on their own when they grow up. If they expect others to make them happy all the time, they will be in for a rude awakening later in life!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
14 Dec 06
I suppose in a sense we have but today is a different world to what we had as well and lets be honest they are only Children once aren't they so why not
Mine are grown up now but sometimes I wish they where still little lol so I could spoil them again
@lilttownmommie (1473)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I think that most people today spoil their children with out even realizing it, I know that mine are spoiled, and I didn't even do it, lol, my kids have so much family that buys so much stuff for them, I don't even have to do the spoiling, I mean even people buying 1 thing for them they get 5,000 in total, but I am guilty of buying too much too
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@Island_Geko (3758)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
Should be advertizer be held acountable? Is is a form of abuse? thanks for the post
@Island_Geko (3758)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
i have no idea and i don't want to find out....thanks for th post
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
14 Dec 06
Now don't you just hate it when your post disappears. I just wrote a long one and it's gone. Let's see if I can say it again.
I fight very hard not to give my kids everything they ask for. They want everything and never seem to be satisfied. And what's worse is their friends always have more than them. We don't have televisions in bedrooms, cell phones or video game consoles. I don't believe in televisions in the bedroom.
Getting underwear and socks for Christmas is practical. They are always in need of those things. Heck, I put them on my own Christmas list. Last year my girls laughed when they got deodorant in their stocking. I told them everyone gets deodorant in their stocking. They didn't believe me until we went to visit relatives and they saw the contents of their cousins' stockings - deodorant!
I try very hard to teach my kids the value of a dollar. It's hard when they have a father who loves to spend money... and spoil his children.
@Island_Geko (3758)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
It is hard especially with friends who come from money I know that but I never really payed attention to it....but today it is hard to ignore for kids when it is shoved in their faces and thats not fair. thanks for the post.
@onesiobhan (1327)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
Who is "we"?
Some people spoil their kids. Some people don't. I don't think it's possible to lump together an entire generation and claim that they are all the same.
@Island_Geko (3758)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
thanks you for the response, I understand, not all do it but there some that buy their children love.
